Even my friend of 20 years is a flying monkey for Nada

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My dear school friend of over 20 years rang me the other night to tell me of

Nada's ex-boyfriend's death. She is in the same town and still in contact with

her. She advised me to ring Nada as she is devastated about it even though they

have been broken up for 4 years now. He left her for someone else after an 18

year realationship mind you. Nada can still get people to feel sorry for her

under any circumstance it proves.

I couldn't believe it. This friend knows that I have gone NC. I told her

thanks for letting me know but I wont be contacting Nada and I changed the

subject.

I think it just made me sad/mad that even a close friend cannot understand my

decision in going NC. Even after I have tried to explain the reason for doing

so. She grew up with me in my teenage years and seen things for herself but

still feels sorry for Nada.

Nada often rings her drunk and cries on her shoulder about me.

It just confirmed that I really can't explain all this to others and make them

understand. Even close friends.

So many people say " but she's your Mother " .

I suppose that is why we are all here. It is hard believing sometimes that you

have made the right decision and sticking to it.

I think it is the judgement of others for me that i find difficult. Like I have

turned into a hard un-loving person.

I do believe in what I have done and going NC to be the very best thing for me.

It is one of the hardest things I have ever done but I am staying strong.

Kazam x