Guest guest Posted June 5, 2000 Report Share Posted June 5, 2000 Hey Becky, I'm sure several of us can relate to and understand the feeling of " anger " and it's OK to be mad, pissed off, furious, angry, and even upset a little. You are there now and it will take a little time to blunt the feelings, be careful of letting the anger turn inward toward yourself, it's not your fault. Be kind to you, make decisions for YOU and try to be gentle with others. BTW sometimes anger helps deal with pain and othertimes it makes it last longer, GEE another " trial and error " situation. Gook luck and hang in there Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 5, 2000 Report Share Posted June 5, 2000 In a message dated 6/5/2000 2:22:36 PM Eastern Daylight Time, briffle@... writes: << Sorry, today I am not feeling like a very enthusiastic person. I don't feel I can post because I cannot be as supporting or uplifting as all of you have been. I am sorry to let you all down. Take Care. >> Becky, I am so sorry to hear you going through this emotionally. Don't feel as if you are letting the group down by being the way you are. It is important that we express our true feelings and have an outlet for these. You don't have to be supportive, you need support. We are here for you, don't forget. The feelings you have right now, believe me when I say, have been felt by the majority of the members of our group if they have been afflicted with this illness long enough. Emotionally, it gets to us all. Like you, I don't go to church any longer either, for the same reasons. I have become a social recluse and, the longer I am ill, the worse it is getting. Very few people I currently interact with since I am tired of explaining my health to people and why I don't look worse than I do (frustrating). Just hang in there Becky. Just venting your emotions is enough for me to know that I am not alone in my feelings. You are important to the group as you are, there is no need for anyone to feel they need to be supportive. Take care. We all go through these cycles. Andre' Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 5, 2000 Report Share Posted June 5, 2000 In a message dated 6/5/00 2:51:05 PM Central Daylight Time, acastenell@... writes: << Emotionally, it gets to us all. Like you, I don't go to church any longer either, for the same reasons. I have become a social recluse and, the longer I am ill, the worse it is getting. Very few people I currently interact with since I am tired of explaining my health to people and why I don't look worse than I do (frustrating). >> i guess that goes with the territory. a lot of times i just really don't feel like doing anything, but i find myself not talking as much to our neighbors even, because it's always an explanation of " how are you feeling " " are you any better? " etc; and you really don't know if you are any better off or not. if it is someone new and you say " pancreatitis " they just ohhhhhhhhh. like they understand, but they don't have a clue. rehashing things over and over gets to be old with anything - much less something that has kind of taken over your life. today was not a good day for me either - and believe it or not it made me feel a little better to know that i wasn't the only one!! ha. that's pretty bad, hugh? Good luck on the mayo clinic route! keep us up with what is going on. debbie (ark) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 5, 2000 Report Share Posted June 5, 2000 Hey Becky, I'm sure several of us can relate to and understand the feeling of "anger" and it's OK to be mad, pissed off, furious, angry, and even upset a little. You are there now and it will take a little time to blunt the feelings, be careful of letting the anger turn inward toward yourself, it's not your fault. Be kind to you, make decisions for YOU and try to be gentle with others. BTW sometimes anger helps deal with pain and othertimes it makes it last longer, GEE another "trial and error" situation. Gook luck and hang in there I believe that I have already turned the anger inward. I do feel it is my fault. I've lost my job because of this mess. I am not working and bringing in money for our family. My husband is having to bear the burden of this. I can not even give him the children he desires at this point. He does not ever complain and is totally supportive of me, but I still feel terrible! My anger continues, basically because I do not understand why me? I ask God for reasons and I get NO answers! So yes I am basically pissed at everyone and everything. To top it off Dr.s only way of helping you is to shove anti depressants down your throat. I refuse to become a zombie! Right now I am angry and I can't seem to break out of this stage! Thank you for your support. Becky Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 5, 2000 Report Share Posted June 5, 2000 Becky, I am so sorry to hear you going through this emotionally. Don't feel as if you are letting the group down by being the way you are. It is important that we express our true feelings and have an outlet for these. You don't have to be supportive, you need support. We are here for you, don't forget. The feelings you have right now, believe me when I say, have been felt by the majority of the members of our group if they have been afflicted with this illness long enough. Emotionally, it gets to us all. Like you, I don't go to church any longer either, for the same reasons. I have become a social recluse and, the longer I am ill, the