Guest guest Posted June 16, 2002 Report Share Posted June 16, 2002 In a message dated 6/16/02 3:01:55 PM Eastern Daylight Time, khan39@... writes: > is only 3 now, but I do not want to have to send an aide to school > with her when she goes to 1st grade, so I have made social skills a > priortity for her. will be three in July... if you could tell me how you did " social skills " I was be very grateful. G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2002 Report Share Posted June 16, 2002 Salli, Jake's IEP very clearly states when he'll be in the sped class and when in reg ed. I was afraid of the same thing. Last year, Jake was in sped ed in the morning for kinder, then with a regular kinder class with an aide in the afternoon. His IEP said that's where he was to be, and he was, unless the teachers cleared it with me first. I knew Jake needed the reg ed kinder class for the socialization. Academically, he was ahead of them (he was the only one who could read at the beginning of the year). The other kids were in awe of him because he could easily do things which they were struggling with. The spec ed class was able to build on his strengths, reading, writing, and math, so I actually feel he learned more with this arrangement. For first grade, we will see. His IEP was written with the assumption that Jake would be attending the same school, but the district, in their great wisdom, created another ABC class (there was only one in the district, this was Jake's spec ed class) and placed it at Jake's home school. The IEP doesnt change (so they tell me, but I think I will have to fight to make sure they observe it) but I will have to deal with completely new teachers. Ironically, this is the same school which I just transferred out of. Janae , 9, ADD Jake, 6, autism Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2002 Report Share Posted June 16, 2002 Salli - If it helps you at all, will be attending a regular ECSE pre-school program in the fall, instead of an autism classroom. She still has behavior problems and serious attention problems, but her social skills have come so far that I feel that if I keep her in the autism classroom, she will not be challenged as much as she could be. She has had the same wonderful teacher since she started services at 22 months old and her teacher helped to train the teacher in the new classroom, so I will have faith that the lord has a plan. is only 3 now, but I do not want to have to send an aide to school with her when she goes to 1st grade, so I have made social skills a priortity for her. I don't care what she learns, as long as she can function in a normal classroom setting. If she only gets c's and d's, than I will live with that, as the only way she seems to learn now is one on one and repetition, but with the ratio in the ECSE program, she will not be getting the one on one - I am doing this with the reservation that if she does not progress or shows any signs of regression, than we will have the option of going back to the autism classroom, but it is more important to me that she function in our world, instead of her own, which is my fear about continuing her in the autism classroom. My priority for her now is that she learn to be independant, not dependant. While I hope someday, she will be capible of becoming a rocket scientist or whatever she chooses, how she learns is more important to me, than what she learns. If I don't give her the opportunity to grow, would I forever question my decision? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2002 Report Share Posted June 16, 2002 She still has behavior problems and serious attention > problems, but her social skills have come so far that I feel that if > I keep her in the autism classroom, she will not be challenged as > much as she could be. : The ONLY reason that I have Putter in school at all is for social skills. The school that has the AI classroom though would offer Putter a regular classroom as well, but it would not be our neighborhood school. But I am afraid that if the AI classroom is too available then Putter will spend too much time in it. But the same thing could happen at his neighborhood school. He might spend all his time in the special ed room where the teacher is a learning disabled teacher (and learning disabled is one thing that Putter is not) rather than an AI classroom where the teacher would understand Putter better. Would starting out at Angling Road school and then finding it was not right for him hurt Putter? I have no idea. Is it better to go for the least restrictive environment right at the beginning and move to more restrictive if necessary? Or is it better to move from most restrictive (which is his current placement) to gradually less and less restrictive environments. The problem is that both those solutions would be right for one child and not another and it is pretty hard to tell where Putter will do best without actually placing him there. I strongly agree that he will not learn social skills well from his AI classmates, but if both schools can provide the typical peers for him? I just don't know. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2002 Report Share Posted June 16, 2002 -Salli, It sounds like the school with the AI classroom and regular ed sounds more friendly in terms of integration. I think an IEP can mandate the number of hours spent in general ed per day. The angling school might harrass you if Putter has even what they perceive as the slightest infraction. On the other hand, if you get him into the school through legal means they may bend over backwards to accomodate him. Thea -- In parenting_autism@y..., " bunnytiner " <bunnytiner@c...