Trying to learn how to cope with husbands chronic pain

[Guest guest]

I am new to this group and am hoping that I can learn how to help my

husband.

He started having severe back pain,muscle spasm's and weakness

last December and since then he has gone downhill. Doctors are still

running test after test. They have him on loratab and a muscle

relaxant.

The problem is that he can't do a quarter of the activities

that he was able to do only 8 months ago. He's starting to really beat

himself up and he's getting more emotional as time goes on. He keeps

apologizing to me and told me he knows that I didn't sign up for this

(we were married Oct 07). I keep trying to reassure him that I love him

no matter what and that we'll just get thru this together.

Last weekend we were making a flower bed and he wanted to use the rototiller

and after acouple of minutes he was in severe pain so I took over. He

wanted to try it again and I wouldn't let him and he started crying.

He

doesn't want to face that he has limitations and I don't want to come

off as the bad person telling him he shouldn't do something. Any

suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks, Betty