Re: Can't take my family problems anymore.

[Guest guest]

One of the hardest things as a parent to do, is let our kids make their mistakes

and learn from it. When it's time, they seek our advice. Getting older lends

wisdom to us, that's what our kids are lacking but only living life will give it

to them if they aren't open to advice.

You aren't alone in that respect. Most of us parents suffer along with our

children no matter what age they are. It's part of loving them.

Jennette

> R wrote:

>I've got to quit trying. My daughter flew off the handle at me tonight, just

because I finally got the guts to tell her she was going to have to eventualy

face her financial problems.

[Guest guest]

you're not alone in this we all have problems. my children and

grandchildren have not called me or spoken to me in weeks. I cried until i got

tried of crying. I prayed and then I let it all go. I went on a trip and they

don't even no that i left town, that is so sad. but I am ok, I did nothing to

them. so be strong your not the only one.

--- R wrote:

>I've got to quit trying. My daughter flew off the handle at me

So tonight, I'm hurting, and I'm sure it's all the stress. My muscles are all in

knots, and my pump doesn't do away with that. I took my sleeping pills and I'm

going to hope i can sleep. Just really don`t want to face what tomorrow may

bring.

       

[Guest guest]

,

I also have kids (4), and they are grown and gone. When our kids are grown their

is not much that we can do to make them come into reason, and to change their

way of thinking. They think that they know it all and that their way is the

right way and that we don't know what we are talking about.

Hun, your health comes first! Stop getting involved in your daughter's business.

If she comes to you and ask you for help, then you give her your opinion and

whatever help you can give her, in the meantime stay out of it, it is not good

for you or for her!

Take care and think of your health first. Remember we raise our kids, we give

them wings and then we have to let them go, so stay calm take care of you and do

what's best for you!

Millie

---R wrote:

>

> I've got to quit trying. My daughter flew off the handle at me tonight, just

because I finally got the guts to tell her she was going to have to eventualy

face her financial problems. She will be losing her home, and her credit is as

red as it can get. Not her fault, it came from a screwed up divorce.

[Guest guest]

, You are right. Taking on your families' stresses will worsen your pain

needlessly. It sounds like your daughter is an adult who is unfortunately in a

bad situation.

However, she is the only one who truely has to deal with it. She is old enough

to problem solve and pick up the pieces of her life. we all have lessons in

life to learn and no one can learn them for us. Hang in there. You are being a

good mom.

Hugs,

Tami

>

> I've got to quit trying. My daughter flew off the handle at me tonight, just

becausescreaming irrationally know where to go. Hubby's to invoved in tv and

hasnt said a word about anything to be. I feel so all alone in this.

> Thanks, R.

>

[Guest guest]

The way my uncle used to put it (relative to grown children):

On the road of life, a parent's job is to show up and pull the kid out of the

ditch once in a while, when they ask us. What's more, it is also our job to let

them drive off down the road again once we've pulled them out. Parents are tow

trucks!

He was a mechanic and one-time tow truck driver, but I've always reminded myself

of this analogy when I struggle with my adult sons' issues.

All best,

--- Jennette wrote:

>

> One of the hardest things as a parent to do, is let our kids make their

mistakes and learn from it. When it's time, they seek our advice. Getting

older lends wisdom to us, that's what our kids are lacking but only living life

will give it to them if they aren't open to advice.

>

> You aren't alone in that respect. Most of us parents suffer along with our

children no matter what age they are. It's part of loving them.

>

> Jennette