Re: OT: Single Guys and RA

[Guest guest]

funny. my sixteen year old daughter is my life line right now. my house isnt as

clean as i use to keep it but she does ok. most the time without me asking. my

husbands idea of helping is vaccuming. the whole house can be turned up side

down and that is what he will do.

 

my weather is very similar. i'm kate in Gig Harbor

From: detour721 <stanpfister@...>

Subject: [ ] OT: Single Guys and RA

Date: Friday, January 16, 2009, 2:27 PM

Since I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis last July and not

able to work my girlfriend (of seven years) told me I have to care of

my own place. We have seperate households and she used to come over

once or twice a week to help me with the household choirs. Actually

help is a stretch, she took care of all of it. Now she thinks it

would be " good " for me to do it myself. This is just how women think,

all of a sudden it would be " good " for me to do my own housework.

It's cruel and unusal punishment, I have a serious medical condition,

and I " thought " it was my job to take care of that, and nothing else.

I dropped hints, bought gifts, waited and waited until it was

apparent she is not going to budge on what's " good " for me. She has

her own disability issues so I " thought " she would be a little more

understanding, you would think! So anyway, I thought I would share

some of the things she has pointed out and the tips I have discovered

for the guys who may find themselves in a simular situation.

There is an abudance of hot and cold running water under the place

where you throw all the dirty dishes!

Evidently there is a bag inside of a vacuum cleaner that has to be

changed or emptied periodically or it doesn't work, who knew!

The extra little red light on the coffee maker is not for making

extra strong coffee, it cleans the machine!

You can throw away ALL the trash in the dumpster everyday because

those guys come around on some kind of schedule so you don't have to

collect it!

All Purpose Tide is not bubble bath.

Those dates on food products have absolutely nothing to do with

anyone's birthday.

Larger laundry hampers do not actually address the problem.

A dish washer isn't really designed to do laundy nor will a microwave

dry it. However, you can buy a new microwave pretty cheap these days!

Archaeologists are not at all interested in " new " dust.

And last, but not least, is that there's a lot little things that

have to be done each and every single day. Pick this up, put that

away, it's like it never ever ends! And if you don't do it, when you

come back it's still there! Geez, what happened to the good ol' days

when things just magically took care of themselves! And this is

suppose to be " good " for me? I don't think so!

Stan

Seattle, Cloudy

[Guest guest]

Stan

LOL. I am so glad you have finally seen the light.It has all been a ploy

by " us women " to make men care for themselves since Adam refused to pick up

his apple peels. Thank God we now have one more male to understand what we

have for years. Heres to ya Stan..Thanks for the laugh

Heidibug

On Fri, Jan 16, 2009 at 5:27 PM, detour721 <stanpfister@...> wrote:

> Since I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis last July and not

> able to work my girlfriend (of seven years) told me I have to care of

> my own place. We have seperate households and she used to come over

> once or twice a week to help me with the household choirs. Actually

> help is a stretch, she took care of all of it. Now she thinks it

> would be " good " for me to do it myself. This is just how women think,

> all of a sudden it would be " good " for me to do my own housework.

> It's cruel and unusal punishment, I have a serious medical condition,

> and I " thought " it was my job to take care of that, and nothing else.

> I dropped hints, bought gifts, waited and waited until it was

> apparent she is not going to budge on what's " good " for me. She has

> her own disability issues so I " thought " she would be a little more

> understanding, you would think! So anyway, I thought I would share

> some of the things she has pointed out and the tips I have discovered

> for the guys who may find themselves in a simular situation.

>

> There is an abudance of hot and cold running water under the place

> where you throw all the dirty dishes!

>

> Evidently there is a bag inside of a vacuum cleaner that has to be

> changed or emptied periodically or it doesn't work, who knew!

>

> The extra little red light on the coffee maker is not for making

> extra strong coffee, it cleans the machine!

>

> You can throw away ALL the trash in the dumpster everyday because

> those guys come around on some kind of schedule so you don't have to

> collect it!

>

> All Purpose Tide is not bubble bath.

>

> Those dates on food products have absolutely nothing to do with

> anyone's birthday.

>

> Larger laundry hampers do not actually address the problem.

>

> A dish washer isn't really designed to do laundy nor will a microwave

> dry it. However, you can buy a new microwave pretty cheap these days!

>

> Archaeologists are not at all interested in " new " dust.

>

> And last, but not least, is that there's a lot little things that

> have to be done each and every single day. Pick this up, put that

> away, it's like it never ever ends! And if you don't do it, when you

> come back it's still there! Geez, what happened to the good ol' days

> when things just magically took care of themselves! And this is

> suppose to be " good " for me? I don't think so!

>

> Stan

> Seattle, Cloudy

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Ah....you're weather IS the same in Gig Harbor! Or maybe you're ten minutes

ahead of me or behind me depending on wind direction. In terms of housework guys

like to pick one thing, and if they actually do it, well they're proud of

themselves and all is right with the world.

Stan,

Seattle, Cloudy.

--------- [ ] OT: Single Guys and RA

Date: Friday, January 16, 2009, 2:27 PM

Since I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis last July and not

able to work my girlfriend (of seven years) told me I have to care of

my own place. We have seperate households and she used to come over

once or twice a week to help me with the household choirs. Actually

help is a stretch, she took care of all of it. Now she thinks it

would be " good " for me to do it myself. This is just how women think,

all of a sudden it would be " good " for me to do my own housework.

It's cruel and unusal punishment, I have a serious medical condition,

and I " thought " it was my job to take care of that, and nothing else.

I dropped hints, bought gifts, waited and waited until it was

apparent she is not going to budge on what's " good " for me. She has

her own disability issues so I " thought " she would be a little more

understanding, you would think! So anyway, I thought I would share

some of the things she has pointed out and the tips I have discovered

for the guys who may find themselves in a simular situation.

There is an abudance of hot and cold running water under the place

where you throw all the dirty dishes!

