SEASON RANT

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issue is catherine we live about 45 mins to an hour away from his parents. The

only way for him to get there is to leave tomorrow on the marc train and for me

to meet him there on wednesday but he is obligated tomorrow since my son needs

someone to stay home with him since he is only 3.

[ ] season rant

Date: Monday, December 22, 2008, 9:48 PM

Today must have been the worst day of my life. I have all my gifts except for

1. I have explained to my parents the money is just not there for their gift and

for tires for my car and food and so forth. The money that I was supposed to use

for their gifts went to my son's gifts. I try to make it equal between both of

them when giving them presents for christmas and birthdays. My daughter I had

gotten her 11 things and my son 7. So I had to make a last minute trip to

walmart yesterday to get him 4 more things which I managed to do.

When I explained to my mom the issue about the tires she went off at me

screaming about how I don't have my priorities in order and neither does my

boyfriend who lives with me. Well, between having almost $1600 in bills and more

coming up at the begining of the month I just couldn't afford new tires or used

ones. My front tires on the outside are bald and wearing away. My boyfriend

today but them on the back since my car is a front wheel drive. Now the car

rides better. But before doing that I get a call from my dad this morning and he

is going to buy me 4 used tires for it since we have to goto PA christmas day. I

live in MD a bit of a drive. Anyway where the issue is happening is I have to

work tomorrow 8am to 3pm and again christmas eve 8am to 4pm. We have to be at my

boyfriends aunts house by 6:30, we are going to be late. I have to go to my

dad's after I get off work and take a half hour to have the tires changed over.

Then I have to drive to my

house pick up my boyfriend and then drive all the way to soloman's island

which is about an hour and 45 min drive. When my boyfriend called his mom to let

them know what was going on she got upset about it saying that they are always

moving the times around because of me and my job. Well I can't help that I have

to work christmas eve. I work with adults who have developmental disabilities

and normally the residentals that they live with do not want to deal with the

ones who have behavioral issues during the holidays so the day programs get

stuck with them. Hench, I have no choice but to work.

As for work, I had taken 2 weeks off in November that was supposed to be paid

leave. Well, I still haven't gotten paid for it. On nov 1st I had been working

for them for 6 months and the supervisor did not do my 6 month review before I

left. well she did it when I came back and I still haven't seen the money which

is desperately needed. I was short changed for the month of november which made

me short of money. I make if I am lucky $1300 a month and that is working 40

hours a week. My boyfriend, is blind and thankfully gets SSDI and SSI so that

helps a bit but some months its just not enough.

I went to social services to try to get some help from them for me and the

kids and I got a whole $26.00 a month in food stamps and medical assistance for

the kids. Its like getting a slap in the face. My xhusband and his wife get

$207.00 and its only those 2 and she makes $.25 more an hour then I do. does

this really make sense to you.

I can say I'm almost done all my holiday baking as well. I have the chocolate

fudge done, the chocolate chip cookies done and the Oatmeal raisin cookies done.

The only thing I have left to make is the Peanut butter fudge which is easy. I'm

waiting for the chocolate fudge to come to room temp so I can get it out of the

pans so I can get them washed tomorrow after work so I can do the peanut butter

fudge.

Thank you for reading my long rant, I hope everyone will have a pain free

holiday.

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,

 

Sounds like your extended family has a bad case of " Grinchitis " . Shame on them!

The way things are right now economically, they should be happy that you have a

job. 's right, better to get there late than never. Christmas is about

spending time together with the ones you love and who love you.

 

For your parents gift, how about finding a nice type of packaging and wrapping

up some of the goodies you made? Or something that is meaningful to all of you

from your childhood that you might have. Sometimes the smallest gift is most

meaningful. My mother sent me something from my childhood that would hold no

meaning for anyone but me and it is now one of the most treasured items I own.

 

Maybe next year everyone can meet at your house for a pot luck style

lunch/dinner. Having RA and trying to work, raise a family and travel is a lot

for one person, even with help. Throw in cold weather to make your joints

miserable....enough said!

 

May you and everyone on the list have a safe and enjoyable holiday season. God

Bless and Happy Holidays!

 

Betsy

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No offense intended but if the " worst day of your life " is about the

contents of your " rant " you need to thank your lucky stars. Have a happy holiday

and be thankful you are alive, have a roof over your head, and food on your

table.

From: Massey <renandstimpy3@...>

Subject: [ ] season rant

Date: Monday, December 22, 2008, 9:48 PM

Today must have been the worst day of my life. I have all my gifts except for 1.

