Guest guest Posted October 10, 2000 Report Share Posted October 10, 2000 Don, That makes total sense. One thing that totally sticks out in my mind was when I went for frozen yogurt after being on Craig for over a year, and NEVER cheated. This was my FIRST time out getting something off Craigs " menu " . I had the guilt feeling running through my mind the entire time, but I chose fat free yogurt with fresh strawberries. As I took my second bite, a van full of punks were driving by (I was at the beach), and yelled " HEY, LOOK, A BEACHED WHALE! " ....I simply took my spoon out of my mouth and yelled " I MAY BE FAT, BUT YOU'RE UGLY, AND I CAN LOSE WEIGHT! " ...then I threw my yogurt out, and ran crying to my car. I got it off my chest, but that just pissed me off big time. I also have noticed that I tend to notice more people now that are overweight. Does anyone else do this? I sometimes wonder if I'm being wicked selfish, but if I see someone who is morbid, it's almost as if I want them to know their options. I know that sounds terrible, I don't know these people or if they've even had surgery, or contemplated, or simply know about it, but I find my self noticing it more, and comparing myself to others. Is this bad? I will sometimes say to Ralph, " Babe, am I bigger or smaller than x,y, or z? " ...just because I don't know what I look like. Yes, I see myself daily, but I sometimes shock myself when I see my reflection, and say " The glass must be off " , or make some other excuse. Why can't I accept the change?!?!?! Sorry to ramble, but you're right...it's a big can of worms! Dawn Re: Post op life changes Pam, It sounds right but I didn't want to give the impression that I am looking for a fight or that my guard is up all the time. It's just that people feel that they can say anything to overweight people and get away with it. When they say they didn't mean it like that, I ask then what did they mean? Or if they say that I'm more sensitive now, I say " Not more sensitive, just more aware. " The very fact that you called them on it real make them realize what a stupid thing they have said and that you have feelings as well. Your true friends will realize it and apologize. Boy Russ, You opened up a can of worms with this one? I glad he asked because it makes for a lively discussion don't you think Pam? Don Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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