Evidently there is a bag inside of a vacuum cleaner that has to be

changed or emptied periodically or it doesn't work, who knew!

The extra little red light on the coffee maker is not for making

extra strong coffee, it cleans the machine!

You can throw away ALL the trash in the dumpster everyday because

those guys come around on some kind of schedule so you don't have to

collect it!

All Purpose Tide is not bubble bath.

Those dates on food products have absolutely nothing to do with

anyone's birthday.

Larger laundry hampers do not actually address the problem.

A dish washer isn't really designed to do laundy nor will a microwave

dry it. However, you can buy a new microwave pretty cheap these days!

Archaeologists are not at all interested in " new " dust.

And last, but not least, is that there's a lot little things that

have to be done each and every single day. Pick this up, put that

away, it's like it never ever ends! And if you don't do it, when you

come back it's still there! Geez, what happened to the good ol' days

when things just magically took care of themselves! And this is

suppose to be " good " for me? I don't think so!

Stan

Seattle, Cloudy

[Guest guest]

I refuse to admit I understand anything!

Stan,

Seattle, Cloudy.

-------------- Original message --------------

From: Heidi Mendelsohn <hmendelsohn@...>

Stan

LOL. I am so glad you have finally seen the light.It has all been a ploy

by " us women " to make men care for themselves since Adam refused to pick up

his apple peels. Thank God we now have one more male to understand what we

have for years. Heres to ya Stan..Thanks for the laugh

Heidibug

On Fri, Jan 16, 2009 at 5:27 PM, detour721 <stanpfister@...> wrote:

> Since I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis last July and not

> able to work my girlfriend (of seven years) told me I have to care of

> my own place. We have seperate households and she used to come over

> once or twice a week to help me with the household choirs. Actually

> help is a stretch, she took care of all of it. Now she thinks it

> would be " good " for me to do it myself. This is just how women think,

> all of a sudden it would be " good " for me to do my own housework.

> It's cruel and unusal punishment, I have a serious medical condition,

> and I " thought " it was my job to take care of that, and nothing else.

> I dropped hints, bought gifts, waited and waited until it was

> apparent she is not going to budge on what's " good " for me. She has

> her own disability issues so I " thought " she would be a little more

> understanding, you would think! So anyway, I thought I would share

> some of the things she has pointed out and the tips I have discovered

> for the guys who may find themselves in a simular situation.

>

> There is an abudance of hot and cold running water under the place

> where you throw all the dirty dishes!

>

> Evidently there is a bag inside of a vacuum cleaner that has to be

> changed or emptied periodically or it doesn't work, who knew!

>

> The extra little red light on the coffee maker is not for making

> extra strong coffee, it cleans the machine!

>

> You can throw away ALL the trash in the dumpster everyday because

> those guys come around on some kind of schedule so you don't have to

> collect it!

>

> All Purpose Tide is not bubble bath.

>

> Those dates on food products have absolutely nothing to do with

> anyone's birthday.

>

> Larger laundry hampers do not actually address the problem.

>

> A dish washer isn't really designed to do laundy nor will a microwave

> dry it. However, you can buy a new microwave pretty cheap these days!

>

> Archaeologists are not at all interested in " new " dust.

>

> And last, but not least, is that there's a lot little things that

> have to be done each and every single day. Pick this up, put that

> away, it's like it never ever ends! And if you don't do it, when you

> come back it's still there! Geez, what happened to the good ol' days

> when things just magically took care of themselves! And this is

> suppose to be " good " for me? I don't think so!

>

> Stan

> Seattle, Cloudy

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks for the laugh, Stan. Sounds like you are learning some valuable

lessons. I think your girlfriend did you a favor by letting you figure

all of this out by yourself. You wouldn't necessarily see a post about

" Single Girls and RA " as women have always been brought up to be the

caretaker - although nowadays more and more women are refusing to be

the sole caretaker of the home.

Lets face it - there are no " magical fixes " anywhere. I applaud your

girlfriend for not budging. This IS good for you - if nothing else

other than to appreciate what she was doing for you before she put her

foot down.

I have RA, but no one takes care of it all for me. I do have a

teenager and a husband that help out - but they live here too. Maybe

you and your girlfriend should combine households and SHARE the chores

of one place. That would take the pressure off of both of you. But

don't expect to be able to sit on your duff and do nothing - it

doesn't work that way.....Doreen

>

> Since I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis last July and not

> able to work my girlfriend (of seven years) told me I have to care

> of my own place. We have seperate households and she used to come

> over once or twice a week to help me with the household choirs.

> Actually help is a stretch, she took care of all of it. Now she

> thinks it would be " good " for me to do it myself. This is just how

> women think, all of a sudden it would be " good " for me to do my own

> housework. It's cruel and unusal punishment, I have a serious

> medical condition, and I " thought " it was my job to take care of

> that, and nothing else. I dropped hints, bought gifts, waited and

> waited until it was apparent she is not going to budge on what's

> " good " for me. She has her own disability issues so I " thought " she

> would be a little more understanding, you would think! So anyway, I

> thought I would share some of the things she has pointed out and

> the tips I have discovered for the guys who may find themselves in

> a simular situation.

>

> There is an abudance of hot and cold running water under the place

> where you throw all the dirty dishes!

>

> Evidently there is a bag inside of a vacuum cleaner that has to be

> changed or emptied periodically or it doesn't work, who knew!

>

> The extra little red light on the coffee maker is not for making

> extra strong coffee, it cleans the machine!

>

> You can throw away ALL the trash in the dumpster everyday because

> those guys come around on some kind of schedule so you don't have

> to collect it!

>

> All Purpose Tide is not bubble bath.

>

> Those dates on food products have absolutely nothing to do with

> anyone's birthday.

>

> Larger laundry hampers do not actually address the problem.

>

> A dish washer isn't really designed to do laundy nor will a

> microwave dry it. However, you can buy a new microwave pretty cheap

> these days!

>

> Archaeologists are not at all interested in " new " dust.

