Re: Tara - O/T

[Guest guest]

Mimi....

 

My abuser also went to his grave unpunished although I  and several others did

press charges.

 

I refused to go to his funeral but the following week I went to his gravesite.

 

I pissed on his grave and am still smiling. I realize it was not an equalizer

but it sure reduced my stress to giggles....

Raniolo

From: Mimi <mimi212@...>

Subject: [ ] Tara - O/T

Date: Sunday, November 23, 2008, 7:23 PM

Welcome back, Tara. I am so sorry to hear about what your brother did

to you and those other girls. I too, was a victim of sexual abuse as a

child - no one stood up for me and the abuser went to his grave at a

ripe old age never having to pay for what he did to me and God knows

who else. May YOUR abuser rot in jail for the rest of his life for the

life he has taken away from you! I realize he is your brother, but NO

ONE should EVER have to go through what you and those other girls did.

His time in jail is nothing compared to the emotional scars he has

left on you and countless innocent girls who will have to deal with

this for the rest of their lives.

Stress does play a huge role in RA and I'm sure dealing with all of

this stuff hasn't made things any easier for you. May you continue to

have semi-pain-free days as you do what is necessary to ensure the

safety of other women and girls out there. May this rehashing of the

past bring you healing and peace. My prayers are with you. I know this

can't be easy on you.....Doreen

--- In @gro ups.com, tara bowman <tara_bowman2003@ ...>

wrote:

happy hollidays everyone i know i havent posted in a while but i have

been very busy with this big case going on with my brother but i

finaly have some time to right. i do have some good advise dont date

anyone online dont meet anyone online they could hurt you. my brother

is in jail for raping girls that he met online its so gross he would

meet them on match.com and plentyof fish.com invite them to his house

drug them and rape them. its so sick thankfully i ran away from home

at age 11 for being abused and i can bet all my medical problems go

back to that. anyway i am doing ok i go to the pain clinic now for my

pain and i take humira and aziothiaprine twice a day. im glad my

health is under control while i deal with what my brother did to me

and those girls online. i will need all my strength.

[Guest guest]

Ladies;

As a firm believer in THe Holy Bible. We must forgive those who

truspass against us for our father to forgive us.

Just a thought! I finally did forgive. It was hard but I did

forgive.

Also, Forgiving has taken a load off my heart. Now Everyone will

reap what they sow. Try to remember that and it might make it a

little easier. I don't know why but I had to say this. Said kindly.

gentle hugs

Clora

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>

> Mimi....

>  

> My abuser also went to his grave unpunished although I  and several

others did press charges.

>  

> I refused to go to his funeral but the following week I went to his

gravesite.

>  

> I pissed on his grave and am still smiling. I realize it was not an

equalizer but it sure reduced my stress to giggles....

>

> Raniolo

>

>

>

> From: Mimi <mimi212@...>

> Subject: [ ] Tara - O/T

>

> Date: Sunday, November 23, 2008, 7:23 PM

>

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> Welcome back, Tara. I am so sorry to hear about what your brother

did

> to you and those other girls. I too, was a victim of sexual abuse

as a

> child - no one stood up for me and the abuser went to his grave at a

> ripe old age never having to pay for what he did to me and God knows

> who else. May YOUR abuser rot in jail for the rest of his life for

the

> life he has taken away from you! I realize he is your brother, but

NO

> ONE should EVER have to go through what you and those other girls

did.

> His time in jail is nothing compared to the emotional scars he has

> left on you and countless innocent girls who will have to deal with

> this for the rest of their lives.

>

> Stress does play a huge role in RA and I'm sure dealing with all of

> this stuff hasn't made things any easier for you. May you continue

to

> have semi-pain-free days as you do what is necessary to ensure the

> safety of other women and girls out there. May this rehashing of the

> past bring you healing and peace. My prayers are with you. I know

this

> can't be easy on you.....Doreen

>

>

>

> happy hollidays everyone i know i havent posted in a while but i

have

> been very busy with this big case going on with my brother but i

> finaly have some time to right. i do have some good advise dont date

> anyone online dont meet anyone online they could hurt you. my

brother

> is in jail for raping girls that he met online its so gross he would

> meet them on match.com and plentyof fish.com invite them to his

house

> drug them and rape them. its so sick thankfully i ran away from home

> at age 11 for being abused and i can bet all my medical problems go

> back to that. anyway i am doing ok i go to the pain clinic now for

my

> pain and i take humira and aziothiaprine twice a day. im glad my

> health is under control while i deal with what my brother did to me

> and those girls online. i will need all my strength.

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

thank you for the support im gonna need as much as i can get and any ideas you

may have. im 34 yrs old now i was 11 yrs old when i ran away and now that i have

come forward my parents went to court and got a temporary restraining order on

me saying i was stalking them but i havent seen them since i was little. so i

went to court and fought the restraining order and the judge didnt grant it for

my parents. thankfully im on a fentanyl patch for pain cuz the stress is high

right now i had to recently move me an my kids so my parents wouldnt know were i

am for safety reasons the nh state police even felt i was in danger. go to

google and put in thomas currier nh rapes.com read the story its gross what he

did.