worse it is getting. Very few people I currently interact with since I am tired of explaining my health to people and why I don't look worse than I do (frustrating). Just hang in there Becky. Just venting your emotions is enough for me to know that I am not alone in my feelings. You are important to the group as you are, there is no need for anyone to feel they need to be supportive. Take care. We all go through these cycles. Andre' Like always you know exactly how to relate. Thank you for that! The only feeling I have at this point is pissed! I do not understand what God's purpose for all of this is. Why me? Why now? Most importantly, why do I get no answers? My whole life has ben ruined! I realize it isn't just my life....it's others. My husband, my mom, my neices and nephews, my sisters and brother, my in laws. This existence I call a life has affected everyone. My problem? I can't fix it! I am use to fixing everything, for everyone.....except I can't fix it for myself. I don't like having my mental abilities questioned. I do not like having to rely on others, I am use to relying on myself. Maybe I am angry because I scaird. I don't know, all I know is I am stuck in an anger phase and I can't get out! I can't stand to be around people because I just know they are going to question me about my disease, or question my judgement on my medical treatment. My sister does this. I love her to death, but she is constantly critisizing my decisions. I feel like a child who has done something wrong after I am done talking to her. So I just don't talk to her as much. Same with church, I am tired of the questions and repeating the info over and over. Well enough of my rambling.... Thank you again Andre. Becky Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2000 Report Share Posted June 6, 2000 In a message dated 6/5/00 11:22:38 AM Pacific Daylight Time, briffle@... writes: << I am sorry to let you all down. >> Becky, Don't ever think you have let us down. We are here for you anytime. It doesn't matter if you are having good or bad days. This sight is here to give each of us much needed support. Whether it be to offer each other encouraging words, offer a link or two for important information, or to just plain vent. Whatever the reason you log on we are all here for each other. We won't ever look at it as letting each other down, but lifting each other up. GOD BLESS, MARIE (KS.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 7, 2000 Report Share Posted June 7, 2000 marie, very well put. i was very depressed this past week in the hospital. I wished that I had a laptop so I could talk to you guy's. I hope that everyone is having a painfree day. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 27, 2000 Report Share Posted June 27, 2000 In a message dated 06/05/2000 1:22:40 PM Central Daylight Time, briffle@... writes: << I am still NOT excepting things, I am mad as all get out about this....this should not be happening to me! Right now I an not good company to anyone. I have quit going to church so people will quit asking me about my problems. I stay away from everyone so I don't have to make excuses for the way I feel, because as we all know I certainly don't look ill! Now I am no longer acute, but chronic. Sorry, today I am not feeling like a very enthusiastic person. I don't feel I can post because I can not be as supporting or uplifting as all of you have been. I am sorry to let you all down. Take Care. Becky >> Becky, Don't ever apologize for expressing your true emotions. Having to come to terms with this disease is difficult and we are all at different stages in this process. Some of us have come to terms with it better than others. Some of us have more good days than bad days and vice versa. This place is a safe place for us all to express how we really feel. It is important to get the feelings out so that they do not fester and cause more problems. Any time you need to vent and feel no one is around, I'm here. Strong emotions that people experience and express do not upset me and I can be a good sounding board. Anytime you need to contact me I'm at smraef@.... Sandy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 27, 2000 Report Share Posted June 27, 2000 In a message dated 06/05/2000 8:41:02 PM Central Daylight Time, briffle@... writes: << The only feeling I have at this point is pissed! I do not understand what God's purpose for all of this is. Why me? Why now? Most importantly, why do I get no answers? My whole life has ben ruined! I realize it isn't just my life....it's others. My husband, my mom, my neices and nephews, my sisters and brother, my in laws. This existence I call a life has affected everyone. My problem? I can't fix it! I am use to fixing everything, for everyone.....except I can't fix it for myself. I don't like having my mental abilities questioned. I do not like having to rely on others, I am use to relying on myself. Maybe I am angry because I scaird. I don't know, all I know is I am stuck in an anger phase and I can't get out! I can't stand to be around people because I just know they are going to question me about my disease, or question my judgement on my medical treatment. >> Becky, It sounds that you are angry because of losing your independence and are afraid that you have no control over anything in your life right now. For those of us that have always been very independent people this is extremely difficult to lose! Then to feel like maybe we are a burden on anyone really