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a,

I just tell it like it is. If they don't like it, I don't care. I did this

for ME and nobody else.

Good luck sweetie!

ps..it IS ok to add some gravy, but watch out for fat! :)

Dawn

ps...CONGRATS on the 130 chickie! People are DEFINITELY gonna question you!

Holiday Angst

Hi All--

I'm writing to wish everyone a Happy Thanksgiving! Gobble, Gobble...but

don't overdue it...you'll pay! I think I'm going to rename Thanksgiving

as " Be nice to your pouch " day.

This is a Thanksgiving of new beginnings for me. First, this is my

first Thanksgiving since my surgery in February. Second, this is my

first Thanksgiving with my immediate family in 3 years. (My family and

I weren't getting along and stubbornness prevailed...and we didn't

speak for a long time. In fact, I chose not to share my surgery with my

mom and step-dad until 4 months after the fact. Some call that control;

I call it doing what was best for me at the time.)

While my mother and stepfather know about my surgery, no one else is my

family does. Most have noticed a weight loss though. So, I am half-

anticipating comments about the little amount I take, etc. To combat

this, I am thinking of taking normal-sized helpings and then doggie-

bagging it after the meal. This makes me feel like I am being sneaky

though.

I feel that if I sneak around and such that I won't be doing what is

right. I have worked very hard over the past 9.5 months and have lost

130 lbs. I am now at 240 and what to be free of all of these thoughts

and concerns about others in relation to my eating. I feel that if I

have to be sneaky, I am being untrue to all that I have worked for. The

simple idea of it makes me upset! I don't know, maybe I'm just being

overly-neurotic????? Any suggestions out there?

How have post-ops handled holidays, especially when you don't want your

eating habits questioned by (potentially uninformed, critical) family

members?

--a

P.S. FRIENDLY REMINDER: Don't forget the Maalox for those Maalox

Moments!

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Happy Turkey Day to you too Alice! I'm sure your brothers will treat you

with the well deserved respect, MOST brothers DON'T! :)

Dawn

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a,

I deal with this whenever I get together with my potential in-laws. It was

hard at first. They kept tabs on what I ate, but I didn’t feel that I owed

them an explanation, so I just told them I wasn’t that hungry. Not a lie. At

this point, I eat what amounts to a small “normal” portion, so I don’t think

it looks that weird to others. At restaurants I order whatever I want and

take the rest home. At a Thanksgiving situation, I just take what I want...

a

little bit of everything covers the plate, and I end up not eating it all. I

find that people don’t pay as much attention as I they used to when I could

barely eat 2 bites. I’m sure you’ll be fine. Avoid the appetizers, so you

can

eat a normal meal!

This is my first TG since surgery, too, and my goal is to focus on my family

instead of food. My brothers are coming home from CA and it will be the

first

time they’ve seen me since surgery. I hope they’re nice! (You know how

brothers can be!)

Happy Holidays, everyone, and best wishes to all who are having surgery at

this time. You’ll have a thinnner healthier summer to look forward to!

- AA

Sally MacDuff wrote:

> a,

> I will let the postoppers answer your questions, but I just want to

> congratulate

> you on the 130 lbs. Wonderful. Happy Thanksgiving to you and your. Sally

>

> rheaumepaula@... wrote:

>

> > Hi All--

> >

> > I'm writing to wish everyone a Happy Thanksgiving! Gobble, Gobble...but

> > don't overdue it...you'll pay! I think I'm going to rename Thanksgiving

> > as " Be nice to your pouch " day.

> >

> > This is a Thanksgiving of new beginnings for me. First, this is my

> > first Thanksgiving since my surgery in February. Second, this is my

> > first Thanksgiving with my immediate family in 3 years. (My family and

> > I weren't getting along and stubbornness prevailed...and we didn't

> > speak for a long time. In fact, I chose not to share my surgery with my

> > mom and step-dad until 4 months after the fact. Some call that control;

> > I call it doing what was best for me at the time.)