From: Mimi <mimi212@...>

Subject: [ ] Tara - O/T

Date: Sunday, November 23, 2008, 7:23 PM

Welcome back, Tara. I am so sorry to hear about what your brother did

to you and those other girls. I too, was a victim of sexual abuse as a

child - no one stood up for me and the abuser went to his grave at a

ripe old age never having to pay for what he did to me and God knows

who else. May YOUR abuser rot in jail for the rest of his life for the

life he has taken away from you! I realize he is your brother, but NO

ONE should EVER have to go through what you and those other girls did.

His time in jail is nothing compared to the emotional scars he has

left on you and countless innocent girls who will have to deal with

this for the rest of their lives.

Stress does play a huge role in RA and I'm sure dealing with all of

this stuff hasn't made things any easier for you. May you continue to

have semi-pain-free days as you do what is necessary to ensure the

safety of other women and girls out there. May this rehashing of the

past bring you healing and peace. My prayers are with you. I know this

can't be easy on you.....Doreen

--- In @gro ups.com, tara bowman <tara_bowman2003@ ...>

wrote:

happy hollidays everyone i know i havent posted in a while but i have

been very busy with this big case going on with my brother but i

finaly have some time to right. i do have some good advise dont date

anyone online dont meet anyone online they could hurt you. my brother

is in jail for raping girls that he met online its so gross he would

meet them on match.com and plentyof fish.com invite them to his house

drug them and rape them. its so sick thankfully i ran away from home

at age 11 for being abused and i can bet all my medical problems go

back to that. anyway i am doing ok i go to the pain clinic now for my

pain and i take humira and aziothiaprine twice a day. im glad my

health is under control while i deal with what my brother did to me

and those girls online. i will need all my strength.

[Guest guest]

Tara,

I'm so sorry for what you've gone through. Even after he's been

indicted on rape charges, do your parents still not believe you?

I hope he gets what he deserves.

Sue

On Monday, November 24, 2008, at 11:36 AM, tara bowman wrote:

> thank you for the support im gonna need as much as i can get and any

> ideas you may have. im 34 yrs old now i was 11 yrs old when i ran away

> and now that i have come forward my parents went to court and got a

> temporary restraining order on me saying i was stalking them but i

> havent seen them since i was little. so i went to court and fought the

> restraining order and the judge didnt grant it for my parents.

> thankfully im on a fentanyl patch for pain cuz the stress is high

> right now i had to recently move me an my kids so my parents wouldnt

> know were i am for safety reasons the nh state police even felt i was

> in danger. go to google and put in thomas currier nh rapes.com read

> the story its gross what he did.

[Guest guest]

you got it i know they believe me they just dont care but dont want the truth to

come out. i got beat for telling them. my mother just recently got a restraining

order on me for stalking her but how can i do that if i havent seen her in

years. so i went to court proved my case and i showed them they cant control me

no more. i did a great job. im proud of myself. but i think she was just trying

to make it so i cant talk to no investigator or they maybe wanted to hurt me but

make a case before they were gonna hurt me. there like that. the judge didnt

grant her restraining order tho she couldnt get it.

> thank you for the support im gonna need as much as i can get and any

> ideas you may have. im 34 yrs old now i was 11 yrs old when i ran away

> and now that i have come forward my parents went to court and got a

> temporary restraining order on me saying i was stalking them but i

> havent seen them since i was little. so i went to court and fought the

> restraining order and the judge didnt grant it for my parents.

> thankfully im on a fentanyl patch for pain cuz the stress is high

> right now i had to recently move me an my kids so my parents wouldnt

> know were i am for safety reasons the nh state police even felt i was

> in danger. go to google and put in thomas currier nh rapes.com read

> the story its gross what he did.

[Guest guest]

I know something about this sort of thing. My 20 year old grandson is in

prison for 40 years because he 'molested a 2 and a 4 year old', but there

was no complaint filed for 2 years after my daughter started 'dating' the

husband of those kids. I'm sure the wife/mother had no part in telling what

the boys said or was involved any other way. I had first-hand knowledge of

the mother's vindictive side, but it's nothing that can be used in court.

It's like you that are reading about this case. You automatically believe

this story with no doubts in mind. I'm not saying this isn't mistaken

punishment, but it's easy to make claims that may not be altogether true. A

man shot and killed 2 men and got only 20 years and my grandson 'may have'

and got 40 years and a scarlet letter on his head until he dies. Where is

the fair in all of this?

Dennis in eastexas

On Mon, Nov 24, 2008 at 7:33 PM, tara bowman <tara_bowman2003@...>wrote:

> you got it i know they believe me they just dont care but dont want the

> truth to come out. i got beat for telling them. my mother just recently got

> a restraining order on me for stalking her but how can i do that if i havent

> seen her in years. so i went to court proved my case and i showed them they

> cant control me no more. i did a great job. im proud of myself. but i think

> she was just trying to make it so i cant talk to no investigator or they

> maybe wanted to hurt me but make a case before they were gonna hurt me.