> wrote: > She still has behavior problems and serious attention > > problems, but her social skills have come so far that I feel that if > > I keep her in the autism classroom, she will not be challenged as > > much as she could be. > > : > > The ONLY reason that I have Putter in school at all is for social skills. > The school that has the AI classroom though would offer Putter a regular > classroom as well, but it would not be our neighborhood school. > > But I am afraid that if the AI classroom is too available then Putter will > spend too much time in it. But the same thing could happen at his > neighborhood school. He might spend all his time in the special ed room > where the teacher is a learning disabled teacher (and learning disabled is > one thing that Putter is not) rather than an AI classroom where the teacher > would understand Putter better. > > Would starting out at Angling Road school and then finding it was not right > for him hurt Putter? I have no idea. Is it better to go for the least > restrictive environment right at the beginning and move to more restrictive > if necessary? Or is it better to move from most restrictive (which is his > current placement) to gradually less and less restrictive environments. > > The problem is that both those solutions would be right for one child and > not another and it is pretty hard to tell where Putter will do best without > actually placing him there. > > I strongly agree that he will not learn social skills well from his AI > classmates, but if both schools can provide the typical peers for him? > > I just don't know. > > Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2002 Report Share Posted June 16, 2002 If you pot a plant in a planter, where it has no room to grow roots, it will probably not thrive and grow. If you plant it where it has the most sunshine, water and nutrients, it may still not thrive as it gets too much water, or too much sunshine or the wrong nutrients. Better to plant where there is the best opportunity to grow and if you have to, adjust the mix - shade it if necessary, protect it from some of the water, or try a different fertilizer, but I would always choose the opportunity where it has the most room to grow - just my theory for also. You have been educating the teachers the whole time Putter has been in school - if the special ed teacher at the local school needs to learn, than I cannot think of a better mother to help her. Also, if he goes to the neighborhood school, won't his classmates be closer and hopefully give him more opportunities to socialize? But than too, I agree that Putter isn't and you know what is best for him. > She still has behavior problems and serious attention > > problems, but her social skills have come so far that I feel that if > > I keep her in the autism classroom, she will not be challenged as > > much as she could be. > > : > > The ONLY reason that I have Putter in school at all is for social skills. > The school that has the AI classroom though would offer Putter a regular > classroom as well, but it would not be our neighborhood school. > > But I am afraid that if the AI classroom is too available then Putter will > spend too much time in it. But the same thing could happen at his > neighborhood school. He might spend all his time in the special ed room > where the teacher is a learning disabled teacher (and learning disabled is > one thing that Putter is not) rather than an AI classroom where the teacher > would understand Putter better. > > Would starting out at Angling Road school and then finding it was not right > for him hurt Putter? I have no idea. Is it better to go for the least > restrictive environment right at the beginning and move to more restrictive > if necessary? Or is it better to move from most restrictive (which is his > current placement) to gradually less and less restrictive environments. > > The problem is that both those solutions would be right for one child and > not another and it is pretty hard to tell where Putter will do best without > actually placing him there. > > I strongly agree that he will not learn social skills well from his AI > classmates, but if both schools can provide the typical peers for him? > > I just don't know. > > Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2002 Report Share Posted June 16, 2002 > The angling school might harrass you if Putter has even what they perceive as the slightest infraction. < that's a good point. do you really want him going somewhere that they so obviously don't want him? i mean, look at all the trouble heather's having! " Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2002 Report Share Posted June 16, 2002 salli, what do YOU want? nevermind lou, or angela, or theresa, or anybody just YOU " Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2002 Report Share Posted June 16, 2002 > salli, > what do YOU want? : If I knew, truly, there would be no problem. All the goals I have for Putter I think he would share with me. I want him to be happy. I want him to find a way to use his fine but autistic mind. And I want him to be independent. How it is to be achieved, I do not know. If it weren't for the social stuff, I'd homeschool him and let him teach himself and he would enjoy that. But he does need people exposure, I think. I can see either arrangement working out and I can see either arrangement failing. I just need to think on it a bit more. