Re: Frustrating people and psychology

[Guest guest]

Bennie:

Thank you for describing some of the various conditions people who exude an air

of superiority may have. I can only guess that some incidents must have occured

in my earlier life that have made me particularly sensitive to " toxic " people.

I left a fairly good job because three of my co-workers were " toxic " and rather

than engage human resources and fight these people's exhibitions of manic

behavior, I just resigned and have never looked back despite it being a struggle

in these tough economic times.

I have finally overcome the feeling of being awe struck whenever I encounter the

person who cuts me off in traffic or blocks the grocery store aisle because it

has become so commonplace and that to some degree I can write their behavior off

as not being personally directed at me, it could have just as easily happened to

someone else, I just happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time.

But everyone has days when they can more easily tolerate the egomaniac than

other days, and most certainly, the reverse is true. There are times when you

feel like erupting like a volcano all over rude, inconsiderate people without

caring why they are what they are.

I used to think that possibly living in a smaller community might be the

solution but it's only a matter of mathematics, there are just fewer toxic

people living in smaller towns. The choice then is to either become a hermit or

deal with it the best you can.

Keavan

[Guest guest]

Moderator's note:

Find a new roommate asap.

Kaylene

I am having issues with my roommate-his ego, his superior feeling over me.

I am so depressed and overwhelmed that I am seriously considering a stay in

the psych ward. Will be discussing this with my therapist tomorrow. I just

don't know how to not let him get to me.

Pam

[Guest guest]

>Keavan wrote:

>There are times when you feel like erupting like a volcano all over rude,

inconsiderate people without caring why they are what they are.

>I used to think that possibly living in a smaller community might be the

solution but it's only a matter of mathematics, there are just fewer toxic

people living in smaller towns. The choice then is to either become a hermit or

deal with it the best you can.

Keavan,

Remember, you are not the target, that phrase has helped me and it means that

the other person has the problem and their trigger is the target.

When I go to my Dad's with the 88 acres and the laid back environment, I know I

want to be in the country but this type of environment can come from a park your

visit or other hobbies or choices, you chose to get out of a toxic environment

and it probably the the better for it.

As far as drivers that block or cut me off, my colorful Mom would say, Go ahead

Hell is not half full and I am not killing myself or cause my blood pressure to

go up because of them.

If you can, read Glasser's Reality Therapy, it gives good exercises to

bring you back to reality that keep you out of toxic environments.

People who try to be overly nice tend to let people be toxic to them ( a dumping

ground ) I did this because I thought I was supposed to let people talk to me

that way as I wanted to appear " nice " but it is okay to take up for yourself

logically. So you are a nice guy who cares about people and it happens to many

of us, so you are not alone.

Keep the toxic sludge off you.

Bennie