Guest guest Posted June 30, 2010 Report Share Posted June 30, 2010 I have a question especially for the women. Our mothers are obviously not supportive of us at crucial moments. And so I am sure that many of your mothers, as mine, were completely not supportive during times of child birth.. When we really, really needed a mother, her love and guidance. I wondered if any of you have long term traumas from this. When my son was born (by C section)..not only was it terrifying. But, I felt completely alone, and afraid. My mother never came and played her role. Instead, my husbands rude father wanted to come out the first week to see the baby. He was supposed to help. Of course, he didn't think any needs of a new mother were relevant and was just rude & dis missing as usual. I finally called my husband (now x) screaming " You get home from work NOW and tend your father. " Because, of him, my mom wouldn't even come out the two or three days that she'd promised to help me. I remember one afternoon that she finally came out and took me to lunch. I was so lonely. As she left, I began to cry. I asked her to stay longer. She looked at me blankly and left. It was as if her brain was completely disconnected from the importance of that moment. To this day, nine years later, I still have this trauma and emotional aloneness and pain, as experienced during my sons child birth...It returns with my period. I know that the body holds traumatic memories. I'm not sure how to get rid of this. I don't want to re experience the trauma, pain and loneliness every period. I've thought about EMDR therapy where they help with trauma. Have any of you used that? I doubt my mother will be much help....DOH! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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