Re: Just need support

[Guest guest]

>I know I am new here, but right now need all the support I can get. In

addition to all the physical problems I have, I just found out a very close

relative committed suicide. I am a 12 hour drive away and basically unable

physically to ride out to support my parents.

Hi Kim

My heart goes out to you. My cousin killed himself about 7 years ago, and it's

just heart breaking.

I hope you can keep in contact frequently with your parents by phone or e-mail.

Kaylene

[Guest guest]

--- " Kim " wrote:

>

> I know I am new here, but right now need all the support I can get. In

addition to all the physical problems I have, I just found out a very close

relative committed suicide. I am a 12 hour drive away and basically unable

physicalLY to ride out to support my parents.

>

Hello Kim -

Welcome to the list, although I'm sorry for the pain that brought you here.

I'm also so sorry to hear about your relative. My family has suffered from a

lot of suicides over the years, so I completely understand how you're feeling.

Nothing devastates a family in quite the same way.

I was also too far away and unable to travel when my cousin committed suicide a

couple of years ago. But I spent a lot of time on the phone with my aunt, his

mother, with whom I'm very close, and she was happy to have that support even if

it wasn't in person. So stay on the phone and email with your folks and other

family members. You can even write letters or send cards with personal messages

that they can read at their convenience later that will give them lots of

support, and let them know you're there with them in spirit. Share the good

memories of your relative together.

Take care of yourself and feel free to vent here anytime.

Cheryl in AZ

Moderator

[Guest guest]

> --- " Kim " <kapaxmom@> wrote:

> >

> > I know I am new here, but right now need all the support I can get. In

addition to all the physical problems I have, I just found out a very close

relative committed suicide. I am a 12 hour drive away and basically unable

physicalLY to ride out to support my parents.

> >

Thank you for the support you have provided. I am urgently waiting a phone call

from my parents this morning, but have not heard from them yet. I do not want

to call them because I am sure they didn't get much sleep last night. And I

also know they had a lot to take care of today. Thanks for listening! Kim

[Guest guest]

Hello Kim,

First of all I am sorry that your relative committed suicide, that is so hard

for those of us that stay behind, I know because I had a close aunt commit

suicide last year, and that affected me a whole lot! Specially because she

committed suicide because of chronic pain, and not been able to get the help

that she needed.

Hun, you need to know that sometimes we want to do 1000 things, but we can't.

Our pain and our conditions do not allow us to help others like we used to, and

that is OK. We are humans and we are humans suffering from a chronic condition

that invaded our bodies and took away our ability to do the things that we did

before, and our families need to understand that. Just call your parents as

often as you can so they know that you are there for them.

Ask them if there is anything that you can do for them long distance like;

calling relatives, sending e-mails, texts, etc... or maybe calling different

funeral homes and getting quotes for them while they deal with the rest. When my

aunt died I couldn't fly home either, but I made calls and send e-mails and

actually was the one that found the cheapest funeral home for my uncle since he

was so distraught.

There is always something that you can do, so stay home take care of yourself

and pray for your parents.

Soft hugs,

Millie

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> I know I am new here, but right now need all the support I can get. In

addition to all the physical problems I have, I just found out a very close

relative committed suicide. I am a 12 hour drive away and basically unable

physicalLY to ride out to support my parents.

>

> Thank you all so much for all the support you have already lent me in this

group. It has been so encouraging to talk with and read other post of people

dealing with the same issues, because nobody else understands. Thank you so much

for just letting me get some of this out, as it is late at night and I have

nobody else to talk to right now.

>

> Kim

>

[Guest guest]

Kim

I totally understand what you are suffering. I am so sorry that you have lost a

relative and I know you would be there if you could. I was not able to visit

my mom very much when she was in ICU and she's still in the hospital rehab and I

just can't go the distance.

I know your parents know you love them so just try to be ok. I know your phone

calls to them will help. Hang in there and feel free to talk to me if you need

to as I'm up late most nights.

Becky in Illinois

[Guest guest]

Thank you all so much for all the support. I have found much comfort in your

notes. I have taken the advice of someone and dong some searches for hotel

prices and eye drops that are much needed. At least I feel helpful, even though

I am not there. I am sure I am more help from here rather than attempting to

ride 12 hours in a car and then be unable to do anything once I got there.

Just thank you all so much! I greatly appreciate all the encouragement!