Constant Manipulation is so Draining

July 5, 2010

Fourth of July and my BPD mom was with people all day. She went to the parade.

We had a family lunch. Afterwards people were there with her at her home. The

second they leave, she starts to whine and manipulate while I am feeding her

dinner. About how I don't want to be with her. Why? Because, I didn't want to

drop everything and sit there every minute at her beck and call... ready for

her every whim, like a slave. Come on! " You don't want to be with me. " She

whines. " You make me cry (I didn't see any tears). I love you so much and would

buy you or give you anything. And you hurt me and ..Blah, blah, blah. " I said,

" We have been together six hours today. And because I want to rest a

minute...on my own, you say, " YOU DON'T TO BE WITH ME. " I asked her what my

taking a nap had to do with her. When I had just spent six hours with her.

She continues on that I don't love her because I don't want to lay there by her

and rest with her, and do everything with her. She sais, " My sister and I used

to rest together. "

What... when they were two years old?

I said, " Well, then you will not quit talking and it would not be a rest for

me. It would time for you. "

Then, I think she brought up what the true key phrases of the conversation were

that it was the fourth of July and here she was stuck doing nothing. And the

fact that she wanted a malt and burger kept coming up. We'd just eaten a huge

dinner. Then why don't you call your friend she said, " I guess you'd rather do

some thing with her. " I repeated that I was not wanting to do anything tonight

because my joint hurt. She just prattled on trying to manipulate me. And she

is insane...she never gives up until she gets her way.

I drove her to get a malt and burger so she'd leave me the * & @^( alone.

Oh, my crap! It is just too much. That phrase Dr. Phil keeps saying on the tv

about how if you have to lose yourself to be in a relationship with someone

else, the price is too high..keeps coming to mind.

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