I have explained to my parents the money is just not there for their gift and

for tires for my car and food and so forth. The money that I was supposed to use

for their gifts went to my son's gifts. I try to make it equal between both of

them when giving them presents for christmas and birthdays. My daughter I had

gotten her 11 things and my son 7. So I had to make a last minute trip to

walmart yesterday to get him 4 more things which I managed to do.

When I explained to my mom the issue about the tires she went off at me

screaming about how I don't have my priorities in order and neither does my

boyfriend who lives with me. Well, between having almost $1600 in bills and more

coming up at the begining of the month I just couldn't afford new tires or used

ones. My front tires on the outside are bald and wearing away. My boyfriend

today but them on the back since my car is a front wheel drive. Now the car

rides better. But before doing that I get a call from my dad this morning and he

is going to buy me 4 used tires for it since we have to goto PA christmas day. I

live in MD a bit of a drive. Anyway where the issue is happening is I have to

work tomorrow 8am to 3pm and again christmas eve 8am to 4pm. We have to be at my

boyfriends aunts house by 6:30, we are going to be late. I have to go to my

dad's after I get off work and take a half hour to have the tires changed over.

Then I have to drive to my

house pick up my boyfriend and then drive all the way to soloman's island which

is about an hour and 45 min drive. When my boyfriend called his mom to let them

know what was going on she got upset about it saying that they are always moving

the times around because of me and my job. Well I can't help that I have to work

christmas eve. I work with adults who have developmental disabilities and

normally the residentals that they live with do not want to deal with the ones

who have behavioral issues during the holidays so the day programs get stuck

with them. Hench, I have no choice but to work.

As for work, I had taken 2 weeks off in November that was supposed to be paid

leave. Well, I still haven't gotten paid for it. On nov 1st I had been working

for them for 6 months and the supervisor did not do my 6 month review before I

left. well she did it when I came back and I still haven't seen the money which

is desperately needed. I was short changed for the month of november which made

me short of money. I make if I am lucky $1300 a month and that is working 40

hours a week. My boyfriend, is blind and thankfully gets SSDI and SSI so that

helps a bit but some months its just not enough.

I went to social services to try to get some help from them for me and the kids

and I got a whole $26.00 a month in food stamps and medical assistance for the

kids. Its like getting a slap in the face. My xhusband and his wife get $207.00

and its only those 2 and she makes $.25 more an hour then I do. does this really

make sense to you.

I can say I'm almost done all my holiday baking as well. I have the chocolate

fudge done, the chocolate chip cookies done and the Oatmeal raisin cookies done.

The only thing I have left to make is the Peanut butter fudge which is easy. I'm

waiting for the chocolate fudge to come to room temp so I can get it out of the

pans so I can get them washed tomorrow after work so I can do the peanut butter

fudge.

Thank you for reading my long rant, I hope everyone will have a pain free

holiday.

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OMG IT SEEMS AS THE HOLIDAYS NEAR US,WE TEND TO HEAR MORE BLA,BLA,BLA. BUT WE

NEED TO B THANKFUL TO OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST AND SAVIOUR FOR BEING BORN ON THIS

BEAUTIFUL CHRISTMAS DAY.....

SO TO ALL OF U BEING A HUM BUG, TRY TO GET INTO SOME KIND OF HOLIDAY MOOD.IF NOT

FOR YOUR SAKE THEN FOR THE PERSON WHO HAS TO DEAL WITH U!!!! REMEMBER: 'TIS THE

SEASON TO B JOLLY' FA-LA-LA-LA-LA!!!

 

MAY ALL OF U RA SUPPORTERS & THOSE W/RA, HAVE A VERY " MERRY CHRISTMAS " OR

HANNAKAH.

 

AND THE BEST NEW YEAR EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

DON'T LOOK BACK, LOOK AHEAD AND SAY THIS IS THE BEST THAT THE LORD HAS MADE,SO

LET US REJOICE AND B

 

GLAD................

 

GOD BLESS EACH AND EVERYONE OF YOU IN THIS GROUP, MELYNDA GAMEZ (CORPUS

CHRISTI,TX.)

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Hi :

I loved your post, and it is so true. I am so trying to rid myself of

all this stress I am under. I too, love Christmas.

Merry Christmas to you and your family. Wishing you pain free days.

Hugs,

Barbara

>

> I have spent the last month watching Christmas movies. I have seen

Scrooge played by everyone from to Luccie.

> I have seen The Grinch at least 4 times and all the Christmas cartoons

from Snoopy to Frosty. All of this has helped keep my spirits up. My

Grandchildren have also been with me. Christmas can be very stress full

if you let it. STRESS CAUSES PAIN. Be good to yourself and DELEGATE.

Your friends and family will be more then happy to help if you just ask.

> So MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ALL AND TO ALL A GOOD NIGHT !!!!

