I need to break up with my mother

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I have just joined this group because after 39 years of physical, verbal, and

psychological abuse by my BPD mother, I am ready to cut off all ties.

I haven't spoken with her since I asked her to leave my home after a " 2 week

visit " in July of '09 turned into a 9 month stay despite asking her to leave

because of her behavior in my home. It is much too long of a story to explain

how she manipulated her way into being here so long.

Anyway, I haven't spoken with her since taking her to her home in another town

(across the state) in March. However, she is " stalking me " by phone. Sometimes

the calls are no more than 3 or 4 minutes apart and she " bounces " them from home

phone to cell and back. She calls at least 3 times a day and often 5 or 6 times

each day. She calls my husband, sister, sister-in-law, etc. to try to get to

me.

I need to break free from her because she does not want to change and does not

see that she has serious problems. Her cruelty and breakdowns are always my

fault (of course). She is not healthy for my family, and she refuses to accept

that I do not want to speak to her. What is my next step? Is it okay to call

her and say " I am no longer interested in having a relationship with you. Your

selfishness and anger have hurt me enough, and I am no longer willing to take on

the guilt that you push on me " ? Is there a better way to " break up " with your

69 year old mother?