> there like that. the judge didnt grant her restraining order tho she couldnt

> get it.

>

>

>

> From: Sue <marysue@... <marysue%40triad.rr.com>>

> Subject: Re: [ ] Tara - O/T

> < %40>

> Date: Monday, November 24, 2008, 5:24 PM

>

[Guest guest]

Clora - while I am a firm believer in forgiveness, that does not mean

I forget - or that God expects us to forget. I know that my abuser

definitely reaped what he had sown when he met his maker. I don't hold

the facts of my abuse in my heart - to do so would be detrimental to

my mental health. I've released it and let it go - especially where

there is nothing I can do about it now. BUT - and this is a BIG BUT -

I am an advocate for other abused women and I think these abusers

should face stiffer penalties than what is being handed down.

In Tara's case, she is right in the middle of all of the legalities

surrounding what her abuser did to her and countless other women. I

support her emotionally in her quest to seek justice. I also will

continue to pray that she has semi-pain-free days as she goes through

this heartwrenching time. In time I pray she will be able to forgive

her abuser and release all of these feelings so that she can go on

with her life in the best way she possibly can considering the

circumstances.

In 's case - I am cracking up laughing at the visual created

by pissing on her abusers grave - lol - You Go Girl!!

To any and all women out there who have faced this kind of abuse, may

you find peace in your heart in order to release the hold the abuser

may still have on you. You were a VICTIM - you did NOTHING wrong. May

God wrap His loving arms around you so that you might feel safe and

loved in the way He has always loved you...............Doreen

>

> Ladies;

>

> As a firm believer in THe Holy Bible. We must forgive those who

> truspass against us for our father to forgive us.

>

> Just a thought! I finally did forgive. It was hard but I did

> forgive.

>

> Also, Forgiving has taken a load off my heart. Now Everyone will

> reap what they sow. Try to remember that and it might make it a

> little easier. I don't know why but I had to say this. Said kindly.

>

> gentle hugs

> Clora

>

> ****************************************************************

[Guest guest]

Doreen and group;

 

I didn't mean any offense to anyone on what I wrote about forgiveness. 

Releasing and letting go is wonderful.  Forgetting is sometimes easier said than

done.  I do agree on penalties.  I believe there are consequences to face for

any wrong doing anyone does. 

 

 I am sorry about Tara's legalities with her abuser.  I am so sorry for Tara

being abused.  I didnt mean anything tward Tara.  Bless you TAra forgive me if I

may have said it the wrong way.  I am so sorry for what you have went through.

 

I only wanted to tell about forgiveness.  Some times it's hard for me to forgive

also.  I take it to the Lord in prayer and my Lord always finds a way for me to

forgive.  Maybe not right away but eventually I find it in my heart to forgive. 

 

I too have been abused that way.  I forgive but I won't have dinner with these

people, I just don't trust them anymore.  I also understand what Dennis in Texas

is saying I will comment on that latter.

 

I read the post than start answering at bottom I had to stop reading and comment

on this right away.   I Just wanted to mention forgiveness to help anyone who

hurts still so much from their pain. 

 

gentle hugs

Clora

 

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From: Mimi <mimi212@...>

Subject: [ ] Re: Tara - O/T

Date: Tuesday, November 25, 2008, 1:24 AM

Clora - while I am a firm believer in forgiveness, that does not mean

I forget - or that God expects us to forget. I know that my abuser

definitely reaped what he had sown when he met his maker. I don't hold

the facts of my abuse in my heart - to do so would be detrimental to

my mental health. I've released it and let it go - especially where

there is nothing I can do about it now. BUT - and this is a BIG BUT -

I am an advocate for other abused women and I think these abusers

should face stiffer penalties than what is being handed down.

In Tara's case, she is right in the middle of all of the legalities

surrounding what her abuser did to her and countless other women. I

support her emotionally in her quest to seek justice. I also will

continue to pray that she has semi-pain-free days as she goes through

this heartwrenching time. In time I pray she will be able to forgive

her abuser and release all of these feelings so that she can go on

with her life in the best way she possibly can considering the

circumstances.

In 's case - I am cracking up laughing at the visual created

by pissing on her abusers grave - lol - You Go Girl!!

To any and all women out there who have faced this kind of abuse, may

you find peace in your heart in order to release the hold the abuser

may still have on you. You were a VICTIM - you did NOTHING wrong. May

God wrap His loving arms around you so that you might feel safe and

loved in the way He has always loved you......... ......Doreen

>

> Ladies;

>

> As a firm believer in THe Holy Bible. We must forgive those who

> truspass against us for our father to forgive us.

>

> Just a thought! I finally did forgive. It was hard but I did

> forgive.

>

> Also, Forgiving has taken a load off my heart. Now Everyone will

> reap what they sow. Try to remember that and it might make it a

> little easier. I don't know why but I had to say this. Said kindly.

>

> gentle hugs

> Clora

>

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