> >

> > While my mother and stepfather know about my surgery, no one else is my

> > family does. Most have noticed a weight loss though. So, I am half-

> > anticipating comments about the little amount I take, etc. To combat

> > this, I am thinking of taking normal-sized helpings and then doggie-

> > bagging it after the meal. This makes me feel like I am being sneaky

> > though.

> >

> > I feel that if I sneak around and such that I won't be doing what is

> > right. I have worked very hard over the past 9.5 months and have lost

> > 130 lbs. I am now at 240 and what to be free of all of these thoughts

> > and concerns about others in relation to my eating. I feel that if I

> > have to be sneaky, I am being untrue to all that I have worked for. The

> > simple idea of it makes me upset! I don't know, maybe I'm just being

> > overly-neurotic????? Any suggestions out there?

> >

> > How have post-ops handled holidays, especially when you don't want your

> > eating habits questioned by (potentially uninformed, critical) family

> > members?

> >

> > --a

> >

> > P.S. FRIENDLY REMINDER: Don't forget the Maalox for those Maalox

> > Moments!

> >

> >

> >

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a,

I will let the postoppers answer your questions, but I just want to

congratulate

you on the 130 lbs. Wonderful. Happy Thanksgiving to you and your. Sally

rheaumepaula@... wrote:

> Hi All--

>

> I'm writing to wish everyone a Happy Thanksgiving! Gobble, Gobble...but

> don't overdue it...you'll pay! I think I'm going to rename Thanksgiving

> as " Be nice to your pouch " day.

>

> This is a Thanksgiving of new beginnings for me. First, this is my

> first Thanksgiving since my surgery in February. Second, this is my

> first Thanksgiving with my immediate family in 3 years. (My family and

> I weren't getting along and stubbornness prevailed...and we didn't

> speak for a long time. In fact, I chose not to share my surgery with my

> mom and step-dad until 4 months after the fact. Some call that control;

> I call it doing what was best for me at the time.)

>

> While my mother and stepfather know about my surgery, no one else is my

> family does. Most have noticed a weight loss though. So, I am half-

> anticipating comments about the little amount I take, etc. To combat

> this, I am thinking of taking normal-sized helpings and then doggie-

> bagging it after the meal. This makes me feel like I am being sneaky

> though.

>

> I feel that if I sneak around and such that I won't be doing what is

> right. I have worked very hard over the past 9.5 months and have lost

> 130 lbs. I am now at 240 and what to be free of all of these thoughts

> and concerns about others in relation to my eating. I feel that if I

> have to be sneaky, I am being untrue to all that I have worked for. The

> simple idea of it makes me upset! I don't know, maybe I'm just being

> overly-neurotic????? Any suggestions out there?

>

> How have post-ops handled holidays, especially when you don't want your

> eating habits questioned by (potentially uninformed, critical) family

> members?

>

> --a

>

> P.S. FRIENDLY REMINDER: Don't forget the Maalox for those Maalox

> Moments!

>

>

>

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a,

I deal with this whenever I get together with my potential in-laws. It was

hard at first. They kept tabs on what I ate, but I didn’t feel that I owed

them an explanation, so I just told them I wasn’t that hungry. Not a lie. At

this point, I eat what amounts to a small “normal” portion, so I don’t think

it looks that weird to others. At restaurants I order whatever I want and

take the rest home. At a Thanksgiving situation, I just take what I want... a

little bit of everything covers the plate, and I end up not eating it all. I

find that people don’t pay as much attention as I they used to when I could

barely eat 2 bites. I’m sure you’ll be fine. Avoid the appetizers, so you can

eat a normal meal!

This is my first TG since surgery, too, and my goal is to focus on my family

instead of food. My brothers are coming home from CA and it will be the first

time they’ve seen me since surgery. I hope they’re nice! (You know how

brothers can be!)

Happy Holidays, everyone, and best wishes to all who are having surgery at

this time. You’ll have a thinnner healthier summer to look forward to!

