Guest guest Posted August 10, 2010 Report Share Posted August 10, 2010 MsKaturah wrote: > > Being in constant pain not only affects you but also affects your family, your spouse, and your children. No one wants to see their loved ones hurting. Ms Katurah, I just wanted to mention that your pain effects others but they need to be educated about it and how it effects the pain process. It is important that family be involved in understanding and helping in an effective way as sometimes they don't because they do not know how. It is a burden for those in pain to keep the pain inside just because they want to be considerate to family. I have seen people not ask for help and be more in pain because of this. Just a point of view. Bennie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 10, 2010 Report Share Posted August 10, 2010 I fully agree with you they do need to be educated All of my sons & husband know about my pain & what causes it.While I wasn't looking 1 day they looked up all the many syndromes & disabilities I have.I told them what I had when all the tests came back.The oldest looked them up on the internet & found out everything he & his brothers wanted to know.He was 18 at the time I went into a massive flare ( I guess you would call it) & wound up in the wheelchair for about 2 years He is also the 1 who died 3 days after the christian holiday of Christmas last year. But back to the subject that the family members who live with you need to be educated about the different types of pain you all live with. My sons took it upon themselves to study what I had & how they could help their mom on the daily basis . Blessed be, Ms.Katurah Bennie wrote: I just wanted to mention that your pain effects others but they need to be educated about it and how it effects the pain process. It is important that family be involved in understanding and helping in an effective way as sometimes they don't because they do not know how. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 10, 2010 Report Share Posted August 10, 2010 MsKaturah wrote: > I fully agree with you they do need to be educated. All of my sons and husband know about my pain and what causes it. > My sons took it upon themselves to study what I had and how they could help their mom on the daily basis. Ms Katurah, How lucky you are to have the understanding and my husband goes to every appointment with me and ask questions. My disability took a toll on my son as I was the energetic member of the person of the family who cooked, gardened, and everything else and I cannot now. I had roses all in my yard and changed my yard to easy maintenance and my son one say went and planted roses all over my yard and said I wanted it to look like it used to. It is a mourning and acceptance process and some families thing their family members should just " buck up " or are making some of it up. I am sorry about your loss, losing a child is very hard and I know your faith sustains you. Thank you for your insight, I always enjoy reading them. Bennie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 11, 2010 Report Share Posted August 11, 2010 MsKaturah, I suffer from depression also. I'm on one medication. I just got off another one last April. So I'm doing good. I have to keep myself busy which is kind of hard with limited income. I mostly watch TV when I'm not working. I should do other things too but hard and I'm not motivate to things like that. I'm just getting back of reading books. I used to read books when I was younger and love doing it but lost interest so now I'm trying to read again. I'm a sucker for crocheting and and I can do hook rug. Most of the time I'm on the computer talking to people on Facebook. Christa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 12, 2010 Report Share Posted August 12, 2010 Ms. Katurah wrote: I knit, crochet, paint, make jewelry, make candles, make soap, sew with a machine, to make quilts, x-mas stockings and needlework such as embroidery and weave. Awesome ideas. MsKaturah When I feel down, I like to do anything where I can literally 'see a difference.' For example, I like gardening because afterwards, I can see the plants grow and then smile at me with their flowers. Or, something like drawing or painting, because I first see the blank canvas, and then afterward I see that I accomplished something. It makes me feel good to feel like I've accomplished something. It doesn't have to be a mountain that I moved, just as long as I keep me moving and in motion in one way or another. Jade Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 24, 2010 Report Share Posted August 24, 2010 Thank you for the words of wisdom and suggestions. Last night I found out just how effected the children are. My 15 yr old was asked by her step-father to help making dinner for the next week, so she can learn some skills. She just broke down in tears. I didn't realize she was watching my deteriorating condition and thinking I wasn't going to be around. I wish there was more I could do for them besides clarifying that I don't plan on going anywhere soon and to let her know that I will do all I can for as long as I can. MsKaturah wrote: > > Just remember you are not alone. There are many people out there that are dealing with depression. > > Being in constant pain not only affects you but also affects your family, your spouse, and your children. No one wants to see their loved ones hurting. > > Talking also seems to help. Talk to a counselor, your priest or priestess, or your religious preacher. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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