Birth Order...Is the youngest child taken advantage of?

July 1, 2010

I had an ah ha moment today while checking on my dementiad Nada (not the mama).

For the fourth time this morning, she made a negative comment about someone and

added that, " They must have been the baby of the family...spoiled, didn't

amount to anything, and all that. "

Well, guess what? I was the baby of the family. I am also the one that picked up

all her pieces, kept the family going, took care of my dad for her after his

brain surgery, took care of her when she was sick, helped her after the death of

her mother. And even then, I found out years later that she had divided her

mothers inheritance and given it all to my nc brother and sister. I had gotten

nothing! Is that her idea of controlling who amounts to " nothing " in the family?

Oh, I take it back...I got to " borrow " grandmas' old bed frame and

dresser because I was getting married and needed a bed. Let me guess she felt

guilty like she should buy us one and so opted to give us one used.

I was not allowed the money...because heaven forbid, I was the baby and might

end up in the end with more than anyone else. I don't see how that math adds up

anywhere.

Over the years, with each death of a family member, I've watched my

siblings build larger and better homes, and drive better cars, and travel around

the world ...moving up financially in

life. While, I was given no help whatsoever. And in fact, the 9,000.oo dollars

put aside for my down payment on a home was given wo my sister at the last

moment. Because, she needed it & after all the baby might get more than her.

" Oh, well. That's too bad. " my mom said & gave it to someone who had already

had help in purchasing three homes.

I don't know why I didn't leave the family, long ago, out of respect for myself.

I had just been raised to believe all of my life, that I had no value and thus

did not deserve what the others got. I was flawed because my birth father was

not theirs and he loved me (possibly a little more than the children my mother

had with another man) and

because I was the youngest. Well, they couldn't make a mistake of spoiling me.

All I can say is What IDIOTS! And what Ingrates for all the work I have done for

their family.

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