Blocked Driveway & Frustration

[Guest guest]

Excerpt from a recent post by Jade is the subject of my posting;

" Oh, yeah, and as long as I am at it, I had stopped that Wednesday on the drive

home to

get some cold water to drink. The woman in the long-aisled store would not move

her body

nor her cart out of my way, and I was not well enough to walk the 40 feet around

the

other end of the aisle to get to the other side of her to reach the water. She

was being

purposely obnoxious. "

When I read this, my first thought was to post a question to anyone really, but

especially to those in this group who may have or be studying psychology,

sociology, etc., and can offer some reasoning as to why there is a percentage of

the population that think they own the world and the rest of us are just

nuisances.

Examples are just as described " ...would not move her body nor her cart out of

my way, " then there's the one who parks directly in front of the business where

the driveway is clearly painted red so as to indicate it is a fire lane and not

to be parked in for any length of time. The people who purposely take up two

parking spaces because their car is so much more important than yours. Often

their driving habits are such that they occupy two lanes, think nothing of

passing you then pulling right in front of you and slowing down because you

weren't going fast enough for them.

My questions are what is the formal term for these people besides selfish and

why do they act as if the world and everything in it belongs to them and the

rest of us are " in their way, " and most important - what's the best way to deal

with these egomaniac's ?

In the case of the grocery store aisle - unless these people are blind, which

they aren't, it's obvious that there's only so much width available in the aisle

and especially if the store puts up product displays which sit out in front of

the shelves reducing the normal width of the aisle, there's only so much room -

usually just enough for two people with carts to pass.

If one of those people is smack in the middle of the aisle, how are you supposed

to pass if they don't move ? But what a terrible inconvenience for them to have

to move to one side or the other to let another pass by, or so it would seem.

Keavan

[Guest guest]

Curses!!!!

I hate it when the universe conspires against me. How insane. I am sorry

about the rude woman who clearly has her own issues. I also hate that smug

little smile that the officer gave you.

But you do need to speak up for yourself. I do ask people to move aside in

stores. Most people don't have to be asked, but occasionally some do. Do

it politely and 99 times out of 100 they will appologize and move. She

probably wouldn't have moved and yelled at you anyway, but as I said, she

has her own issues.

Do you have a handicapped tag or licence plate? If not, then you might ask

your doctor about getting one for exactly the car in the driveway

problem. If so, then politely point it out to the officer & ask again if

there is anyway to get your car to the driveway.

Take care.

On Fri, May 21, 2010 at 11:18 PM, jade tadaima wrote:

> Venting here.

>

> I drove 2 hours to see my Neurosurgeon on Wednesday, then 2 hours home.

> When I got home, the police had stopped a car and the car they stopped was

> blocking half of my driveway. I asked the officer to please move the car

> from my driveway. He said if I can get in fine, otherwise go somewhere and

> park that they were going to have to tow the car and were waiting for the

> tow truck. The two 20-somethings were sitting on the curb in handcuffs; one

> male and one female. Not that who the drivers were matters to this story.

>

> I ended up having to park two blocks away, and around the corner in a

> one-hour zone. And, I had to walk home. I was limping along home and I saw

> the officer talking on his cell phone and smiled at me.

>

> I was so tired, and completely stiff from driving for so long, and in

> severe pain from the poking and prodding by the Neurosurgeon. Also, I

> had been heading heading Westbound all the way home from my appointment

> in the 89 degree weather sitting in the full sun . I was hot and tired

> and stiff, and just not well.

>

> About 40 min later, they towed the car from my driveway. Then, to avoid

> getting a ticket, I had no choice but to go out, walk the 2 blocks to my car

> and drive it into my driveway. They are always ticketing, and due to

> construction in the area, the tickets are even higher than usual.

>

> My complaint is that after the 2 block walk home in the scorching heat and

> then sitting down for the 40 min, I had become even more stiff and painful.

> I don't know if you know what I mean, but after being active and out and

> about, once I get home, that's it. Period. I need to just stay home and

> relax. But, in this case, I got home and could not relax. I was so

> stressed and anxious about my car, it was horrible. I got indigestion, and

> was so dehydrated and the more water I drank the more nauseous I became. It

> was like I was suffering from heat stroke.

>

> That was Wednesday afternoon that this happened. So, I had a very bad day

> yesterday (Thursday), recouperating from the long drive and the doctor's

> poking

> and prodding. My entire body feels so sore.

>

> Oh, yeah, and as long as I am at it, I had stopped that Wednesday on the

> drive home to get some cold water to drink. The woman in the long-aisled

> store would not move her body nor her cart out of my way, and I was not well

> enough to walk the 40 feet around the other end of the aisle to get to the

> other side of her to reach the water. She was being purposely obnoxious.

>

> So I just stood there waiting, and when she turned sideways leaned forward,

> and I saw my opportunity. I snuck by without bumping her or her cart.

> Then, when she turned around I was on the other side of her getting my cold

> water and already walking to the checkout. But, she started yelling at me

> at the top of her lungs.

>

> She said I shouldn't have been hovering over her like that and I should

> have just told her to move and who do I think I am. I just told her

> politely that 'telling her what to do was the very last thing I would ever

> want to do so I politely chose to wait for my opportunity to pass and then

> passed.' And, she went completely hysterical yelling loudly for the entire

> store to hear. I just paid for my water and left.

>

> I guess Wednesday was just not my day.

>

> Thank you for letting me share.

> Jade

>

>

>

>

>

>