>

> And last, but not least, is that there's a lot little things that

> have to be done each and every single day. Pick this up, put that

> away, it's like it never ever ends! And if you don't do it, when

> you come back it's still there! Geez, what happened to the good ol'

> days when things just magically took care of themselves! And this

> is suppose to be " good " for me? I don't think so!

>

> Stan

> Seattle, Cloudy

>

[Guest guest]

Since we are now both offically disabled we determined the Feds would have a

field day with us so we have intentionally kept it seperate. You know how it is,

if you have to rely on SSI or SSDI then you're suppose to be broke and

miserable, and go to the back of the line. The fact that I've worked forty-two

years no longer counts. If anything seriously happened to (the

girlfriend) I would combine our homes so I could take care of her. Of course,

there would probably be even more house work there, but I would have the benefit

of her watchful eye making sure I was doing it absolutely right!

Stan,

Seattle, Sun!!!

-------------- Original message --------------

From: " Mimi " <mimi212@...>

Thanks for the laugh, Stan. Sounds like you are learning some valuable

lessons. I think your girlfriend did you a favor by letting you figure

all of this out by yourself. You wouldn't necessarily see a post about

" Single Girls and RA " as women have always been brought up to be the

caretaker - although nowadays more and more women are refusing to be

the sole caretaker of the home.

Lets face it - there are no " magical fixes " anywhere. I applaud your

girlfriend for not budging. This IS good for you - if nothing else

other than to appreciate what she was doing for you before she put her

foot down.

I have RA, but no one takes care of it all for me. I do have a

teenager and a husband that help out - but they live here too. Maybe

you and your girlfriend should combine households and SHARE the chores

of one place. That would take the pressure off of both of you. But

don't expect to be able to sit on your duff and do nothing - it

doesn't work that way.....Doreen

>

> Since I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis last July and not

> able to work my girlfriend (of seven years) told me I have to care

> of my own place. We have seperate households and she used to come

> over once or twice a week to help me with the household choirs.

> Actually help is a stretch, she took care of all of it. Now she

> thinks it would be " good " for me to do it myself. This is just how

> women think, all of a sudden it would be " good " for me to do my own

> housework. It's cruel and unusal punishment, I have a serious

> medical condition, and I " thought " it was my job to take care of

> that, and nothing else. I dropped hints, bought gifts, waited and

> waited until it was apparent she is not going to budge on what's

> " good " for me. She has her own disability issues so I " thought " she

> would be a little more understanding, you would think! So anyway, I

> thought I would share some of the things she has pointed out and

> the tips I have discovered for the guys who may find themselves in

> a simular situation.

>

> There is an abudance of hot and cold running water under the place

> where you throw all the dirty dishes!

>

> Evidently there is a bag inside of a vacuum cleaner that has to be

> changed or emptied periodically or it doesn't work, who knew!

>

> The extra little red light on the coffee maker is not for making

> extra strong coffee, it cleans the machine!

>

> You can throw away ALL the trash in the dumpster everyday because

> those guys come around on some kind of schedule so you don't have

> to collect it!

>

> All Purpose Tide is not bubble bath.

>

> Those dates on food products have absolutely nothing to do with

> anyone's birthday.

>

> Larger laundry hampers do not actually address the problem.

>

> A dish washer isn't really designed to do laundy nor will a

> microwave dry it. However, you can buy a new microwave pretty cheap

> these days!

>

> Archaeologists are not at all interested in " new " dust.

>

> And last, but not least, is that there's a lot little things that

> have to be done each and every single day. Pick this up, put that

> away, it's like it never ever ends! And if you don't do it, when

> you come back it's still there! Geez, what happened to the good ol'

> days when things just magically took care of themselves! And this

> is suppose to be " good " for me? I don't think so!

>

> Stan

> Seattle, Cloudy

>

[Guest guest]

Stan

This is hilarious. Thanks for the laugh. I absolutely needed it

today so am so glad I logged on to see what everyone is doing.

On a serious note though, I think she is doing you a favour. I

refuse to be beaten by this disease and by doing all of my usual

activities (albeit sometimes modified to how I am able to do it), I

get a real sense of satisfaction. No matter how much pain, I will

not become a victim to it.

Thanks again for the laugh

Cheryl

--- In , " detour721 " <stanpfister@...>

wrote:

>

> Since I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis last July and not

> able to work my girlfriend (of seven years) told me I have to care

of

> my own place. We have seperate households and she used to come over

> once or twice a week to help me with the household choirs. Actually

> help is a stretch, she took care of all of it. Now she thinks it

> would be " good " for me to do it myself. This is just how women

think,

> all of a sudden it would be " good " for me to do my own housework.

> It's cruel and unusal punishment, I have a serious medical

condition,

> and I " thought " it was my job to take care of that, and nothing

else.

> I dropped hints, bought gifts, waited and waited until it was

> apparent she is not going to budge on what's " good " for me. She has

> her own disability issues so I " thought " she would be a little more

> understanding, you would think! So anyway, I thought I would share

> some of the things she has pointed out and the tips I have

discovered

> for the guys who may find themselves in a simular situation.

>

> There is an abudance of hot and cold running water under the place

> where you throw all the dirty dishes!

>

> Evidently there is a bag inside of a vacuum cleaner that has to be

> changed or emptied periodically or it doesn't work, who knew!

>

> The extra little red light on the coffee maker is not for making

> extra strong coffee, it cleans the machine!

>

> You can throw away ALL the trash in the dumpster everyday because

> those guys come around on some kind of schedule so you don't have

to

> collect it!

>

> All Purpose Tide is not bubble bath.

>

> Those dates on food products have absolutely nothing to do with

> anyone's birthday.

>

> Larger laundry hampers do not actually address the problem.

>

> A dish washer isn't really designed to do laundy nor will a

microwave

> dry it. However, you can buy a new microwave pretty cheap these

days!

>

> Archaeologists are not at all interested in " new " dust.

