Top 5 Nada Masking-Techniques

July 5, 2010

In furtherance to my other 'mask' post: ok. Now that we know *what* nada is

doing, let's look at *how* she is doing it. Remember, if you feel it, she did

it!

1. Follow-up the insult with an extreme compliment in the opposite direction.

Example: though a lifelong theme may be denigrating your appearance, if you

express insecurity about your appearance, nada will say: 'I don't know why

you're so insecure...You are just stunning. All my friends, remark on what a

stunning daughter I have.'

2. Project their cruely onto you, as a supposed character flaw, if you attempt

to call them on the insult. Example:

nada: you're eating AGAIN?

KO: what? I'm not fat.

nada: Oh, but you're VISCOUS! Why have you been so VISCOUS lately?

3. Attempt to mask the insult with a supposed 'character flaw' of yours:

nada: you're TOO sensitive

4. Attempt to mask the insult with a post-insult lie, ie, denial that it ever

happened.

KO: I'm not trying to 'abandon' my family--I can't wait to see Gramma and Gramps

next week!

Nada: What? I NEVER SAID THAT! Why do you put words into my mouth?

5. Attempt to mask the insult by framing it in terms of concern for your safety

or well-being.

Ex: You're gonna poke your eye out with those scissors! (Insult: you are

ridiculous and clumsy. Mask: I'm your mother and I don't want you to get hurt!)

Ex: Be careful, you're gonna 'fall out of that dress'. (Insult: this is SEXUAL

ABUSE. It means you are slutty, and that nada is obsessed with your sexual body

parts and will remark on them at any given opportunity, invasively and

humiliatingly. Disguise: She is trying to 'keep you from embarrasing yourself'

by accidentally exposing yourself in public! She is trying to 'teach' you to be

a sexually pure and 'good' daughter.)

There we go!! & I am very interested in anyone else's top Fives, too!!

Love,

Charlie

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