Am at my breaking point- please help!

July 4, 2010

I am at my breaking point and am still somehow FLOORED by how crazy nada is and

how she has gotten the entire family to side with her.

Brief background: I was in residency for general surgery (medicine was forced on

me) and severely disliked it and decided to pursue my real passion- health

policy. My nada and fada went ballistic and have tried to bribe, coerce, and

physically force me to go back to residency. Their entire reason for trying to

make me go back is I'm now " unmarriageable " and I have to go back so that

someone will marry me (and then I can drop out).

After 5 weeks of NC (nada's choice, I was trying for LC but it pissed her off so

she gave me the silent treatment), nada texted during my medical boards. I

finally called her back today. First my fada picked up and asked me how the test

went so I thought it would be fine. Then he said, look we found a boy who will

marry you but only if you go back to residency so you have to. And then I spent

20 min telling him I wasn't going back and I understood I wouldn't change his

mind about business school but he also wasn't going to change my mind.

And then I talked to my nada. When she realized she wasn't going to change my

mind she said-ok well then you should take out loans (for business school) and

we're going to sell your apt, furniture, and anything you leave in it. And I

said that's fine if she wanted to sell the apt but it would make more sense for

me to just move everything out of it (instead of renting/buying new furniture)

but her only compromise was to move everything back to their home.

I don't mean to sound spoiled but the only reason she even wants to sell my apt

is so she can buy another multimillion dollar house. She has several of these

lying around empty so it makes me bitter that she won't sell them to help

finance my education (and I got a massive merit based scholarship so the

remaining tuition isn't even that much). I had a condo near home for medical

school and I asked her if she sold it yet and she said they were keeping it for

when I finally moved home. So they are blowing almost $1000 per month on condo

fees bec they're in denial.

I'm so so so mad and I was trying to keep LC until the end of B school because I

feel like after years of torture the least they can do is financially support

me. But I'm starting to wonder if I should suck it up and take out loans and do

NC. I just am so amazed that: 1. they truly don't care about my happiness 2. the

only " skill " they seem to have is making me feel like crap about myself.

Thanks for listening,

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