>

> And last, but not least, is that there's a lot little things that

> have to be done each and every single day. Pick this up, put that

> away, it's like it never ever ends! And if you don't do it, when

you

> come back it's still there! Geez, what happened to the good ol'

days

> when things just magically took care of themselves! And this is

> suppose to be " good " for me? I don't think so!

>

> Stan

> Seattle, Cloudy

>

[Guest guest]

Actually, that's me too, I think I posted something early on about RA not

screwing with anything that's me, to include my sense of humor I suppose!

Stan

Seattle, Sun!!!

-------------- Original message --------------

From: " cheryl.dines " <cheryl.dines@...>

Stan

This is hilarious. Thanks for the laugh. I absolutely needed it

today so am so glad I logged on to see what everyone is doing.

On a serious note though, I think she is doing you a favour. I

refuse to be beaten by this disease and by doing all of my usual

activities (albeit sometimes modified to how I am able to do it), I

get a real sense of satisfaction. No matter how much pain, I will

not become a victim to it.

Thanks again for the laugh

Cheryl

--- In , " detour721 " <stanpfister@...>

wrote:

>

> Since I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis last July and not

> able to work my girlfriend (of seven years) told me I have to care

of

> my own place. We have seperate households and she used to come over

> once or twice a week to help me with the household choirs. Actually

> help is a stretch, she took care of all of it. Now she thinks it

> would be " good " for me to do it myself. This is just how women

think,

> all of a sudden it would be " good " for me to do my own housework.

> It's cruel and unusal punishment, I have a serious medical

condition,

> and I " thought " it was my job to take care of that, and nothing

else.

> I dropped hints, bought gifts, waited and waited until it was

> apparent she is not going to budge on what's " good " for me. She has

> her own disability issues so I " thought " she would be a little more

> understanding, you would think! So anyway, I thought I would share

> some of the things she has pointed out and the tips I have

discovered

> for the guys who may find themselves in a simular situation.

>

> There is an abudance of hot and cold running water under the place

> where you throw all the dirty dishes!

>

> Evidently there is a bag inside of a vacuum cleaner that has to be

> changed or emptied periodically or it doesn't work, who knew!

>

> The extra little red light on the coffee maker is not for making

> extra strong coffee, it cleans the machine!

>

> You can throw away ALL the trash in the dumpster everyday because

> those guys come around on some kind of schedule so you don't have

to

> collect it!

>

> All Purpose Tide is not bubble bath.

>

> Those dates on food products have absolutely nothing to do with

> anyone's birthday.

>

> Larger laundry hampers do not actually address the problem.

>

> A dish washer isn't really designed to do laundy nor will a

microwave

> dry it. However, you can buy a new microwave pretty cheap these

days!

>

> Archaeologists are not at all interested in " new " dust.

>

> And last, but not least, is that there's a lot little things that

> have to be done each and every single day. Pick this up, put that

> away, it's like it never ever ends! And if you don't do it, when

you

> come back it's still there! Geez, what happened to the good ol'

days

> when things just magically took care of themselves! And this is

> suppose to be " good " for me? I don't think so!

>

> Stan

> Seattle, Cloudy

>

[Guest guest]

Cheryl I am pleased for you that you have a tenacious spirit.

It is good. However, some of us must accomodate to the pain and surrender.

The price of my doing certain activities (paid for with agony) is no longer

worth the

false sense of pride.

Raniolo

From: cheryl.dines <cheryl.dines@...>

Subject: [ ] Re: OT: Single Guys and RA

Date: Saturday, January 17, 2009, 5:45 PM

Stan

This is hilarious. Thanks for the laugh. I absolutely needed it

today so am so glad I logged on to see what everyone is doing.

On a serious note though, I think she is doing you a favour. I

refuse to be beaten by this disease and by doing all of my usual

activities (albeit sometimes modified to how I am able to do it), I

get a real sense of satisfaction. No matter how much pain, I will

not become a victim to it.

Thanks again for the laugh

Cheryl

--- In @gro ups.com, " detour721 " <stanpfister@ ...>

wrote:

>

> Since I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis last July and not

> able to work my girlfriend (of seven years) told me I have to care

of

> my own place. We have seperate households and she used to come over

> once or twice a week to help me with the household choirs. Actually

> help is a stretch, she took care of all of it. Now she thinks it

> would be " good " for me to do it myself. This is just how women

think,

> all of a sudden it would be " good " for me to do my own housework.

> It's cruel and unusal punishment, I have a serious medical

condition,

> and I " thought " it was my job to take care of that, and nothing

else.

> I dropped hints, bought gifts, waited and waited until it was

> apparent she is not going to budge on what's " good " for me. She has

> her own disability issues so I " thought " she would be a little more

> understanding, you would think! So anyway, I thought I would share

> some of the things she has pointed out and the tips I have

discovered

> for the guys who may find themselves in a simular situation.

>

> There is an abudance of hot and cold running water under the place

> where you throw all the dirty dishes!

>

> Evidently there is a bag inside of a vacuum cleaner that has to be

> changed or emptied periodically or it doesn't work, who knew!

>

> The extra little red light on the coffee maker is not for making

> extra strong coffee, it cleans the machine!

>

> You can throw away ALL the trash in the dumpster everyday because

> those guys come around on some kind of schedule so you don't have

to

> collect it!

>

> All Purpose Tide is not bubble bath.

>

> Those dates on food products have absolutely nothing to do with

> anyone's birthday.

>

> Larger laundry hampers do not actually address the problem.

>

> A dish washer isn't really designed to do laundy nor will a

microwave

> dry it. However, you can buy a new microwave pretty cheap these

days!

>

> Archaeologists are not at all interested in " new " dust.

>

> And last, but not least, is that there's a lot little things that

> have to be done each and every single day. Pick this up, put that

> away, it's like it never ever ends! And if you don't do it, when

you

> come back it's still there! Geez, what happened to the good ol'

days

> when things just magically took care of themselves! And this is

> suppose to be " good " for me? I don't think so!

