Re: Our personal needs, and ways to achieve them

[Guest guest]

" missy wrote:

>

> Thirdly, I have actually, incorporated the TENS unit into our sex

> lives on occasion. It's distracting to the nerves, kinda fun, and

> gives the same relief during sex that I would be receiving

otherwise.

>

> in MD

>

I mentioned before that my wife is less open to discuss things of

this nature with others. Between us, we do talk. I read her this post

and she wanted to respond.

'By using the TENS unit, you are creating a type of pleasurable pain

that is far better than the chronic pain. At times, it can actually

break a cycle of chronic pain. Anyone interested in finding out more

about it can probably find information in a yahoo search.'

We have had eighteen years of working out what we can and cannot do.

The nerves in her system are not only damaged but misfire and

crossfire in strange ways. It helps that I have a creative

imagination and can still surprise her. She also has a strong drive.

Half way through reading this to her, I jokingly asked if she had

written it. She agrees that it sounds like something she would write,

trying to be helpful to others.

Jerry and Connie

[Guest guest]

> Moderator's note:

> Missy, I changed your subject heading, so that we won't recieve any

spam through whoever your internet service provider is. There was

truly no other reason to change it.

>

> This is a helpful post, especially it's honestly. Thanks

> Kaylene

>

Kaylene, thanks for letting me know what happened. I wasn't sure

whether I was stepping over any lines, and I do understand why you

changed it.

[Guest guest]

> and we have received custody of our grandson

> (8 weeks old tomorrow). Therefore, it's the issue of time right now.

>

> Oh, tomorrow morning I am also having my right knee replaced. Just

> another distraction in life!

Lori,

I'm glad to have helped.

I hope your surgery goes well, and your recovery is swift and

relatively painless.

Do you have help with taking care of your grandson? Thankfully I was

not in this level of pain when the kids were tiny. I don't know how I

could have handled it. Please don't hesitate to ask friends and

family for help. It's the hardest thing I've had to do, but it's the

only way to function when you're hurting.

[Guest guest]

> What a really good post. I'm sure some people would be upset by the

level of

> detail but this is the kind of stuff we need to know to get on with our

> lives.

Carolyn, I truly hope I haven't offended anyone with my post. I'm not

terribly well known for my tact, but I did try.

I am a bit of a " sexpert " so to speak, and I'm happy to give a bit

more information in a more direct and detailed manner (in private

email). I know of some great books that can give more ideas for

positions, and I can also provide links of where to purchase some aids

as well as the swing I mentioned.

Really, if anyone is in need of some information, please feel free to

contact me. I really feel that being able to maintain a healthy and

satisfying sex life is extremely important, especially under the added

stress of living in pain.

[Guest guest]

jennifer wrote:

Do you have help with taking care of your grandson?

,

I do have wonderful help with the baby! My Mom & my husband's Step-

Mom are taking care of him during the day & then my husband picks him

up when he gets off work. Then, my husband brings the baby to see me!

I am so greatful that my husband loves the baby as much as I do!

My surgery went well & I did have to have the anesthesiologist come

to my room this afternoon to block the pain in my leg. It was worth

the extra pain to have it done!

I have to start my gait training in the morning so it will be

interesting to see how that goes.

Lori

[Guest guest]

> I do have wonderful help with the baby! My Mom & my husband's Step-

> Mom are taking care of him during the day & then my husband picks him

> up when he gets off work. Then, my husband brings the baby to see me!

>It was worth the extra pain to have it done!

Lori, Glad to hear that all went well. I know what you mean about

the extra pain being worth it -- that's exactly what my previous back

surgery was like.

It's wonderful that you have such supportive family to care for the

baby. It's even more wonderful that your grandson has such supportive

family to care for him.

Feel better soon!

[Guest guest]

I sure wasn't offended. I think we need to take care of ourselves in ALL

ways, especially when we've been dealt the cards we have.

" Sweet Goat Mama "

Carolyn Eddy

www.goattracksmagazine.com

[Guest guest]

> wrote:

>It's wonderful that you have such supportive family to care for the

baby. It's even more wonderful that your grandson has such supportive

family to care for him.

,

Thank you for all of the wonderful comments about our family and the

baby's life! That truly means a lot to me. I have always had a

supportive family but now that we have another baby this far into our

lives sure has changed our plans for the future. I'll take it anyday of the week

though. He is so precious that I can't remember what it was like before he was

brought into our lives.

I did come home this afternoon. I was not sure if it was the right

thing to do but I went with my gut and came home. My pain has been better today

even though there are the moments when I can feel like screaming.

I have truly been fortunate that all of my regular medications have

kept my RSD under control for the most part.

Hope you have a wonderful evening,

Lori