Final letter when going NC?

[Guest guest]

For those of you who have gone NC, did you send nada a letter? Do you think it

was helpful/hurtful? It sounds like most people didn't, for those of you who

didn't, do you wish you had?

As you probably know from my other lengthy posts I am planning for NC and

couldn't be more excited!! (and stressed, tired, guilty, anxious, of course). At

first I wasn't planning on sending nada a letter- I have had to cut out BPD

friends in the past and they're such crazy loons I don't want any contact no

matter how hurtful it may be to them.

I'm trying to apply this same logic to nada, but here is my main reason for

sending a letter: I'm hoping it will let nada know I'm safe so she doesn't worry

about me and doesn't try to find me. I know that is completely delusional and

first, she doesn't contact me because she's actually worried about me, and

second, of course she's going to try to find me.

I probably have already answered my question in my ramblings but I'm still

curious about everyone's experiences!