>

> Stan

> Seattle, Cloudy

>

[Guest guest]

I know . I didn't mean to suggest that we all go out and be

silly. I am in tonnes of pain today and am very angry with this

monster that shares my life. I am trying the " I won't be beaten by

you " approach which as we all know, does not work one little bit.

Sorry if I offended anyone with my false bravado.

> >

> > Since I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis last July and not

> > able to work my girlfriend (of seven years) told me I have to

care

> of

> > my own place. We have seperate households and she used to come

over

> > once or twice a week to help me with the household choirs.

Actually

> > help is a stretch, she took care of all of it. Now she thinks it

> > would be " good " for me to do it myself. This is just how women

> think,

> > all of a sudden it would be " good " for me to do my own housework.

> > It's cruel and unusal punishment, I have a serious medical

> condition,

> > and I " thought " it was my job to take care of that, and nothing

> else.

> > I dropped hints, bought gifts, waited and waited until it was

> > apparent she is not going to budge on what's " good " for me. She

has

> > her own disability issues so I " thought " she would be a little

more

> > understanding, you would think! So anyway, I thought I would

share

> > some of the things she has pointed out and the tips I have

> discovered

> > for the guys who may find themselves in a simular situation.

> >

> > There is an abudance of hot and cold running water under the

place

> > where you throw all the dirty dishes!

> >

> > Evidently there is a bag inside of a vacuum cleaner that has to

be

> > changed or emptied periodically or it doesn't work, who knew!

> >

> > The extra little red light on the coffee maker is not for making

> > extra strong coffee, it cleans the machine!

> >

> > You can throw away ALL the trash in the dumpster everyday because

> > those guys come around on some kind of schedule so you don't have

> to

> > collect it!

> >

> > All Purpose Tide is not bubble bath.

> >

> > Those dates on food products have absolutely nothing to do with

> > anyone's birthday.

> >

> > Larger laundry hampers do not actually address the problem.

> >

> > A dish washer isn't really designed to do laundy nor will a

> microwave

> > dry it. However, you can buy a new microwave pretty cheap these

> days!

> >

> > Archaeologists are not at all interested in " new " dust.

> >

> > And last, but not least, is that there's a lot little things that

> > have to be done each and every single day. Pick this up, put that

> > away, it's like it never ever ends! And if you don't do it, when

> you

> > come back it's still there! Geez, what happened to the good ol'

> days

> > when things just magically took care of themselves! And this is

> > suppose to be " good " for me? I don't think so!

> >

> > Stan

> > Seattle, Cloudy

> >

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Bravado is a worthy companion.

The danger is when it goes too far.

 

I have caused serious injuries not " accomodating " .

 

The balance is a very hard road to find.

Raniolo

From: cheryl.dines <cheryl.dines@...>

Subject: [ ] Re: OT: Single Guys and RA

Date: Saturday, January 17, 2009, 6:10 PM

I know . I didn't mean to suggest that we all go out and be

silly. I am in tonnes of pain today and am very angry with this

monster that shares my life. I am trying the " I won't be beaten by

you " approach which as we all know, does not work one little bit.

Sorry if I offended anyone with my false bravado.

> >

> > Since I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis last July and not

> > able to work my girlfriend (of seven years) told me I have to

care

> of

> > my own place. We have seperate households and she used to come

over

> > once or twice a week to help me with the household choirs.

Actually

> > help is a stretch, she took care of all of it. Now she thinks it

> > would be " good " for me to do it myself. This is just how women

> think,

> > all of a sudden it would be " good " for me to do my own housework.

> > It's cruel and unusal punishment, I have a serious medical

> condition,

> > and I " thought " it was my job to take care of that, and nothing

> else.

> > I dropped hints, bought gifts, waited and waited until it was

> > apparent she is not going to budge on what's " good " for me. She

has

> > her own disability issues so I " thought " she would be a little

more

> > understanding, you would think! So anyway, I thought I would

share

> > some of the things she has pointed out and the tips I have

> discovered

> > for the guys who may find themselves in a simular situation.

> >

> > There is an abudance of hot and cold running water under the

place

> > where you throw all the dirty dishes!

> >

> > Evidently there is a bag inside of a vacuum cleaner that has to

be

> > changed or emptied periodically or it doesn't work, who knew!

> >

> > The extra little red light on the coffee maker is not for making

> > extra strong coffee, it cleans the machine!

> >

> > You can throw away ALL the trash in the dumpster everyday because

> > those guys come around on some kind of schedule so you don't have

> to

> > collect it!

> >

> > All Purpose Tide is not bubble bath.

> >

> > Those dates on food products have absolutely nothing to do with

> > anyone's birthday.

> >

> > Larger laundry hampers do not actually address the problem.

> >

> > A dish washer isn't really designed to do laundy nor will a

> microwave

> > dry it. However, you can buy a new microwave pretty cheap these

> days!

> >

> > Archaeologists are not at all interested in " new " dust.

> >

> > And last, but not least, is that there's a lot little things that

> > have to be done each and every single day. Pick this up, put that

> > away, it's like it never ever ends! And if you don't do it, when

> you

> > come back it's still there! Geez, what happened to the good ol'

> days

> > when things just magically took care of themselves! And this is

> > suppose to be " good " for me? I don't think so!

> >

> > Stan

> > Seattle, Cloudy

> >

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Yes we have to keep laughing and we have to keep doing.  If we sit down and give

in to RA it will definitely overtake us.  I may have to modify and do things

more slowly and change the way I do things but I refuse to let it rule.  linda

From: cheryl.dines <cheryl.dines@...>

Subject: [ ] Re: OT: Single Guys and RA

Date: Saturday, January 17, 2009, 4:45 PM

Stan

This is hilarious. Thanks for the laugh. I absolutely needed it

today so am so glad I logged on to see what everyone is doing.

