Re: I am very disappointed and upset. :(

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Krista...

I only saw one email from Willisa, her intro one... I did respond to that

one... but I don't know if it made it into the group. I hope it did, I am

going to check in and see... Is that what you are talking about, or about

yesterday only? Just wondering... I figured I'd post to her again when she

posted after the surgery...

********Amy********

wife to 2/14/97

mommy to...

6/18/97

~Samara~ 6/30/98 (ectopic pregnancy)

~Noah~ 7/16/99 (ectopic pregnancy)

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Whew... I feel better now. Well, not completely. I do wish that there were

more responses to Willisa's post, and I'm sorry you were upset about it. But

I did check and my response to her intro post went through. There were a few

others... Was there another post that I missed? I know I never got anything

else from her in my email, and if there was something in the group I must've

over looked it...

********Amy********

wife to 2/14/97

mommy to...

6/18/97

~Samara~ 6/30/98 (ectopic pregnancy)

~Noah~ 7/16/99 (ectopic pregnancy)

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Kim,

I just want to remind you that you can talk to me anytime you feel the need

to... I'm always here!!

********Amy********

wife to 2/14/97

mommy to...

6/18/97

~Samara~ 6/30/98 (ectopic pregnancy)

~Noah~ 7/16/99 (ectopic pregnancy)

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Krista and all,

I just want to apologize to everyone b/c I know I have not been

reponding to posts often enough.Losing this last baby has really been rough

on me and I have felt overwelmed all to often. Also I have been sick with

the stomach flu much of this week. I will try to be more active in the group

in the future. Kim P

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Krista,

I emailed Willisa and I thought I saw several other emails to her.Was I

mistaken?

Tina

>From: kcherub@...

>Reply-To: ectopicpregnancyegroups

>To: ectopicpregnancyegroups

>Subject: I am very disappointed and upset.

>Date: Sat, 2 Dec 2000 20:25:43 EST

>

>We have a new member who wrote to the group about her surgery (which was

>yesterday), and I haven't seen one reply yet. What are the members who

>have

>just lost a child going to think? Willisa wrote to us about the impending

>loss of her child, and no one even cared!!!!

>

>I have seen tons of posts about TTC, but none about anything else! I

>appreciate the frustrations and information that must be shared about all

>aspects of our ectopics, but when something so sensitive is ignored, it

>makes

>me sick to my stomach. I won't even go into how I feel about the few

>responses to Jo-Ann about Tessa's birth...

>

>I am so disappointed and am not sure what steps I am going to take. I can

>promise that I will not shut the list down on you. I wouldn't even think

>about it.

>

>Take care,

>Krista

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In a message dated 12/4/00 11:47:13 AM Central Standard Time,

rsross@... writes:

<< Just because we are on the subject, I would like to mention that I

was VERY disappointed by the lack of response to . She was

the woman who wrote in about discovering a ruptured ep 6 MONTHS AFTER

IT HAPPENED, and loosing her ovary in the surgery that followed. Her

story was so amazing, I think people did not quite get it. Besides

mine, there was one other response. Since then I exchanged some

emails with privately, and I can tell you she needs support.

She is so frightened by the near-death experience she'd had, and so

desperate for any hope and information. She has not posted much b/c

she is still trying to figure out how to use email and the Web, but

promised she will start visiting again.

>>

I don't even remember reading about this one... I wonder if I was still on

digest or if it was when I got really down and withdrew from everything...

Amy

*married to my army man,

*mommy to...

~ 6/18/97

Samara~ 6/30/98 (ectopic pregnancy)

Noah~ 7/16/99 (ectopic pregnancy)

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Krista -

If you are talking about Willisa, there were many responses to her.

Just do a search of the archive on " Willisa " and you will see.

Just because we are on the subject, I would like to mention that I

was VERY disappointed by the lack of response to . She was

the woman who wrote in about discovering a ruptured ep 6 MONTHS AFTER

IT HAPPENED, and loosing her ovary in the surgery that followed. Her

story was so amazing, I think people did not quite get it. Besides

mine, there was one other response. Since then I exchanged some

emails with privately, and I can tell you she needs support.

She is so frightened by the near-death experience she'd had, and so

desperate for any hope and information. She has not posted much b/c

she is still trying to figure out how to use email and the Web, but

promised she will start visiting again.

Either people did not respond to Steph b/c they did not quite

understand her story, or b/c she did not present her story from the

fresh perspective of losing a pg. It does not make her loss any less.

It is a miracle that she has survived at all - how many cases have

you heard of when a women walks around with a ruptured tube for 6

months! Her loss is even greater than many of ours b/c she lost one

ovary, and nearly lost the other one. She is still unsure of the

condition of the remaining ovary.

I am sorry it's taken me this long to bring the lack of response to

people's attention. I will be more proactive next time.

a

> We have a new member who wrote to the group about her surgery

(which

was

> yesterday), and I haven't seen one reply yet. What are the members

who have

> just lost a child going to think? Willisa wrote to us about the

impending

> loss of her child, and no one even cared!!!!

