Fairness (Re: difficult people and their influence on my mental state)

June 3, 2010

I can work for what is right and causes that I believe in, but in the end, if I

don't have compassion on a daily basis what good is it?

I still believe it is important to work causes that I believe in, but also, I

guess it may be more important to protect myself by acting calm and not letting

others incite me into a fight. The issue isn't really whether to fight for

causes or not, the issue is how do I best protect myself on a day to day basis.

Just not something I grew up with: the concept of self protection and

preservation.

I do think God is just, in a way that's not the same as human justice. Human

justice is kind of tit for tat, and eye for an eye. Whereas God blesses us in

every moment. We are survivors, but we are also blessed to know what we have

survived, and to have names for BPD and all the associated behavior. Other

people in my FOO are still living that hell day to day. It's a blessing to be

lifting myself out of it mentally, although still painful...

It's hard to judge. I guess only God can judge certain things, justice always

seems to involve a lot of judging, doesn't it?

Well, surviving, here I go into another day...

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> I somewhat agree with his point, but please let me try to sum it up in a much

simpler statement: Don't look outward for proof of humanity,kindness, and

integrity, look inward. If you are dealing with business, there is a thing

called 'the fair trade act' to protect your money, assets, or labor. There is NO

SUCH THING when it comes to human morality.(Although God knows there should be!)

Unfortunately, God gave us the free will to decide how we are going to treat

others.I truly believe that God is going to even things out in the end. We

survivors are screaming for retribution, someone to say, 'Hey, what happened to

you was UNFAIR!' Why do we survivors seem to be the only ones screaming about

how UNFAIR our treatment was? Why does it seem that the perpetrators always get

away with such appalling behavior? I think it's only natural that we need some

closure. We unfortunately tend to look for it here on earth. We are ultra aware

of everyone else's unfair behavior. If you can, tell yourself that God has a

doosie of a plan for the abusers, and boy are we survivors gonna have cake and

ice cream! It will help you to feel more closure and retribution. Then you can

" let go and let God. " Much love.

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