Re: I need to whine to people who get it!

[Guest guest]

PLEASE DO NOT read my post and think I am judging you. I am not. I think what

you are willing to do is an AWESOME thing! That being said... You really need to

put YOUR HEALTH first and go into a remission BEFORE getting pregnant.

Please please PLEASE reconsider being a surrogate at this time. There is no

telling what is in store for you in the next few months.

*~ Kami ~*

[ ] I need to whine to people who get it!

When I de used to be a surrogate, back in September, I knew I couldn't go on

my meds. Two months ago, I got worse. With the parents, IVF clinic, and my

rheumy, I was put on steroids. I weaned off, and took my last pill on 5/13. I

guess with the stress of moving, sellin our last house, kids, findin out I will

be losing my job, and the normal chores, my body is shutting down. I will

hopefully get pregnant this first cycle. They implant the embroys next week,

either Monday, Tues, or Wednesday.

I am so honored to be doing such a wonderful thing for someone, but my body is

suffering. Days like today, where every inch of my body hurts, and it even hurts

to breathe, I get scared, wondering just what kind of damage I am causing my

body.

I also feel lazy and guilty, as it is harder for me to care for my 1 and 3

year old. As my husband picks up the slack with the house and the kids, tempers

flare more and more. I think my husband was accusing me of faking it last week

to get out of doing things. I pointed at my softball sized ankle, and told him

that for once, I was happy it was swollen, so I could prove I'm not faking.

I hope that once I am pregnant, it will go into remission, and I can once

again play with my kids, and be productive around the house, and feel human!

[Guest guest]

Hi,

Sorry your having such a rough time right now. Going off the meds, I

can't imagine. I hope you start feeling better. I have heard some do

go into a remission during pregnancy.

I hope you can get some support from your family. I know with children

its not easy. I don't have any small children now, there is no way I

could take care of them. I have a 3 yr old granddaughter, and she can

really go. I remember hearing elders saying, " I would like to have half

their energy, " I know what they mean now.

Take care, and feel better soon,

Tawny

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> When I de used to be a surrogate, back in September, I knew I couldn't

go on my meds. Two months ago, I got worse. With the parents, IVF

clinic, and my rheumy, I was put on steroids. I weaned off, and took my

last pill on 5/13. I guess with the stress of moving, sellin our last

house, kids, findin out I will be losing my job, and the normal chores,

my body is shutting down. I will hopefully get pregnant this first

cycle. They implant the embroys next week, either Monday, Tues, or

Wednesday.

> I am so honored to be doing such a wonderful thing for someone, but my

body is suffering. Days like today, where every inch of my body hurts,

and it even hurts to breathe, I get scared, wondering just what kind of

damage I am causing my body.

> I also feel lazy and guilty, as it is harder for me to care for my 1

and 3 year old. As my husband picks up the slack with the house and the

kids, tempers flare more and more. I think my husband was accusing me of

faking it last week to get out of doing things. I pointed at my softball

sized ankle, and told him that for once, I was happy it was swollen, so

I could prove I'm not faking.

> I hope that once I am pregnant, it will go into remission, and I can

once again play with my kids, and be productive around the house, and

feel human!

>

[Guest guest]

I am sorry that you are in so much pain. I think what you are doing is awesome

and an great thing for someone else to be able to be a mom too but you do need

to think of your self first. I guess it is easier said then done because even

after all the pain I am in and have been in I still think I would love to try

for a 4th. As for the pain, I have had 5 pregnancies and it seems to be getting

worse each time, sorry. I also have realized that after each pregnancy it gets

worse too but I also choose not to be on meds during the pregnancies except for

prednisone because there is not a risk to the baby on that. I hope that your

husband realizes how much it hurts (mine is clueless sometimes too) and I have

to tell you to here you say your ankles are like softballs makes me feel

" normal " again! My brother told me my feet were ugly the other day and it was

sad...then I made it into a joke and told him I could be a RA foot model

With all that - I wish you the best and hope you are doing better soon.

