sappy hollywood crap

[Guest guest]

So lately I've been noticing over and over and over how often the plot of the NC

child making up with the estranged parent and forgiving them their parenting

failures is in movies/television. And of course it's fiction and they want a

happy ending, so somehow it always works out and the parent is now not that bad

or has reformed. It's presented as a sappy sweet glorious thing that the angry

adult child drops their defenses and gives the not-a-parent an invitation back

into their lives.

And it pisses me off. Why is it so *not okay* to honestly represent the reality

of so many people that sometimes parents are bad, sometimes estrangement happens

for good reasons, and it's really okay not to forgive and forget? I also can't

stand the thought of this theme out there encouraging my fada and various other

nadas and fadas to continue to " hold out hope " and try to force contact with

KO's of various kinds.

Even now I feel some internalized corner of my mind brainwashed by society

saying....oh that's awfully mean of me not to want people to hold out hope.

GAH!

This has been a rant...thank you for listening.