breakthrough: Nada's try to 'Mask' the Abuse

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Hi everyone, I think I've come up with an explanation that can help us all to

make better sense of nada's confusing fog tactics when it comes to their abuse.

They need to 'mask' it. The analogy that I've found is a teenager who is about

to get caught smoking in the bathroom, and tries to spray lysol to cover it up.

They WANT to abuse you--they need to--but they can't stand getting caught by

themselves or by anyone else. The need to abuse you and the need to not get

caught, are both life and death intensity to them. So they do it, and they try

to MASK it. It's a mask. It's a mask!!

For years I have been confused and despairing of nada's masking techniques.

Convincing me (and everyone I know) that she is NOT abusive to me is one of the

main themes of nada's life on this earth. And it has confused me how successful

she is at it, when I know in my heart that she is being abusive. When I think

of it in terms of a mask, it helps so much--it validates my reality of the pain

I feel, and it helps me to SEE, finally, with clear eyes, what she is doing.

Just to keep these posts to a somewhat manageable length, I am going to post

masking techniques separately. For now, the focus is: MASK! She is trying not

to get caught smoking! If you feel confused and hurt at a conversation with

nada, but can't figure out WHY, that is why.

--Charlotte