Re: If we could only do away with depression!

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>I want to go visit an old friend for a few days, but I fear all the crazy

things, like something will happen to my husband while I`m gone, or one of my

daughters will have a problem and need my comfort while I`m gone. Their lives

are in such kaos. I never know when they call if they will be crying or not. So

I get depressed and just sit home around my phone.

>I need to get away to take my mind off of some things, but I can`t make myself

leave home in fear of failing someone or having something go wrong. So here I

am, feeling better than I have in a long time, and afraid to go anywhere. Darn

depression. It`s such a heavy scary feeling.

Hi

This sounds like extreme anxiety plus depression. Living day, after day, with

chronic pain, plus emotional pain, is profoundly exhausting on the body.

Your body is constantly pumping out adrenaline, this kind of exhausation can

kill you eventually.

I hope you will see a counselor about improving the quality of your life.

It can be done. It might take time, but it will be worth it.

Please let us know how you are doing. I'm all too familiar with anxiety. It runs

in my family, that plus bipolar disorder.

I know what it's like to hear all the what if's in your head, but you life with

much more than I do.

Good luck

Kaylene

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Getting into counseling is excellent advice. Look for someone who can do

behavior modification and talk therapy. Also talk to a psychiatrist about

medication. They have had very good results with these treatments.

In the mean time, set up a plan to begin feeling more comfortable going out.

Set up to go out to a place nearby for a certain amount of time. When you

return, review how the visit went. Were your concerns about your family real?

what other resources are available to them?

How you would feel if they had accessed someone else for a problem that arose.

The more you isolate yourself, the harder it will be for you to go out.

do you have any hobbies? Set aside time as your time. Use it to do some thing

you enjoy. have a plan who will be responsible for any need that arises.

Most of all get yourself into therapy. chronic pain is stressful. We begin to

develop all types of worries. Talking out and developing problem solving plans

for our worries is possible.

Your anxiety will wear you down more, making it harder for your body to handle

the medical issues.

Hope this helps. Tami

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> >I want to go visit an old friend for a few days, but I fear all the crazy

things, like something will happen to my husband while I`m gone, or one of my

daughters will have a problem and need my comfort while I

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R wrote:

> After reading the post this morning I can see that depression is one thing

that holds so many of us back from living our lifes. I wish someone would come

up with a way to chase it away.

>

> Now that I have the pump I have been feeling so much better, but my depression

holds me back and makes it so hard for me to make decisions on anything.

>

> I hope there is someone out there who can come up with some ideas for all of

us that let depression get us. My meds don`t seem to cut it.

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I read a series, " This Present Darkness' by Peritti, and depression was an

imp sitting on someone's back just taking over any postive thoughts. It was

that visual picture in my mind that made depression real and to say, get out of

here. Now I am not advocating this book but some of our members favorit

authour, King did this with Needful Things.

When you can identify the problem, take some steps to resolve them and then go

make the small steps. , you have made an amazing recovery and if you were

to compare yourself to a year ago, think how much you have accomplishied.

Please hold on to those.

You can do this and go and be on your won, now, do I have to start crawling that

way and are you coming this way to Texas, I have a doctor here that can see you

and I will move over and share the electric blanket.

My Dad lives by himself, takes care of himself, and only cares for himself, it

is bad he cannot love his daughters but he has lived to ninety and sure does

love himself. I don't know which is best but there has to be a balance. You

have come a long way, , and I am so proud of you. Keep it up Bennie

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Pain causes depression, and depression prevents us from properly

dealing with pain, and all the other stuff we are expected to cope

with in this life. I know for a fact that I was not able to recognize

my own depression as more than just generalized depression until I got

my pain under control. That required more sleep, more restful sleep,

and longer hours of sleep.

Sleep required adequate medication, and the right combination of

medication, etc. I am not taking an antidepressant, because better

sleep and less pain during sleep hours has enabled me to see that no

amount or type of psychoanalysis or antidepressant can give me sleep.

In fact, all antidepressant medications have written on the directions

for use the recommendation that you get 8 hours of sleep for maximum

effect. They don't tell you how to get that sleep, but can only offer

a few suggestions. That doesn't help much, so, that is what getting

help is all about.

Getting help requires accountability from another human being, who

lives outside your own home environment. They cannot be a part of the

problem if they are going to help you find a combination of solutions,

and it does help if they have been where you are or have helped others

like you.

So, go see your friends, and other people who you like to be with.

Don't worry about people who are too busy to help you when you need

them. Take hold of your lowered pain status and enjoy your freedom

while the door is still opened! The world does not wait for you to

feel good about yourself before you set out to do great things!

Bonnadel