On a serious note though, I think she is doing you a favour. I

refuse to be beaten by this disease and by doing all of my usual

activities (albeit sometimes modified to how I am able to do it), I

get a real sense of satisfaction. No matter how much pain, I will

not become a victim to it.

Thanks again for the laugh

Cheryl

--- In @gro ups.com, " detour721 " <stanpfister@ ...>

wrote:

>

> Since I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis last July and not

> able to work my girlfriend (of seven years) told me I have to care

of

> my own place. We have seperate households and she used to come over

> once or twice a week to help me with the household choirs. Actually

> help is a stretch, she took care of all of it. Now she thinks it

> would be " good " for me to do it myself. This is just how women

think,

> all of a sudden it would be " good " for me to do my own housework.

> It's cruel and unusal punishment, I have a serious medical

condition,

> and I " thought " it was my job to take care of that, and nothing

else.

> I dropped hints, bought gifts, waited and waited until it was

> apparent she is not going to budge on what's " good " for me. She has

> her own disability issues so I " thought " she would be a little more

> understanding, you would think! So anyway, I thought I would share

> some of the things she has pointed out and the tips I have

discovered

> for the guys who may find themselves in a simular situation.

>

> There is an abudance of hot and cold running water under the place

> where you throw all the dirty dishes!

>

> Evidently there is a bag inside of a vacuum cleaner that has to be

> changed or emptied periodically or it doesn't work, who knew!

>

> The extra little red light on the coffee maker is not for making

> extra strong coffee, it cleans the machine!

>

> You can throw away ALL the trash in the dumpster everyday because

> those guys come around on some kind of schedule so you don't have

to

> collect it!

>

> All Purpose Tide is not bubble bath.

>

> Those dates on food products have absolutely nothing to do with

> anyone's birthday.

>

> Larger laundry hampers do not actually address the problem.

>

> A dish washer isn't really designed to do laundy nor will a

microwave

> dry it. However, you can buy a new microwave pretty cheap these

days!

>

> Archaeologists are not at all interested in " new " dust.

>

> And last, but not least, is that there's a lot little things that

> have to be done each and every single day. Pick this up, put that

> away, it's like it never ever ends! And if you don't do it, when

you

> come back it's still there! Geez, what happened to the good ol'

days

> when things just magically took care of themselves! And this is

> suppose to be " good " for me? I don't think so!

>

> Stan

> Seattle, Cloudy

>

[Guest guest]

Stan,

Oh my! I nearly fell out of the chair laughing... I think if you

begin showing that you aren't a moron and that your capable of taking

some pride in your own survival, then you GF might possibly start

helping you out a bit again... Now, I didn't say all of it! Grow up

and realize that she's not your Mom or your maid... It sounds like

your GF is a pretty smart women and possibly a keeper...

Yea, we all have limitations on this list, some more than others...

But that doesn't mean we can't do basic chores at least once in

awhile. Do something rest for 20minutes and start again... You'll

begin to take pride in what your doing...

Bonnie

[Guest guest]

I was told loss of health was probably key to my depression, but as time goes by

I feel it's more loss of " ability " . What I could do I now longer can do, and

what I want to do is usually out of the question. That is my most difficult

adjustment and I am still learning not to pay with the agony you speak of, that

kind of horrific pain does not accommodate bravado, a positive attitude, sense

of humor, or anything else. In a word it sucks, and after experiencing those

times I often feel like I am left to pick up the peices when it's over.

Stan

Seattle, Clear and cold.

--------- [ ] Re: OT: Single Guys and RA

Date: Saturday, January 17, 2009, 6:10 PM

I know . I didn't mean to suggest that we all go out and be

silly. I am in tonnes of pain today and am very angry with this

monster that shares my life. I am trying the " I won't be beaten by

you " approach which as we all know, does not work one little bit.

Sorry if I offended anyone with my false bravado.

> >

> > Since I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis last July and not

> > able to work my girlfriend (of seven years) told me I have to

care

> of

> > my own place. We have seperate households and she used to come

over

> > once or twice a week to help me with the household choirs.

Actually

> > help is a stretch, she took care of all of it. Now she thinks it

> > would be " good " for me to do it myself. This is just how women

> think,

> > all of a sudden it would be " good " for me to do my own housework.

> > It's cruel and unusal punishment, I have a serious medical

> condition,

> > and I " thought " it was my job to take care of that, and nothing

> else.

> > I dropped hints, bought gifts, waited and waited until it was

> > apparent she is not going to budge on what's " good " for me. She

has

> > her own disability issues so I " thought " she would be a little

more

> > understanding, you would think! So anyway, I thought I would

share

> > some of the things she has pointed out and the tips I have

> discovered

> > for the guys who may find themselves in a simular situation.

> >

> > There is an abudance of hot and cold running water under the

place

> > where you throw all the dirty dishes!

> >

> > Evidently there is a bag inside of a vacuum cleaner that has to

be

> > changed or emptied periodically or it doesn't work, who knew!

> >

> > The extra little red light on the coffee maker is not for making

> > extra strong coffee, it cleans the machine!

> >

> > You can throw away ALL the trash in the dumpster everyday because

> > those guys come around on some kind of schedule so you don't have

> to

> > collect it!

> >

> > All Purpose Tide is not bubble bath.

> >

> > Those dates on food products have absolutely nothing to do with

> > anyone's birthday.

> >

> > Larger laundry hampers do not actually address the problem.

> >

> > A dish washer isn't really designed to do laundy nor will a

> microwave

> > dry it. However, you can buy a new microwave pretty cheap these

> days!

> >

> > Archaeologists are not at all interested in " new " dust.

> >

> > And last, but not least, is that there's a lot little things that

> > have to be done each and every single day. Pick this up, put that

> > away, it's like it never ever ends! And if you don't do it, when

> you

> > come back it's still there! Geez, what happened to the good ol'

> days

> > when things just magically took care of themselves! And this is

> > suppose to be " good " for me? I don't think so!