>

> I have seen tons of posts about TTC, but none about anything else!

I

> appreciate the frustrations and information that must be shared

about all

> aspects of our ectopics, but when something so sensitive is

ignored,

it makes

> me sick to my stomach. I won't even go into how I feel about the

few

> responses to Jo-Ann about Tessa's birth...

>

> I am so disappointed and am not sure what steps I am going to take.

I can

> promise that I will not shut the list down on you. I wouldn't even

think

> about it.

>

> Take care,

> Krista

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a -

I replied to ( and Willisa for that matter) I am wondering

if it didn't post for some reason? I tried doing a search like you

suggested but didn't find anything? I can't believe that I have to

make sure that my posts are sent now along with trying to reply to so

many ( over 150 today). This concerns me -

[Guest guest]

Kim P. I don't think you should apologize. You have always been so

supportive, if you need to take a break, don't worry. We'll be here

for you!

Okay? Okay.

-- In ectopicpregnancyegroups, " S Patty "

<fredandchard@p...> wrote:

> Krista and all,

> I just want to apologize to everyone b/c I know I have not been

> reponding to posts often enough.Losing this last baby has really

been rough

> on me and I have felt overwelmed all to often. Also I have been

sick with

> the stomach flu much of this week. I will try to be more active in

the group

> in the future. Kim P

[Guest guest]

-

Yes, you did reply - I saw your message when doing search. I just

think Steph's message warranted more of an outpouring than the 3

responses she got. It is easy to miss a message in the deluge that you

get every day, but I think you are safe assuming that all your

responses make it through. Actually, I don't use email for this group

- I read the messages and respond through the website. This way I can

do it both at work and from home.

a

> a -

>

> I replied to ( and Willisa for that matter) I am wondering

> if it didn't post for some reason? I tried doing a search like you

> suggested but didn't find anything? I can't believe that I have to

> make sure that my posts are sent now along with trying to reply to

so

> many ( over 150 today). This concerns me -

>

[Guest guest]

,

You are sweet. I know but I have vowed not to withdrawl this time like

last time.And with me going through loss again maybe I can help someone or

they can help me. I want to help when I can. Where are you at in your cycle?

Aren't you due for AF (or not) soon?Thanking positive thoughts for you!

((HUGS)) Kim

[Guest guest]

,

There have been many situation where people have noticed there e-mails

not sending. Sometimes e-groups has problems. Kim

[Guest guest]

Tina,

I don't know if she's still in the group or not... Maybe a can tell

you, it sounds like she's been talking to outside of the group

too... I never responded to her email, but I don't remember seeing it so I

don't even really know what happened...

Amy

*married to my army man,

*mommy to...

~ 6/18/97

Samara~ 6/30/98 (ectopic pregnancy)

Noah~ 7/16/99 (ectopic pregnancy)

[Guest guest]

Kim, that is a great attitude! I hope you are feeling better.

Yes, I am cd 23 today. I am feeling so positive but so scared too.

I bought one of the early hpt's that used. I will let you all

know if and when I decide to use it!

Thanks,

> ,

> You are sweet. I know but I have vowed not to withdrawl this

time like

> last time.And with me going through loss again maybe I can help

someone or

> they can help me. I want to help when I can. Where are you at in

your cycle?

> Aren't you due for AF (or not) soon?Thanking positive thoughts for

you!

> ((HUGS)) Kim

[Guest guest]

Amy,

I feel bad for not responding to 's post.I was new to the group and

had a hard time understanding what she meant.I thought she was saying she

had a ruptured tube for 6 mons.,but I didn't think that was possible so I

thought I wasn't understanding it correctly.Do you know if she is still in

the group,I would like to email her.

Tina

>From: amy11679@...

>Reply-To: ectopicpregnancyegroups

>To: ectopicpregnancyegroups

>Subject: Re: Re: I am very disappointed and upset.

>Date: Mon, 4 Dec 2000 13:22:26 EST

>

>In a message dated 12/4/00 11:47:13 AM Central Standard Time,

>rsross@... writes:

>

><< Just because we are on the subject, I would like to mention that I

> was VERY disappointed by the lack of response to . She was

> the woman who wrote in about discovering a ruptured ep 6 MONTHS AFTER

> IT HAPPENED, and loosing her ovary in the surgery that followed. Her

> story was so amazing, I think people did not quite get it. Besides

> mine, there was one other response. Since then I exchanged some

> emails with privately, and I can tell you she needs support.

> She is so frightened by the near-death experience she'd had, and so

> desperate for any hope and information. She has not posted much b/c

> she is still trying to figure out how to use email and the Web, but

> promised she will start visiting again.

> >>

>

>I don't even remember reading about this one... I wonder if I was still on

>digest or if it was when I got really down and withdrew from everything...

>

>Amy

>*married to my army man,

>*mommy to...

> ~ 6/18/97

> Samara~ 6/30/98 (ectopic pregnancy)

> Noah~ 7/16/99 (ectopic pregnancy)

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I, too, only saw the intro, and did respond. I am not TTC, and therefore new

to the group; I suffered an acute ruptured and almost died.