Re: New Bed Guilt

[Guest guest]

We had the same guilt issues over getting our Sleep Number bed, too. Well, I

did. Hubby didn't; he's the breadwinner and when he feels we need something

doesn't mind getting the Cadillac version.

It has helped a lot! We didn't spring for the pillow top and, almost seven years

later the hubby still wishes we had. But I so enjoy not having pressure points

and being able to adjust how soft or hard it is depending on what I want that

night. I've also noticed a " 35 " during winter is much different than its summer

counterpart (air volume at different temps). My husband likes a much softer bed

than I and it's wonderful that I don't have to suffer through what he needs.

Two cautions though: if you weigh more than 25lbs don't sit on the very edge of

the bed all the time if you can help it. My husband (at 220lbs) does this every

time he puts on or takes off his socks and the outer band that encircles the

" mattress " (the air tubes) has buckled; now it bows out on his side from head to

mid-leg and we can't do anything about it. It stretches out all of my sheets and

ruins some of them. The other thing that I've only heard about on the radio and

online is the potential for mold growth under the zip-on mattress cover. They

advise unzipping the top every so often to check for mildew, mold, etc and

airing it out. We haven't had any problems but many others did.

We offset the guilt by using our tax return that year to pay for it, back when

we didn't have to use the return to pay for meds we'd charged the previous year

on credit.

I don't know why it's so hard to feel okay when we do something to take care of

ourselves! Maybe in seven years you'll feel as little guilt about it as I do!

LOL.

--- Terry wrote:

>

> I finally went out and bit the bullet and got the sleep number bed my

chiropractor has been recommending for me for the last year. The problem is

that they are so expensive and the practical person that I am, I am having a

hard time justifying such an expensive thing even though it really is for my

health and bad back. Why can't I allow myself not to feel guilty for doing

it????

>

[Guest guest]

Yay! you got a new bed! I just got a memory foam mattress pad for our

queen-sized bed, and with the addition of my regular mattress pad and

flannel sheets, sleeping is heavenly. I have learned the hard way that

comfort is not a luxury when you have chronic pain. IT IS A NECESSITY!

Now, I want a new mattress for my spare bedroom, plus a memory foam cushion

on top. I have been totally miserable on and off for 15 years, with neck

pain, in addition to my other pain issues. I do have orthopedic pillows and

moist heat pads.

This past Thursday, my pain specialist had a nice long talk with me about my

pain, and he said he found problems with 3 discs in my neck. I have 2

bulging discs, with the middle disc ruptured recently, and leaking fluid.

I have osteophytes growing on the anterior side of the ruptured disc, and

the arthritis formation rubbing against the disc is what caused the rupture.

The arthritis growth is almost touching the spinal cord (but not touching

yet).

I have osteoarthritis on both sides of the vertebrae around these discs, and

the nerves that come out the sides of these vertebrae are being squeezed by

the arthritis and inflammation.

The disc that ruptured, did so when my husband shook me for snoring too

loudly. That happened in the first week of October, 2009.

The shock of it startled me and my whole body jerked, and I felt a sudden

release of pressure in my neck. I got up and slept in the spare bedroom,

because his shaking me like that made me mad!

I had the MRI done after telling my pain doctor that I had been to an ortho,

who wouldn't treat me because of pain contract issues. I don't feel good

about these findings through the MRI, but I do feel great that I have found

a doctor who has enough compassion and scientific curiosity to order the

tests that I need.

I didn't know what else to do, and my husband still thinks sleeping on a

hard, flat board is the solution to back pain. He forgets that he isn't in

the military any more, and I am not a tough-it-out young soldier who just

got hurt yesterday!

So, be glad you got your bed, and don't listen to that monster inside that

says you can do without it, or you don't deserve it! Nobody else is going to

get that bed for you!

>Terry wrote:

> I finally went out and bit the bullet and got the sleep number bed my

chiropractor has been recommending for me for the last year. The problem is that

they are so expensive and the practical person that I am, I am having a hard

time justifying such an expensive thing even though it really is for my health

and bad back. Why can't I allow myself not to feel guilty for doing

it????

[Guest guest]

Terry, i know that that sleep number and Temperpetic beds are more expensive

than conventional mattresses. But think of it as an investment in your health.

If if helps you it is worth the extra expense. I have been trying to get my

husband to consider a specialty mattress Was the sleep number more than other

types? Does it have to be connected to an electrical outlet?

Sounds like you made a good choice. The extra you spent over a standard

mattress is worth it if you need it to help you feel better.

Take care, hugs, Tami

>

I finally went out and bit the bullet and got the sleep number bed my

chiropractor has been recommending for me for the last year. The problem is

that they are so expensive and the practical person that I am, I am having a

hard time justifying such an expensive thing even though it really is for my

health and bad back. Why can't I allow myself not to feel guilty for doing

it????