- AA

Sally MacDuff wrote:

> a,

> I will let the postoppers answer your questions, but I just want to

> congratulate

> you on the 130 lbs. Wonderful. Happy Thanksgiving to you and your. Sally

>

> rheaumepaula@... wrote:

>

> > Hi All--

> >

> > I'm writing to wish everyone a Happy Thanksgiving! Gobble, Gobble...but

> > don't overdue it...you'll pay! I think I'm going to rename Thanksgiving

> > as " Be nice to your pouch " day.

> >

> > This is a Thanksgiving of new beginnings for me. First, this is my

> > first Thanksgiving since my surgery in February. Second, this is my

> > first Thanksgiving with my immediate family in 3 years. (My family and

> > I weren't getting along and stubbornness prevailed...and we didn't

> > speak for a long time. In fact, I chose not to share my surgery with my

> > mom and step-dad until 4 months after the fact. Some call that control;

> > I call it doing what was best for me at the time.)

> >

> > While my mother and stepfather know about my surgery, no one else is my

> > family does. Most have noticed a weight loss though. So, I am half-

> > anticipating comments about the little amount I take, etc. To combat

> > this, I am thinking of taking normal-sized helpings and then doggie-

> > bagging it after the meal. This makes me feel like I am being sneaky

> > though.

> >

> > I feel that if I sneak around and such that I won't be doing what is

> > right. I have worked very hard over the past 9.5 months and have lost

> > 130 lbs. I am now at 240 and what to be free of all of these thoughts

> > and concerns about others in relation to my eating. I feel that if I

> > have to be sneaky, I am being untrue to all that I have worked for. The

> > simple idea of it makes me upset! I don't know, maybe I'm just being

> > overly-neurotic????? Any suggestions out there?

> >

> > How have post-ops handled holidays, especially when you don't want your

> > eating habits questioned by (potentially uninformed, critical) family

> > members?

> >

> > --a

> >

> > P.S. FRIENDLY REMINDER: Don't forget the Maalox for those Maalox

> > Moments!

> >

> >

> >

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a,

I think you probably know what is best for you and maybe you'll be

surprised and get something you won't have to be on the defensive for.

Control or not, you only have to answer to yourself.

Have a good and healthy one you deserve it.

Pam

On Tue, 21 Nov 2000 21:32:34 -0000 rheaumepaula@... writes:

> Hi All--

>

> I'm writing to wish everyone a Happy Thanksgiving! Gobble,

> Gobble...but

> don't overdue it...you'll pay! I think I'm going to rename

> Thanksgiving

> as " Be nice to your pouch " day.

>

> This is a Thanksgiving of new beginnings for me. First, this is my

> first Thanksgiving since my surgery in February. Second, this is my

> first Thanksgiving with my immediate family in 3 years. (My family

> and

> I weren't getting along and stubbornness prevailed...and we didn't

> speak for a long time. In fact, I chose not to share my surgery with

> my

> mom and step-dad until 4 months after the fact. Some call that

> control;

> I call it doing what was best for me at the time.)

>

> While my mother and stepfather know about my surgery, no one else is

> my

> family does. Most have noticed a weight loss though. So, I am half-

> anticipating comments about the little amount I take, etc. To combat

>

> this, I am thinking of taking normal-sized helpings and then doggie-

> bagging it after the meal. This makes me feel like I am being sneaky

>

> though.

>

> I feel that if I sneak around and such that I won't be doing what is

>

> right. I have worked very hard over the past 9.5 months and have

> lost

> 130 lbs. I am now at 240 and what to be free of all of these

> thoughts

> and concerns about others in relation to my eating. I feel that if I

>

> have to be sneaky, I am being untrue to all that I have worked for.

> The

> simple idea of it makes me upset! I don't know, maybe I'm just being

>

> overly-neurotic????? Any suggestions out there?

>

> How have post-ops handled holidays, especially when you don't want

> your

> eating habits questioned by (potentially uninformed, critical)

> family

> members?

>

> --a

>

> P.S. FRIENDLY REMINDER: Don't forget the Maalox for those Maalox

> Moments!

>

>

>

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