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> When I de used to be a surrogate, back in September, I knew I couldn't go on

my meds. Two months ago, I got worse. With the parents, IVF clinic, and my

rheumy, I was put on steroids. I weaned off, and took my last pill on 5/13. I

guess with the stress of moving, sellin our last house, kids, findin out I will

be losing my job, and the normal chores, my body is shutting down. I will

hopefully get pregnant this first cycle. They implant the embroys next week,

either Monday, Tues, or Wednesday.

> I am so honored to be doing such a wonderful thing for someone, but my body is

suffering. Days like today, where every inch of my body hurts, and it even hurts

to breathe, I get scared, wondering just what kind of damage I am causing my

body.

> I also feel lazy and guilty, as it is harder for me to care for my 1 and 3

year old. As my husband picks up the slack with the house and the kids, tempers

flare more and more. I think my husband was accusing me of faking it last week

to get out of doing things. I pointed at my softball sized ankle, and told him

that for once, I was happy it was swollen, so I could prove I'm not faking.

> I hope that once I am pregnant, it will go into remission, and I can once

again play with my kids, and be productive around the house, and feel human!

>

[Guest guest]

Hello All, is there a connection between RA and pregnancy / childbirth?

I stopped nursing my baby in January when she was 18 mos old; I was

already having hand/wrist pain then (dx'd as tendonitis by orthopedist).

Thank you. - Beth, San Diego, CA

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> > When I de used to be a surrogate, back in September, I knew I

couldn't go on my meds. Two months ago, I got worse. With the parents,

IVF clinic, and my rheumy, I was put on steroids. I weaned off, and took

my last pill on 5/13. I guess with the stress of moving, sellin our last

house, kids, findin out I will be losing my job, and the normal chores,

my body is shutting down. I will hopefully get pregnant this first

cycle. They implant the embroys next week, either Monday, Tues, or

Wednesday.

> > I am so honored to be doing such a wonderful thing for someone, but

my body is suffering. Days like today, where every inch of my body

hurts, and it even hurts to breathe, I get scared, wondering just what

kind of damage I am causing my body.

> > I also feel lazy and guilty, as it is harder for me to care for my 1

and 3 year old. As my husband picks up the slack with the house and the

kids, tempers flare more and more. I think my husband was accusing me of

faking it last week to get out of doing things. I pointed at my softball

sized ankle, and told him that for once, I was happy it was swollen, so

I could prove I'm not faking.

> > I hope that once I am pregnant, it will go into remission, and I can

once again play with my kids, and be productive around the house, and

feel human!

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Hi!

I do believe there is a connection. My RA started after birth of second child

(although I did not know what it was). I have four children total and 5

pregnancies. When I was pregnant I felt WONDERFUL! My RA said that this is

because my body was using the baby's immune system. I wanted more kids (not

only for that reason though)

R.

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> > > When I de used to be a surrogate, back in September, I knew I

> couldn't go on my meds. Two months ago, I got worse. With the parents,

> IVF clinic, and my rheumy, I was put on steroids. I weaned off, and took

> my last pill on 5/13. I guess with the stress of moving, sellin our last

> house, kids, findin out I will be losing my job, and the normal chores,

> my body is shutting down. I will hopefully get pregnant this first

> cycle. They implant the embroys next week, either Monday, Tues, or

> Wednesday.

> > > I am so honored to be doing such a wonderful thing for someone, but

> my body is suffering. Days like today, where every inch of my body

> hurts, and it even hurts to breathe, I get scared, wondering just what

> kind of damage I am causing my body.

> > > I also feel lazy and guilty, as it is harder for me to care for my 1

> and 3 year old. As my husband picks up the slack with the house and the

> kids, tempers flare more and more. I think my husband was accusing me of

> faking it last week to get out of doing things. I pointed at my softball

> sized ankle, and told him that for once, I was happy it was swollen, so

> I could prove I'm not faking.

> > > I hope that once I am pregnant, it will go into remission, and I can

> once again play with my kids, and be productive around the house, and

> feel human!

> > >

> >

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