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2002 Report Share Posted June 16, 2002 > If it weren't for the social stuff, I'd homeschool him and let him teach himself and he would enjoy that. But he does need people exposure, I think. < ok, first of all, i think you know just how much sociability is actually allowed in school. it's not really all it's cracked up to be. that being said, i have two ideas... the first idea would be half day at school, half day at home. he would do his academics at home and he would only go to school for such things as art, music, gym, etc. i don't know if that's an option there, but i've heard of such things happening. the second idea would be to keep him home and get him involved in as many social groups as you and he could stand. he's already in t-ball, swimming, and sunday school. you could do story time at the library, maybe a playgroup at the park, those kinds of things. then you're free to do his academics as you wish and he still has social opportunities without the school being involved. i'd seriously suggest for you to try one of these ideas, see how it goes for a year, or even a few months, and then rethink your options. if it's working out, fine. if it's not, then maybe you'll know better where he might belong. good luck to you, whatever you decide " Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2002 Report Share Posted June 16, 2002 > > If it weren't for the social stuff, I'd homeschool him and let him teach himself and he would enjoy that. But he does need people exposure, I think. < > > ok, first of all, i think you know just how much sociability is actually allowed in school. Yeah, well, I do know that. it's not really all it's cracked up to be. that being said, i have two ideas... > > the first idea would be half day at school, half day at home. he would do his academics at home and he would only go to school for such things as art, music, gym, etc. i don't know if that's an option there, but i've heard of such things happening. > Most things can probably be an option. And this is kind of what Putter's psychologist wants for him > the second idea would be to keep him home and get him involved in as many social groups as you and he could stand. he's already in t-ball, swimming, and sunday school. you could do story time at the library, maybe a playgroup at the park, those kinds of things. then you're free to do his academics as you wish I worry about this solution because it is what I did with Enrique and I am not sure that it was the best decision, given how things turned out. Sometimes I think if I had got him into school before he fell apart with adolescence that then he would have coped better with school just because he would be used to it. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2002 Report Share Posted June 16, 2002 > I worry about this solution because it is what I did with Enrique and I am not sure that it was the best decision, given how things turned out. Sometimes I think if I had got him into school before he fell apart with adolescence that then he would have coped better with school just because he would be used to it. Salli < yes, i knew that would be a worry, and it's a good one, but putter is only 6, he has PLENTY of years of school ahead of him. if you decided to keep him home now, that doesn't mean he'll be home forever " Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2002 Report Share Posted June 16, 2002 I love how you write Salli!!! Your Putter stories are so very entertainging,and when framed as such, are all the more fun to read! " To be nobody-but-yourself - in a world which is doing its best night and day to make you everybody else - means to fight the hardest battle any human being can fight; and never stop fighting. " - E.E. Cummings , mom to , 4, AS, ADHD; and , 2, NT The Saga of Putter's school troubles, Part MCM In our last episode, our hero, Putter, was being refused permission to attend his neighborhood school, the School of Angling Road, against all IDEA regulations. The parents of Putter sought the help of the Lady Advocate for the Developmentally Disabled. This Lady Advocate, a noble woman, said, " This cannot be! It is illegal! " And she harried the evil school officials until they agreed to come and watch Putter in his classroom even though the Evil Schools of the Portage District had closed their portals for the summer. Putter looked exceptionally cute and charming. He said " Hello " to the Evil School Officials who viewed him, naturally without looking at them because one only looks at Fools of Neurotypicality when one is teasing them or when one has observed that there is a Starburst candy stuck to their foreheads. And only then if it is a red Starburst candy. Lady Theresa, Teacher of Putter, met with the anxious Mother of Putter immediately afterwards and she said, speaking from her heart, " I do not have good feelings about this. They were so brusque and short and Putter will need them to be on his side if The School of Angling Road is going to work. I am terribly afraid that they are setting him up to fail. " The Mother of Putter, a woman of great wisdom and common sense, said, " Oh, dear. " And then she thought about it and she could see that LadyTheresa truly cared about Putter. But still all her great knowledge of Putter did not tell her what was the right choice to make. And Lady Theresa, Teacher of Putter, said, " We can get him any kind of support that he needs in the Class of the Autistic Impaired and he can still go to the Class of Neurotypicality, but if things go wrong there will be a place that understands him to support him. " " Could he have an aide even in the Class of the Autistic Impaired? " wondered the worried Mother of Putter, and LadyTheresa said he could. Hurrying anxiously and followed by a wicked little sprite named Robbie, the Mother of Putter and Lady Theresa, the