Your obsession with your mother is ruining our marriage

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Him: You need to stop with your obsession.

Me: What obsession?

Him: Your mother. It's all you talk about. You need to move on.

Me: I don't ever talk about it with you. If you didn't overhear my

conversations with other people you wouldn't even know I was thinking about it.

Him: You think I'm like your mother and it's ruining us.

Me: When have I ever said anything to make you think that? I don't think you're

anything like her.

Him: That's why you don't like me sitting at your computer when your email is up

and why you freak out when I go through your phone.

Me: So what? I don't like people looking at those things, why would you keep

doing it when you know it bothers me?

Him: You need to get over this obsession because its made us both miserable.

You have a T now so you can bitch to her all day long.

Me: You mean the marriage counselor? She's both of our T.

Him: She's not mine, you go by yourself and talk about how bad your mommy was.

*sigh* I can see him freaking out because he doesn't want to go to counseling,

I can also see I'm probably at the end of my marriage, what really bothers me is

being told I spend too much time talking about my " bad mommy issues " . I'm

making connections in a way I was never able to before and it's not like I can

count on him for emotional support with this.

So frustrated!