my mother is drivinig me crazy today. I don't even have a name for it.

July 17, 2010

I have read and read and read these posts and my mother lacks the histrionic

behavior that I read about so much here. But her behavior is bizarre. Her

reactions to things are the opposite of what I feel they should be. The angrier

she gets the more she does this. But she doesn't do it in an angry fashion, she

does it in a poor pitiful fashion.

Like she has been whining about the baby's toys so I have been putting them

away, the ones they don't play with. I am childless and don't have a stake in

her issues but it's one thing I can do, because I watch my nephew daily and know

which toys he plays with and which ones he never touches. I pointed out some

today that are soon going to 'disappear' and she said about one of them, 'well,

I got him that one for christmas, that's my fault.' She says things like this to

me multiple times a day. I don't have a word for what kind of behavior this is.

It doesn't make any sense to me. it's a complete flip flop and distortion of

reality. She always wants to make me feel as bad as possible about myself and my

motives, even when I am trying to help her out. I am ONLY doing this for her

benefit. I ONLY started doing it because it was one of the things she said was

driving her crazy, the kid's ridiculous amount of toys being all over the house.

So far I have siphoned off about 4 trunkloads of toys and they are being stored

on the porch.

Does anyone know what this is called? She does this multiple times a day. She

did this to me throught my childhood, albeit on much weightier issues. She

flip-flops and twists and distorts everything I say sometimes all day long. She

pretends my motives are bad, when they are both selfless and good. I am really

having a hard time with this, how can someone be a borderline if they hardly

ever raise their voice. I tried today, for the first time, to imagine what a

normal mother would have said to me. " Thank you for doing that, I really

appreciate it. " Yet sometimes she is normal and has normal responses. Of course,

that's what makes it hard, if she was completely psychotic all the time I would

have walked away years ago. It's just attempting to revisit the 'good' mother,

and get her to come out. I used to think she was multiple personality.

Recommended Posts