Teacher of Putter both hastened to the office of Lady , the Consultant of Teachers of Autistic Children. They had an impromptu meeting. Lady , wise in both the ways of the Autistic and the ways of Those of Neurotypicality as well as the Evil ways of the Evil School Districts of the Entire Evil County of Kalamazoo, refused to give a definite opinion, but she said she would offer support to Putter wherever he was placed. The Mother of Putter saw a serious problem in putting Putter in the Class of the Autistic Impaired. This was the Father of Putter, a man of great pride, who was widely known for his wicked acts, but who actually did love the charming Putter in his own Syndrome of Asperger way. He hated the Class of the Autistic Impaired and was ashamed to have his son placed there and he was not known for his flexible ways or, indeed, for ever changing his mind. The Mother of Putter suggested that Lady and Lady Theresa meet with the Father of Putter and attempt to persuade him, especially Lady Theresa, a comely maiden, for whom the Father of Putter, a susceptible man, might do much. All this came to pass and all, alas, was as the Mother of Putter fearfully foresaw. The Father of Putter was completely opposed to the idea of placing Putter in the Class of the Autistic Impaired. He felt that the Evil School District of Portage MUST support Putter, that the principle of the thing was of utmost importance. " The knaves! " he shouted, " They shall not get away with this! " Then he stormed off to cry on the shoulder of the Lady Advocate for the Developmentally Disabled (perhaps another comely maiden? The Mother of Putter has not met her yet, only spoken with her over the phone.) And the Lady Advocate for the Developmentally Disabled fiercely recommended forcing the schools to comply to the fullness of the IDEA laws or it would be the worse for them. When the Mother of Putter related this tale to the Psychologist of Putter, the Psychologist of Putter agreed with the Father of Putter. The Psychologist of Putter is no admirer of the Father of Putter, for she knows well his Syndrome of Asperger nature, so this greatly surprised the Mother of Putter. But the Psychologist of Putter said if Putter ever darkens the doors of the Class of the Autistic Impaired, he will never come out again and he will remain in the Education for the Special for all the days of his life. The Mother of Putter was not sure this was true. And Psychologist of Putter replied that with fierce and constant vigilance of the Evil Public School DIstrict, that the Mother of Putter could counteract the effects of their evil actions and spend all her days fighting and arguing with them. And she added that it would be good. And besides, she added, " Putter is so cute. " And Mother of Putter knew that it was so, and that Putter was indeed of High Cuteness, but was not sure that the school would find him to be of High Cuteness when he danced naked upon the top of a desk, nor would they find him of High Cuteness when he fell on his back in a Tantrum of Loud and Passionate Screaming, Kicking and Biting. Many were the cute children at the school but the actions of Putter were more wicked than any of those cute children. " We must fight. " said the Father of Putter. " You must fight, " said the Lady Advocate of the Developmentally Disabled. " You must fight, " said Psychologist of Putter. " You must put Putter where he will be happy, " said Lady Theresa, Teacher of Putter " You must do as you think best, " said Lady , Consultant of Teachers. " You have not followed our procedures, " said The Evil Directors of the Equally Evil Public School System of Portage, " You must follow our procedures. " And the Mother of Putter felt very tired. And she still did not know what to do. And that is where our saga sits today, the Sixteenth of June, in the year of Our Lord, MMII. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2002 Report Share Posted June 16, 2002 Salli, I am loathe to agree with Lou especially now that I have heard the saga of what a lowlife he is, but I think I would try the local school first and try to educate them about what Putter needs. Yes, they probably already have their minds set about him, but they haven't met the real Mr. Putt or the real Ms. Salli yet either. I wouldn't encourage experimentation at the risk of harm to Putter, but these neighborhood schools are going to need education about our kids and methods to educate them. It's the law. Our kids don't have heads that spin or three eyes, they are real children who need the best they have to offer. If we keep going away and letting them push us around, we aren't getting what our kids deserve. If his local school can't provide it, then I'd request a transfer to another school where they have AI services, but I'd try the least restrictive one first. And I wouldn't sign the IEP unless I was satisfied that it was written to provide what Putter needs. Just my 2cents. Leggs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2002 Report Share Posted June 17, 2002 *sigh* <<But the Psychologist of Putter said if Putter ever darkens the doors of the Class of the Autistic Impaired, he will never come out again and he will remain in the Education for the Special for all the days of his life. The Mother of Putter was not sure this was true.<< I have *heard* that once a child is placed in a special needs classroom, the school district does NOT *have* to allow that child back into mainstream classrooms. This is something you will want to be sure of. I am not very clear on it myself and that is really all I know. It sounds as if the Psychologist of Putter may be more familiar with the thing. Do you think LOU would be willing to do the fighting parts? (How effective this might be at releiving you of some stress and responsibility...well...hrm.) Good luck... -Sara. