Blanket response

[Guest guest]

There are so many different people I would like to respond to

that I am going to make it a separate post instead of a bunch

of little ones.

First, as a former teacher, I would like to know how many

students Mike was working with the day he was hurt. The few

times I substituted for special education teachers, I felt

they had too many students to give each the attention needed.

Next was to and others with family problems. Without

going into my own experience, I am sorry that there are so

many parents who do not seem to know how to love. Yes there

are sacrifices, especially when there are extra needs. I hope

that you have found others who are a better help to you.

There are some terrible nursing homes around. There is also,

here and there, the occassional good assisted living facility.

I agree that a visit is the way to check them out. While you

are there, talk with anyone who lives there and is in the mood

to talk. It may take some time once they get going. Some are

like me; quiet at first, long winded when I get going.

Libido has not been a problem for my wife. It is the nerve

damage that messes with her sensations she does not like. She

would not be comfortable with me sharing much more than that

with the group.

Sleep problems have been dealt with in several ways. Hot showers

sometimes help. Medications being set right helps. Having a

schedule and a routine can help. But the one thing I have not

heard mentioned is having someone read to you. I have been

reading to my wife at least every other night for the past

eighteen years. She has also used the self hypnosis or meditation

techniques someone here mentioned having on a CD they listen to.

Finally, to those who feel alone. I have been there. You can

see from all the responses here that you are never alone.

Somebody is always feeling the same way somewhere. That is

what I like about this group most. It gives us a place to vent

and usually get a response. We can read it when and if we are

able or have the time.

Jerry