Guest guest Posted July 16, 2010 Report Share Posted July 16, 2010 I want to thank whoever here said that it helped them to envision their nada as a 2-year old. I've been trying to use my imagination to help me in dealing with her. One friend had suggested I refer to her, even if it's just in my head, by her first name, to weaken the powerful associations I have with her in my psyche. That didn't really help. I called her today after being away for a week. I talk to her every day and told her before leaving, " I'll call you when I get back on Friday. " She didn't like that, but I wasn't going to budge on that. When I called her today, I did so with the firm thought in my mind of myself calling a little 2-year old girl. Oh my gosh, this was FANTASTIC, in dialing down my anxiety at how she was going to crap on me (which she did). I called, she picked up, I said, " Hey mom! how are you?! " Her (SOOO like a little kid): " oh! you finally decided to call me. when did you get in? " Me: a little while ago. how are you? Her: I had no way to reach you all week. Me: (ignoring her) how've you been? Her: Fine, hot. how are the girls...blah blah blah i'm going to keep trying to remember this technique; it just takes the edge off dealing with her. I actually felt more of a pity for her than fear or anxiety. Had to share! Fiona Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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