> >

> > Stan

> > Seattle, Cloudy

> >

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Presently,   I am coping with the decision to get a power chair. I fear having

one will cause me to struggle less and lose the mobility I do have.

 

However, I am ceasing many, many activities because the pain is too great. My

Dr  recommened aids 3 years ago and I refused. I wanted to challenge myself.

 

3 years later i realize all the activities I ceased attending because walking

was/is  so painful.

 

Bridge tournaments, malls, beach walks,outside fairs...etc, etc....

 

My mental state is still positive but I feel it slipping into a mild depression.

 

My friends do not comprehend how many invitations I refuse because I do not want

to slow others down or feel their pity.

 

I use a walker in my home that has a seat. It helps me do many tasks. However I

store it away when company comes.

 

I have awesome children who are in denial. They want me to do more. They want me

to be who I was.

 

I am sure we all share these issues.  I assume time will work them out.....

This entire disease is a process to watch unfold.

 

PS...My Dad's family settled in Seattle in the 1800's

Raniolo

From: cheryl.dines <cheryl.dines>

Subject: [ ] Re: OT: Single Guys and RA

@gro ups.com

Date: Saturday, January 17, 2009, 6:10 PM

I know . I didn't mean to suggest that we all go out and be

silly. I am in tonnes of pain today and am very angry with this

monster that shares my life. I am trying the " I won't be beaten by

you " approach which as we all know, does not work one little bit.

Sorry if I offended anyone with my false bravado.

> >

> > Since I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis last July and not

> > able to work my girlfriend (of seven years) told me I have to

care

> of

> > my own place. We have seperate households and she used to come

over

> > once or twice a week to help me with the household choirs.

Actually

> > help is a stretch, she took care of all of it. Now she thinks it

> > would be " good " for me to do it myself. This is just how women

> think,

> > all of a sudden it would be " good " for me to do my own housework.

> > It's cruel and unusal punishment, I have a serious medical

> condition,

> > and I " thought " it was my job to take care of that, and nothing

> else.

> > I dropped hints, bought gifts, waited and waited until it was

> > apparent she is not going to budge on what's " good " for me. She

has

> > her own disability issues so I " thought " she would be a little

more

> > understanding, you would think! So anyway, I thought I would

share

> > some of the things she has pointed out and the tips I have

> discovered

> > for the guys who may find themselves in a simular situation.

> >

> > There is an abudance of hot and cold running water under the

place

> > where you throw all the dirty dishes!

> >

> > Evidently there is a bag inside of a vacuum cleaner that has to

be

> > changed or emptied periodically or it doesn't work, who knew!

> >

> > The extra little red light on the coffee maker is not for making

> > extra strong coffee, it cleans the machine!

> >

> > You can throw away ALL the trash in the dumpster everyday because

> > those guys come around on some kind of schedule so you don't have

> to

> > collect it!

> >

> > All Purpose Tide is not bubble bath.

> >

> > Those dates on food products have absolutely nothing to do with

> > anyone's birthday.

> >

> > Larger laundry hampers do not actually address the problem.

> >

> > A dish washer isn't really designed to do laundy nor will a

> microwave

> > dry it. However, you can buy a new microwave pretty cheap these

> days!

> >

> > Archaeologists are not at all interested in " new " dust.

> >

> > And last, but not least, is that there's a lot little things that

> > have to be done each and every single day. Pick this up, put that

> > away, it's like it never ever ends! And if you don't do it, when

> you

> > come back it's still there! Geez, what happened to the good ol'

> days

> > when things just magically took care of themselves! And this is

> > suppose to be " good " for me? I don't think so!

> >

> > Stan

> > Seattle, Cloudy

> >

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Wow, Stan - I can certainly relate to what you are saying here - and I

agree - the inability to do the things we used to do can be

depressing. I try not to focus on what I can't do and try to find

things I can do. I also try to modify what I can do so that I don't

injure myself or cause more pain than I am already in.

For instance - changing the bedsheets is one of those excruciatingly

painful chores that have to be done. This morning, I took the sheets

off, now I'm resting, then I'll go back in and put the clean sheets

on, then probably rest some more before I attempt the vacuum in there.

Its all a matter of adjustment - life will never be the same as before

and we are all trying to find our " new normal " . But, its not over and

we can get through this - one day at a time, one step at a

time.....Doreen

>

> I was told loss of health was probably key to my depression, but as

> time goes by I feel it's more loss of " ability " . What I could do I

> now longer can do, and what I want to do is usually out of the

> question. That is my most difficult adjustment and I am still

> learning not to pay with the agony you speak of, that kind of

> horrific pain does not accommodate bravado, a positive attitude,

> sense of humor, or anything else. In a word it sucks, and after

> experiencing those times I often feel like I am left to pick up the

> peices when it's over.

>

> Stan

> Seattle, Clear and cold.

[Guest guest]

" Changing " the bedsheets? Oh geez, now you're just making up stuff to add to the

list! Actually, I don't have to much of a problem with that, although it can

affect my wrists. But the vacuum is another matter. I now view it like ,

from the movie Home Alone, as the furnace in the basement. There's something

about the motion that destroys my wrist and arm and it was responsible for one

of my very worst episodes ever! I do it a little at a time, change arms and wear

my wrist braces. Like you say, it's the new normal. But, as little an

accomplishment that may be, I do it!

Stan

Seattle, cloudy, foggy, with splash of sun.

-------------- Original message --------------

From: " Mimi " <mimi212@...>

Wow, Stan - I can certainly relate to what you are saying here - and I

agree - the inability to do the things we used to do can be

depressing. I try not to focus on what I can't do and try to find

things I can do. I also try to modify what I can do so that I don't

injure myself or cause more pain than I am already in.

For instance - changing the bedsheets is one of those excruciatingly

painful chores that have to be done. This morning, I took the sheets

off, now I'm resting, then I'll go back in and put the clean sheets

on, then probably rest some more before I attempt the vacuum in there.