>

>

>

>

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,

It sounds like you are having to do a ton of traveling and work just to

make Xmas for someone elses benefit.I used to want the kids there at a

certain time and eat at that time be at their grandmothers etc. I finally

realized that I was doing to my daughter the same thing Mom did to me. We

finally got it to if the kids wanted to do Santa at their house then come

over that was great. It just got to the point Christmas was not fun for

anyone. I hate you are having to go thru this and I hope that you will be

able to have some part of the Christmas for yourself. I hope you all have a

Merry Christmas and that somehow the stress will get better.

Heidibug

On Mon, Dec 22, 2008 at 9:48 PM, Massey

<renandstimpy3@...>wrote:

> Today must have been the worst day of my life. I have all my gifts

> except for 1. I have explained to my parents the money is just not there for

> their gift and for tires for my car and food and so forth. The money that I

> was supposed to use for their gifts went to my son's gifts. I try to make it

> equal between both of them when giving them presents for christmas and

> birthdays. My daughter I had gotten her 11 things and my son 7. So I had to

> make a last minute trip to walmart yesterday to get him 4 more things which

> I managed to do.

>

> When I explained to my mom the issue about the tires she went off at me

> screaming about how I don't have my priorities in order and neither does my

> boyfriend who lives with me. Well, between having almost $1600 in bills and

> more coming up at the begining of the month I just couldn't afford new tires

> or used ones. My front tires on the outside are bald and wearing away. My

> boyfriend today but them on the back since my car is a front wheel drive.

> Now the car rides better. But before doing that I get a call from my dad

> this morning and he is going to buy me 4 used tires for it since we have to

> goto PA christmas day. I live in MD a bit of a drive. Anyway where the issue

> is happening is I have to work tomorrow 8am to 3pm and again christmas eve

> 8am to 4pm. We have to be at my boyfriends aunts house by 6:30, we are going

> to be late. I have to go to my dad's after I get off work and take a half

> hour to have the tires changed over. Then I have to drive to my house pick

> up my boyfriend and then drive all the way to soloman's island which is

> about an hour and 45 min drive. When my boyfriend called his mom to let them

> know what was going on she got upset about it saying that they are always

> moving the times around because of me and my job. Well I can't help that I

> have to work christmas eve. I work with adults who have developmental

> disabilities and normally the residentals that they live with do not want to

> deal with the ones who have behavioral issues during the holidays so the day

> programs get stuck with them. Hench, I have no choice but to work.

>

> As for work, I had taken 2 weeks off in November that was supposed to be

> paid leave. Well, I still haven't gotten paid for it. On nov 1st I had been

> working for them for 6 months and the supervisor did not do my 6 month

> review before I left. well she did it when I came back and I still haven't

> seen the money which is desperately needed. I was short changed for the

> month of november which made me short of money. I make if I am lucky $1300 a

> month and that is working 40 hours a week. My boyfriend, is blind and

> thankfully gets SSDI and SSI so that helps a bit but some months its just

> not enough.

>

> I went to social services to try to get some help from them for me and the

> kids and I got a whole $26.00 a month in food stamps and medical assistance

> for the kids. Its like getting a slap in the face. My xhusband and his wife

> get $207.00 and its only those 2 and she makes $.25 more an hour then I do.

> does this really make sense to you.

>

> I can say I'm almost done all my holiday baking as well. I have the

> chocolate fudge done, the chocolate chip cookies done and the Oatmeal raisin

> cookies done. The only thing I have left to make is the Peanut butter fudge

> which is easy. I'm waiting for the chocolate fudge to come to room temp so I

> can get it out of the pans so I can get them washed tomorrow after work so I

> can do the peanut butter fudge.

>

> Thank you for reading my long rant, I hope everyone will have a pain free

> holiday.

>

>

>

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((((())))) Sorry I am late with this reply. I hope things are

looking a little better for you tonight. I'm sure the last thing you

needed was a screaming session from your mother with everything else

that you are having to deal with. Having an AI disorder is stressful

enough without having to throw financial shortfalls that are out of

your control, bald tires, unhappy mothers and expectant children into

the mix.

First, I don't know the exact laws surrounding this, but if you were

told (especially in writing) that you would have been paid for those

two weeks that you took off from work and still haven't been paid, I

would be raising cain and seriously pursuing this issue. So, if you

don't have something in writing stating that you would be paid for

this time after 6 months of employment, I think I would be writing a

letter to the HR manager (keep a copy), explaining your understanding

of this time off and payment and requesting some kind of a time frame

as to when you can expect the compensation that is due you. Keep

notes, dates, times, who you spoke to and if you have to, take them to

the labor board.

