Re: Parenting pains -

[Guest guest]

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The " me time " issue is something I can relate with.  That is Chelsey's biggest

issue I think.  She may be 15 but, her mom has been distracted from her by both

and my back pain issues.  I feel for her but I do try to do as much as

I can with both the younger girls.  It is enough, but just not often enough for

them. 

 

My pregnancy with is what brought on the majority of my lower back

issues.  When she dropped at 8 months, the pressure from her head ruptured 2 of

my lumbar discs.  I went down in an instant, at the kitchen sink, while doing

dishes.  I ended up spending the last week of my pregnancy in the hospital on a

morphine drip.  They sent me home while I was contracting and ended up back

within 6 hours for an emergency c-section.  Her heart rate kept dropping and I

could not handle to pain so my blood pressure was sky rocketing. 

 

I also had to have surgery while I was 6 month pregnant with her.  It was a

pretty simple procedure, heck, it wasn't really even surgery but I had to be put

under general anesthesia to have a stint placement for hydronephrosis. My kidney

was enlarged, fluid (urine) was backing up into it, causing an enlarged kidney

and was in jeopardy of complications from that.  Being put under while carrying

my little life was so terrifying.  My last words to everyone there was, " just

take care of my baby " . 

 

I just keep trying to remember that I am trying and hoping for the day that my

back will heal and my health will soar.  Seems like I keep getting kicked down

with one major issue after another along with my back.  My system is so taxed by

my pain that it is causing a lower resistance to everything else (my theory). 

So in many ways, I can relate to your issues just on a different level. 

 

It feels good to talk to someone about mothering with younger children, in the

life situation we are in.  Thank you and thank you to everyone else who has

shared their parenting stories.  They help.

 

What type of an infusion did you get and what caused such reaction?  I am glad

that you are okay and hope that it brings you the relief you are looking for.

 

Take care and have my fingers crossed for you too!

 

Janeene

wrote:

She needs her " me time " , too.

[Guest guest]

Janeene,

<What type of an infusion did you get and what caused such reaction?

I am glad that you are okay and hope that it brings you the relief you

are looking for.>

I had an infusion of Remicaid to help with crohn's disease. Not sure

if it will work, but I did have a very good day today food-wise, so

I'm hopeful. We dont' know what caused the reaction. It's normal to

give benedryl at the time they start, so now we just know that I need

a stronger antihistamine.

I'm sorry you had so many complications while you were pregnant. For

one thing, it causes constant worry. For another, it's got to be hard

not to associate pain with having your daughter! Now, I'm being a bit

tongue in cheek, so please don't think I really believe you blame her.

It's just that I have so many pleasant memories to associate with my

pregnancies (and the easiest labors in the history of the world), that

it saddens me when other people don't.

I try to comfort myself with the knowledge that my kids are happy and

healthy. What I tell myself is that as long as it happens to me, as

long as they don't get sick or suffer, I can handle ANYTHING. It

would be unbearable for me if this were to happen to them! My husband

has had both viral encephalitis and viral menengitis (the latter just

last year). He's also had a slipped disc and major nerve damage to

one of his fingers (although his is not chronic, and he is not in any

level of pain on a regular basis, thank god!). Between the two of us

(and grandparents, too, actually), we've gotten everything covered and

there's nothing left to happen to the children.

As mony python says, always look on the bright side of life.

<My system is so taxed by my pain that it is causing a lower

resistance to everything else (my theory).  So in many ways, I can

relate to your issues just on a different level.>

I am on immuno suppresents for crohn's, so I know that a lot of my

minor issues actually ARE related to my illnesses, so what's to say

that some of yours aren't related to merely your immune system trying

to fight off other illnesses?

 

> It feels good to talk to someone about mothering with younger

children, in the life situation we are in.  Thank you and thank you to

everyone else who has shared their parenting stories.  They help.>

It does! Talking to other parents in general just isn't the same.

How they are able to deal with their kids is completely impossible for

me sometimes. Not to mention that their kids tend to be normal.

P.S. Happy Thanksgiving!