Way to go, Bennie!

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Bennie wrote:

I remember a self actualization tape I once listened to, repeated over

and over, " I am a kind and caring person and no one bad words can

influence me to behave otherwise (something to that effect).. "  

Hi Bennie and all,

It's a great suggestion for us all to practice " self-talk "  in order to overcome

all of the discouraging thoughts in our minds, especially since our pain can be

very depressing. 

I was struck by your post to Tim, though, because you are such a compassionate,

encouraging person (regarding you having to tell yourself that you are a kind

and caring person).  I guess that the more you have to overcome, the more

potential you have to be a blessing. 

Good for you, going to a movie!  It's worth enjoying an activity, even if you

have to rest up and prepare for it.  I think it makes it that much sweeter. 

Take care, Janie

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Janie Farrens wrote:

> I was struck by your post to Tim, though, because you are such a

> compassionate, encouraging person (regarding you having to tell

> yourself that you are a kind and caring person).  I guess that the

> more you have to overcome, the more potential you have to be a

> blessing. 

>

Janine,

I am a product of a critical upbringing that I had to work years to

overcome. Abuse comes in all forms and absence of praise and criticism

do not equal a very positive self perception.

It took me to age thirty to overcome the years of criticism, forgive my

Father for it, to me and my sisters and Mother. I do not condone it or

allow it anymore and I don't know where I would be today if I would

have the self confidence I could have had. One thing it did do, I

persevered. I also learned a big lesson, never judge someone who is

abused by saying, " They can get out of it " .

Loyalty and beliefs cause some to allow the abuse until a time when

they are receptive for change. I feel sorry for my Father for not

knowing the difference, and maybe someday he will. I will no longer

be a victim so if I am ever blunt, forgive me. Others, have said the

same, they expect

me to be self confident but I have demons I fight daily.

They no longer win but they wrestle me really hard sometimes as

evidenced by my remarks to Cheryl : ( It works out in the end.

Thank you for your kind words and encouragement.

I will have to get some lorespam I talk about as I am doing all

nighters again and flares are around the corner.

I have told myself to end the pity party by morning as it just drags

you down, Right, Robin, RIght Batman

looking forward to a movie escape (Large Popcorn and Husband has to pay

! )

Bennie