Second, does your ex pay child support? It may be time for a

modification. Also, they may have gotten more assistance than you if

they were not truthful with their total income. OR it could be because

of the court-ordered child support that he is paying (if he declared

it). Did you declare your BF's SSI income? I know that if he is living

in your home, but that could also be an explanation for why your

assistance is lower. Thank God you were able to get medical for the

kids - that could be a huge expense otherwise.

Your Dad sounds like a gem to have bought you tires for your car -

even if they are used, they have to be better than what you have now.

Too bad your mother couldn't have seen the " need " too, instead of

criticizing that which she has no first hand knowledge of. Its a shame

that your BF's mother is criticizing you as well for things that are

out of your control. Both of these mother's should be looking to see

what they could do to help you out rather than adding stress to an

already stressful situation.

I read somewhere how one mother changed the way she gave gifts to her

children at Christmastime. I don't know if your children are old

enough to understand, but this mother gave her children one gift that

they " needed " , one gift that they " wanted " and one that " she " wanted

to give to them. She also tied it all back in with the story of the

birth of Jesus and how He received three gifts from the three Wisemen

(gold, frankincense and myrrh). I don't know how much money you spent

on the 11 gifts each of your kids got, but I do believe the gifts

should be something meaningful and not just " stuff " . I say this

because over the years I have gotten lots of " stuff " without much

thought into the actual gift. Don't get me wrong here, I was grateful

for and gracious about the gift, but I also know the gift could have

meant so much more if some thought had been placed into the gift while

keeping the recipient in mind.

Anyway - my prayer is that you were able to work through all this

stressful stuff and have a blessed and beautiful Merry Christmas. May

God Bless you and your family.............Doreen

>

>

> Today must have been the worst day of my life. I have all my gifts

except for 1. I have explained to my parents the money is just not

there for their gift and for tires for my car and food and so forth.

The money that I was supposed to use for their gifts went to my son's

gifts. I try to make it equal between both of them when giving them

presents for christmas and birthdays. My daughter I had gotten her 11

things and my son 7. So I had to make a last minute trip to walmart

yesterday to get him 4 more things which I managed to do.

>

> When I explained to my mom the issue about the tires she went off at

me screaming about how I don't have my priorities in order and neither

does my boyfriend who lives with me. Well, between having almost $1600

in bills and more coming up at the begining of the month I just

couldn't afford new tires or used ones. My front tires on the outside

are bald and wearing away. My boyfriend today but them on the back

since my car is a front wheel drive. Now the car rides better. But

before doing that I get a call from my dad this morning and he is

going to buy me 4 used tires for it since we have to goto PA christmas

day. I live in MD a bit of a drive. Anyway where the issue is

happening is I have to work tomorrow 8am to 3pm and again christmas

eve 8am to 4pm. We have to be at my boyfriends aunts house by 6:30, we

are going to be late. I have to go to my dad's after I get off work

and take a half hour to have the tires changed over. Then I have to

drive to my

> house pick up my boyfriend and then drive all the way to soloman's

island which is about an hour and 45 min drive. When my boyfriend

called his mom to let them know what was going on she got upset about

it saying that they are always moving the times around because of me

and my job. Well I can't help that I have to work christmas eve. I

work with adults who have developmental disabilities and normally the

residentals that they live with do not want to deal with the ones who

have behavioral issues during the holidays so the day programs get

stuck with them. Hench, I have no choice but to work.

>

> As for work, I had taken 2 weeks off in November that was supposed

to be paid leave. Well, I still haven't gotten paid for it. On nov 1st

I had been working for them for 6 months and the supervisor did not do

my 6 month review before I left. well she did it when I came back and

I still haven't seen the money which is desperately needed. I was

short changed for the month of november which made me short of money.

I make if I am lucky $1300 a month and that is working 40 hours a

week. My boyfriend, is blind and thankfully gets SSDI and SSI so that

helps a bit but some months its just not enough.

>

> I went to social services to try to get some help from them for me

and the kids and I got a whole $26.00 a month in food stamps and

medical assistance for the kids. Its like getting a slap in the face.

My xhusband and his wife get $207.00 and its only those 2 and she

makes $.25 more an hour then I do. does this really make sense to you.

>

> I can say I'm almost done all my holiday baking as well. I have the

chocolate fudge done, the chocolate chip cookies done and the Oatmeal

raisin cookies done. The only thing I have left to make is the Peanut

butter fudge which is easy. I'm waiting for the chocolate fudge to

come to room temp so I can get it out of the pans so I can get them

washed tomorrow after work so I can do the peanut butter fudge.

>

> Thank you for reading my long rant, I hope everyone will have a pain

free holiday.

>

>