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2002 Report Share Posted June 17, 2002 > I have *heard* that once a child is placed in a special needs classroom, the > school district does NOT *have* to allow that child back into mainstream > classrooms. Well, Putter is currently in a special needs classroom. In fact, he is in the most restrictive environment right now (an AI classroom in a special education SCHOOL). So I don't think that is a big issue. > Do you think LOU would be willing to do the fighting parts? (How effective > this might be at releiving you of some stress and > responsibility...well...hrm.) > > Lou would be most willing to fight, but...how can I say this...he irritates people. When Lou fights, he is very adversarial, very certain he is right, very unwilling to compromise and quite tactless (because he is right, after all, and why should he be polite to people who are wrong). When I fight I am nice, nice, nice and I tend to get my way. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2002 Report Share Posted June 17, 2002 >>Lou would be most willing to fight, but...how can I say this...he irritates people. When Lou fights, he is very adversarial, very certain he is right, very unwilling to compromise and quite tactless (because he is right, after all, and why should he be polite to people who are wrong).<< Perhaps this would be good practice for the school as it prepares to accomodate The Evil Mr. Putt? Just kidding. -Sara. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2002 Report Share Posted June 17, 2002 > Would starting out at Angling Road school and then finding it was not right > for him hurt Putter? I have no idea. Is it better to go for the least > restrictive environment right at the beginning and move to more restrictive > if necessary? My gut says this one is the way to go. But I don't know Putter! I just think that if you started at the public school and then found that is wasn't the right placement, then you'd know for SURE when to change placements...whereas if you went the other way, it might be hard to gauge. ??? Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2002 Report Share Posted June 17, 2002 Two words - Private School --Penny - who wishes Mother of Putter would not write in the ways of Biblical writings, as she is in the midst of reading the Women's Daily Devotional Bible and it is quite taxing. :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2002 Report Share Posted June 17, 2002 Messages Messages Help Reply | Forward | View Source | Unwrap Lines Message 85474 of 85474 | Previous | Next [ Up Thread ] Message Index Msg # From: " Penny " <nospam@p...> Date: Mon Jun 17, 2002 9:27 pm Subject: RE: The Saga of Putter's school troubles, Part MCM ADVERTISEMENT Two words - Private School ~~~~~~~~~ absolutly, if you can get them into a private school. one word.... Homeschool. Margo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2002 Report Share Posted June 17, 2002 .....and me. Penny Re: Re: The Saga of Putter's school troubles, Part MCM > The angling school might harrass you if Putter has even what they perceive as the slightest infraction. < that's a good point. do you really want him going somewhere that they so obviously don't want him? i mean, look at all the trouble heather's having! " Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 17, 2002 Report Share Posted June 17, 2002 > ....and me. Penny < of course! one must NEVER forget penny! " Something important to remember...we'll always be who we are. " - Mr. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2002 Report Share Posted June 18, 2002 > Two words - > > Private School > > --Penny - who wishes Mother of Putter would not write in the ways of > Biblical writings, as she is in the midst of reading the Women's Daily > Devotional Bible and it is quite taxing. > Sorry, Penny, it was the only way I could distance myself from the irritation I felt. Or at least it was the only way I could think of at the time. Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2002 Report Share Posted June 18, 2002 > Salli, I am loathe to agree with Lou especially now that I have > heard the saga of what a lowlife he is, but I think I would try the > local school first and try to educate them about what Putter needs. I am leaning, very slightly, this direction. > Yes, they probably already have their minds set about him, but they > haven't met the real Mr. Putt or the real Ms. Salli yet either. I > wouldn't encourage experimentation at the risk of harm to Putter, but > these neighborhood schools are going to need education about our kids > and methods to educate them. It's the law. Our kids don't have > heads that spin or three eyes, they are real children who need the > best they have to offer. If we keep going away and letting them push > us around, we aren't getting what our kids deserve. True. If his local > school can't provide it, then I'd request a transfer to another > school where they have AI services, but I'd try the least restrictive > one first. Thanks, Leggs, and a very good two cents it is! Salli Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2002 Report Share Posted June 18, 2002 What about a Charter Homeschool? All the academics are done at home, it's run by the public school system, and all they still have social activities, extra-curricular activities, etc. Penny Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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