is another difficult area to deal with. Becky, you have probably been taking care of or helping to take care of others for years. Do you resent this or feel that those you are caring for are a burden? Of course not. Your loved ones will not feel you are a burden unless you make it a problem. If we turn our anger inward or strick out at others we run the risk of pushing people away from us or even running them off. These are all really common reactions considering what we experience with this disease process. We do need to allow our loved ones to care for us as we have cared for them. The reason they are called loved ones is because they love us and want to take care of us. This has been a really difficult aspect for me to come to terms with. I hate the feeling of my life being out of control. I sometimes have to just stop and try to get some perspective and find my focal point again. Becky, please don't blow off the possibility of depression though. Depression is a very common thing as you know with this disease and how it turns our lives upside down. For me I no longer get the angry outbursts with the depression and didn't really realize that this is what it really was. Now I know I'm becoming depressed again because I get so weepy and get to where I am no longer able to function well. For my daughter, her depression comes out only as anger. For many people the underlying feelings of so much anger is depression. I don't know if any of this is helpful at all. I am here for you and hope you find some relief soon so that you can start feeling better soon. Sandy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2000 Report Share Posted June 28, 2000 In a message dated 6/28/00 1:47:23 AM Eastern Daylight Time, smraef@... writes: << Becky, please don't blow off the possibility of depression though. Depression is a very common thing as you know with this disease >> NEWS BULLETIN ******* " A new study shows that licking the sweat off a frog can cure depression. The down side is, the minute you stop licking, the frog gets depressed again. " Poncho Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 28, 2000 Report Share Posted June 28, 2000 In a message dated 6/28/00 11:20:14 AM Central Daylight Time, poncho9191@... writes: << NEWS BULLETIN ******* " A new study shows that licking the sweat off a frog can cure depression. The down side is, the minute you stop licking, the frog gets depressed again. " Poncho >> LOL you are so funny. debbie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 30, 2000 Report Share Posted June 30, 2000 Poncho Thanks for the laugh!!!! You are too funny. (Indy) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 30, 2000 Report Share Posted June 30, 2000 HI BECKY, That a girl, let it out. Don't keep it to yourself. What you are feeling is only natural. Been there done that sort of thing. Haven't been to church myself in months, but trying to keep the faith when you feel so lousy I know is very difficult. Hang in there. Hope you feel better I have not had a very pleasant week myself. PainNNNNNNNNNNNN. Chin up and keep on going......Like the little bunny. LOL>>>>>> K. >From: smraef@... >Reply-To: pancreatitisegroups >To: pancreatitisegroups >Subject: Re: Off to Mayo!! >Date: Tue, 27 Jun 2000 22:10:10 EDT > >In a message dated 06/05/2000 1:22:40 PM Central Daylight Time, >briffle@... writes: > ><< I am still NOT excepting things, I am mad as all get out about > this....this should not be happening to me! Right now I an not good > company to anyone. I have quit going to church so people will quit > asking me about my problems. I stay away from everyone so I don't have > to make excuses for the way I feel, because as we all know I certainly > don't look ill! Now I am no longer acute, but chronic. Sorry, today I > am not feeling like a very enthusiastic person. I don't feel I can post > because I can not be as supporting or uplifting as all of you have > been. I am sorry to let you all down. Take Care. > > Becky >> >Becky, > >Don't ever apologize for expressing your true emotions. Having to come to >terms with this disease is difficult and we are all at different stages in >this process. Some of us have come to terms with it better than others. >Some of us have more good days than bad days and vice versa. This place is >a >safe place for us all to express how we really feel. It is important to >get >the feelings out so that they do not fester and cause more problems. Any >time you need to vent and feel no one is around, I'm here. Strong >emotions >that people experience and express do not upset me and I can be a good >sounding board. Anytime you need to contact me I'm at smraef@.... > >Sandy ________________________________________________________________________ Get Your Private, Free E-mail from MSN Hotmail at http://www.hotmail.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 30, 2000 Report Share Posted June 30, 2000 HI BECKY, That a girl, let it out. Don't keep it to yourself. What you are feeling is only natural. Been there done that sort of thing. Haven't been to church myself in months, but trying to keep the faith when you feel so lousy I know is very difficult. Hang in there. Hope you feel better I have not had a very pleasant week myself. PainNNNNNNNNNNNN. Chin up and keep on going......Like the little bunny. LOL>>>>>> K. Thank you , I hope you are feeling beter......Becky Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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