Re: New here/Swannie

[Guest guest]

The thought of the hip pain coming back has me almost in tears. For the last 4

days I went without the boot and my hip finally quit hurting. The thought of

adding the extra pain back is overwhelming. It seems that just when I get used

to one thing, something changes and it's a readjustment period all over again.

I don't like to whine but I wanted to be honest. My 15 year old son says that

I'm always saying that I hurt. He's right. It's frustrating to not be able to

do all the things he wants me to do with him. OK. Can someone tell me please

that I'm not alone?

Hi Swannie

Welcome to the group. First let me say that you are NOT alone.

We have over a thousand members who understand what it feels like

to live with chronic pain.

It certainly is horrible that you now have to wear that brace

that actually increases your pain. Can't you use an ace wrap

and crutches?

Come to think of it, a cane will keep quite a bit of weight

off your hip. Do you know how to use one? You don't need an

expensive one. Just Google how to buy the right size, plus

how to use one. I know there are sights to give video

demonstration.

Call your doctor and see what she says. It can't hurt to

try it.

Please try to stay off your feet as much as possible.

I'm sure that's easier said that done, but be good

to yourself.

The Icy Hot, or other brand patches seem to help many folks

with pain in an area like that.

I'm sure your son does grow weary hearing you say how much

you are hurting. Have you two gone to any family counseling

together? It will help both of you. Living with chronic pain,

or any chronic illness affects the entire family.

Let us know how you are doing. This group can be a life saver.

Kaylene

One of the Moderators

[Guest guest]

Swannie,

Welcome to the group. First of all, you are NOT alone. There are so many kind

and caring people in this group. Some will write to you but others will just

send their good wishes, positive thinking, or silent prayers your way because it

is too painful for them to type or write.

Second, your son loves you even if he complains. Heck, he's a teenager and they

do that without thinking. Try to enjoy this time with him, refocus on

participating in activities he likes even if you are just a spectator you will

still be observing him so that you can offer support and show you care. These

years with him will pass so quickly and then he'll be gone.

Third, take care of yourself. Give yourself permission to hurt and deal with it

the best way you can.

Today, I hope you have as pain free day as possible.

Becky in Illinois

[Guest guest]

>Swannie wrote:

>I don't like to whine but I wanted to be honest. My 15 year old son says that

I'm always saying that I hurt. He's right. It's frustrating to not be able to do

all the things he wants me to do with him. OK. Can someone tell me please that

I'm not alone?

Swannie,

You are not alone, when I have a fibro flare, no one is allowed to touch me and

I feel like I just got bear up with a baseball bat all over.

I just had two cases of shingles two weeks apart. They say it only comes in

threes.

I found out I might have a ruptured bursae in my rt hip that I have been telling

my doctor has been hurting. They tend to blame it on my fused back and

misaligned sacrum but I say Right hip and the MRI that they finally did says so,

along with some roughness and problems with the tuberosity of the femoral head

so you and I am really feeling the hip thing!

Teenagers seem to be self centered so just come here and " whine " , we are used to

and we whine but consider it venting. You will find the people here empathetic

and have some support. I too have a son but he is 22, and all my family has seen

me go down hill so they do not talk back when I say I hurt but my son had a hard

time with me becoming disabled but we worked it out. He helps me when I ask now

with no snide remarks.

Welcome and I hope you get some relief, you are never alone here and many of us

are up all hours of the night. If I can support you

in any way, let me know. Stay warm and as comfortable as you can. Bennie