Re: Frustrating people and psychology

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> keavan

> When I read this, my first thought was to post a question to anyone really,

but especially to those in this group who may have or be studying psychology,

sociology, etc., and can offer some reasoning as to why there is a percentage of

the population that think they own the world and the rest of us are just

nuisances.

Keaven:

They are insecure and they get think the control puts them in a figure of

authority and have the right to tell others what to do and are unhappy

with what they truly should control and be involved with. I read a book years

ago, " You are not the target " and I try to remember that when someone

negative is dealing with me and I just try to be nice and ask how I can help and

then do what I want or if I can, try to do so.Bennie

The APA American Psychiatric Association has a great website and maybe you could

find some answers there. Also Ann Rand on objectivism might help.

It just is that way as some people are stuck at a certain age of maturity and

has not moved forward, Maslows Hierarchy to Needs or Motivation also

explains people's station in life if needs are not meet.

The people may be just narcissistic as characteristics below:

An all-pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), need for

admiration or adulation and lack of empathy, usually beginning by early

adulthood and present in various contexts. Five (or more) of the following

criteria must be met:

• Feels grandiose and self-important (e.g., exaggerates achievements and

talents to the point of lying,demands to be recognized as superior without

commensurate achievements)

• Is obsessed with fantasies of unlimited success, fame, fearsome power or

omnipotence, unequalledbrilliance (the cerebral narcissist), bodily beauty or

sexual performance (the somatic narcissist), or ideal, everlasting,

all-conquering love or passion

• Firmly convinced that he or she is unique and, being special, can only be

understood by, should only be treated by, or associate with, other special or

unique, or high-status people (or institutions)

• Requires excessive admiration, adulation, attention and affirmation - or,

failing that, wishes to be feared and to be notorious (narcissistic supply)

• Feels entitled. Expects unreasonable or special and favorable priority

treatment. Demands automaticand full compliance with his or her expectations

• Is " interpersonally exploitative " , i.e., uses others to achieve his or her

own ends

• Devoid of empathy. Is unable or unwilling to identify with or acknowledge the

feelings and needs of others

• Constantly envious of others or believes that they feel the same about him or

her

• Arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes coupled with rage when frustrated,

contradicted, or confronted

I just stay away from that type of toxic behavior as I can. Hope that helps

Bennie

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[Guest guest]

I agree, don't even think about it, just find a way to be rid of him. This is

what I would consider a crisis situation.

Jennette

>Pam Spacek wrote:

>I am having issues with my roommate-his ego, his superior feeling over me. I am

so depressed and overwhelmed that I am seriously considering a stay in the psych

ward. Will be discussing this with my therapist tomorrow. I just don't know

how to not let him get to me.

[Guest guest]

My therapist does not support me going to the hospital. She says I am

strong enough to deal with this issue. She has more faith in me than I do.

Pam