Guest guest Posted June 6, 2010 Report Share Posted June 6, 2010 Thanks Jakie. I will look for that book. Yes , she is mentally ill and sick. I really don't even like her. ________________________________ To: WTOAdultChildren1 Sent: Thu, June 3, 2010 10:04:10 AM Subject: Re: new to group  welcome. Why do you need to forgive her ? I will never forgive my mother...that doesn't mean I hate her, that doesn't mean I am holding a grudge, I just know she is not repentant, and will always try to hurt me, so I dont give her the chance...Understanding the Borderline Mother is another great book ( Lawson) You just have to remember she is mentally ill and it's not you , it's HER...you aren't a bad person, you aren't at fault...she is just irrational and does insane things... Jakie Hi, My mom was diagnosed with bpd. I just finished Stop Walking on Eggshells. It helped explain the pain, depression, eating disorder & control which has consumed most of my 58 yrs. ? I have accepted that mom was truly mentally ill due to her pbd.but what do I do with all the pain. I know I need to forgive her (she is 82 and her bpd is stronger than ever confiding to her therapist that she is jelous of me, mom is in a nursing home and the nurse shared this with me). Thanks any advice is helpful. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2010 Report Share Posted June 6, 2010 For me, when I realized the mental illness, it was about grieving that. It's like we have to come to the realization of being orphans and grieve that. > > Hi, My mom was diagnosed with bpd. I just finished Stop Walking on Eggshells. It helped explain the pain, depression, eating disorder & control which has consumed most of my 58 yrs. ? I have accepted that mom was truly mentally ill due to her pbd.but what do I do with all the pain. I know I need to forgive her (she is 82 and her bpd is stronger than ever confiding to her therapist that she is jelous of me, mom is in a nursing home and the nurse shared this with me). Thanks any advice is helpful. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 17, 2010 Report Share Posted July 17, 2010 At 08:35 PM 07/16/2010 TJ wrote: >I'm new here...what does NADA mean? " Nada " is what we call our mothers who don't act motherly. " Fada " is the corresponding word for fathers who don't act fatherly. -- Katrina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 14, 2012 Report Share Posted June 14, 2012 Hi everyone, I have been lurking reading all the post. Boy I don't know where to start. I'm a 54 year old married woman. I was granted social security last October. Thank god. So I'm home everyday now. In 2007 I had what I thought was a stroke, but it wasn't. The hospital was horrible and there was no neurologist. I was there for 3 days paralyzed below the waist. The feeling came back and I could walk after about 2 weeks. It was horrible. Since then it has been one thing after another. After going to San Francisco, my diagonis was that the T-2 through T-4 discs are pushed into my spinal cord, causing it to tether. The pain in my upper back is unbearable most days. For the last few months my hands and fingers hurt so bad from stage 4 arthritis. I already have had hand surgery. It didn't help. I think it made it worse. Now I have no health insurance. I've been going to a pain clinic for 4 years and pay over 100.00 cash each visit. I now take methadone. I hate it, but have no choice as without it I'd just cry and go crazy from pain. I'm extremely depressed. I also had thyroid cancer. I was treated but have had no follow up care since I have no insurance. Most days I feel as though I'm dying slowly. Blah blah. Gosh I just could go on but I won't. I can't stand all of my own story. lol. Well, I just wanted to introduce myself and say hello to you all and wish you all a pain free day. Terry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 14, 2012 Report Share Posted June 14, 2012 Hi Terry~ I'm Anne (42) married and have an almost 9 year old daughter. I have been on disability since 1998, before that I was a full time Paramedic and for a lot of my family I have continued to be their " Personal Care Paramedic " as my Mom used to call me. If you've been reading for awhile you already know much of my situation.But if you want to read more my caringbridge site address is below. Hope you are doing okay today. I am allergic to all but 2 pain meds, so I have a bottle of Methadone in my cupboard I can't wait to go turn into the Sheriff's dept to dispose of so no one else gets their hands on it. Talk to you soon! Anne www.caringbridge.org/visit/aemr911 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2012 Report Share Posted July 30, 2012 Sorry been gone awhile just been sick and not on my computer much, made it to our local clinic with a sliding scale, and have a appointment on August 3rd so I am happy about that, the reason I hate methadone is I am dependent on it. And will be the rest of my life, it sure works great for me though, just hate the dependent part, so sorry for the pain your in the neck must be horribly painful my daughter in law just had major surgery on her neck, yuck, take care, > sioux wrote: > Where did you go? How are you doing now? Why do you hate Methadone? I hate it to but without it I would probably go skyward to the clouds. The vertebra in my neck are rubbing together. I do hate it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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