Its all a matter of adjustment - life will never be the same as before

and we are all trying to find our " new normal " . But, its not over and

we can get through this - one day at a time, one step at a

time.....Doreen

>

> I was told loss of health was probably key to my depression, but as

> time goes by I feel it's more loss of " ability " . What I could do I

> now longer can do, and what I want to do is usually out of the

> question. That is my most difficult adjustment and I am still

> learning not to pay with the agony you speak of, that kind of

> horrific pain does not accommodate bravado, a positive attitude,

> sense of humor, or anything else. In a word it sucks, and after

> experiencing those times I often feel like I am left to pick up the

> peices when it's over.

>

> Stan

> Seattle, Clear and cold.

[Guest guest]

The worst thing my GP and Rheumatogoist said to me was that in their experience

my condition is more likely to be progressive than not. They both said the same

thing in agreement, but without consulting each other. Neither one them them has

said exactly what that means, so I too am always waiting to see how this

unfolds. It is clear from the opinions and articles has posted that an

aggressive treatment is the best option and generally provides the best results.

If that requires the use of a cane, walker, or power chair so be it. Get one

with red and yellow flares painted on the sides of it and try to make up for all

those people who ran into my ankles with the shopping carts.

When I went to the Seattle Underground Tour they announced that it was around

the 1800's that city burned entirely to the ground, and they managed to do it

without any federal funding. Always thought that was kind of funny.

Stan

Seattle, Cloudy.

--------- [ ] Re: OT: Single Guys and RA

@gro ups.com

Date: Saturday, January 17, 2009, 6:10 PM

I know . I didn't mean to suggest that we all go out and be

silly. I am in tonnes of pain today and am very angry with this

monster that shares my life. I am trying the " I won't be beaten by

you " approach which as we all know, does not work one little bit.

Sorry if I offended anyone with my false bravado.

> >

> > Since I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis last July and not

> > able to work my girlfriend (of seven years) told me I have to

care

> of

> > my own place. We have seperate households and she used to come

over

> > once or twice a week to help me with the household choirs.

Actually

> > help is a stretch, she took care of all of it. Now she thinks it

> > would be " good " for me to do it myself. This is just how women

> think,

> > all of a sudden it would be " good " for me to do my own housework.

> > It's cruel and unusal punishment, I have a serious medical

> condition,

> > and I " thought " it was my job to take care of that, and nothing

> else.

> > I dropped hints, bought gifts, waited and waited until it was

> > apparent she is not going to budge on what's " good " for me. She

has

> > her own disability issues so I " thought " she would be a little

more

> > understanding, you would think! So anyway, I thought I would

share

> > some of the things she has pointed out and the tips I have

> discovered

> > for the guys who may find themselves in a simular situation.

> >

> > There is an abudance of hot and cold running water under the

place

> > where you throw all the dirty dishes!

> >

> > Evidently there is a bag inside of a vacuum cleaner that has to

be

> > changed or emptied periodically or it doesn't work, who knew!

> >

> > The extra little red light on the coffee maker is not for making

> > extra strong coffee, it cleans the machine!

> >

> > You can throw away ALL the trash in the dumpster everyday because

> > those guys come around on some kind of schedule so you don't have

> to

> > collect it!

> >

> > All Purpose Tide is not bubble bath.

> >

> > Those dates on food products have absolutely nothing to do with

> > anyone's birthday.

> >

> > Larger laundry hampers do not actually address the problem.

> >

> > A dish washer isn't really designed to do laundy nor will a

> microwave

> > dry it. However, you can buy a new microwave pretty cheap these

> days!

> >

> > Archaeologists are not at all interested in " new " dust.

> >

> > And last, but not least, is that there's a lot little things that

> > have to be done each and every single day. Pick this up, put that

> > away, it's like it never ever ends! And if you don't do it, when

> you

> > come back it's still there! Geez, what happened to the good ol'

> days

> > when things just magically took care of themselves! And this is

> > suppose to be " good " for me? I don't think so!

> >

> > Stan

> > Seattle, Cloudy

> >

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I found it very helpful to put a tennis ball on the handle of brooms, vacuums

etc.....much easier to grasp.

Raniolo

From: stanpfister@... <stanpfister@...>

Subject: Re: [ ] Re: OT: Single Guys and RA

Date: Monday, January 19, 2009, 4:56 PM

" Changing " the bedsheets? Oh geez, now you're just making up stuff to add to the

list! Actually, I don't have to much of a problem with that, although it can

affect my wrists. But the vacuum is another matter. I now view it like ,

from the movie Home Alone, as the furnace in the basement. There's something

about the motion that destroys my wrist and arm and it was responsible for one

of my very worst episodes ever! I do it a little at a time, change arms and wear

my wrist braces. Like you say, it's the new normal. But, as little an

accomplishment that may be, I do it!

Stan

Seattle, cloudy, foggy, with splash of sun.

------------ -- Original message ------------ --

From: " Mimi " <mimi212cfl (DOT) rr.com>

Wow, Stan - I can certainly relate to what you are saying here - and I

agree - the inability to do the things we used to do can be

depressing. I try not to focus on what I can't do and try to find

things I can do. I also try to modify what I can do so that I don't

injure myself or cause more pain than I am already in.

For instance - changing the bedsheets is one of those excruciatingly

painful chores that have to be done. This morning, I took the sheets

off, now I'm resting, then I'll go back in and put the clean sheets

on, then probably rest some more before I attempt the vacuum in there.

Its all a matter of adjustment - life will never be the same as before

and we are all trying to find our " new normal " . But, its not over and

we can get through this - one day at a time, one step at a

time.....Doreen

>

> I was told loss of health was probably key to my depression, but as

> time goes by I feel it's more loss of " ability " . What I could do I

> now longer can do, and what I want to do is usually out of the

> question. That is my most difficult adjustment and I am still

> learning not to pay with the agony you speak of, that kind of

> horrific pain does not accommodate bravado, a positive attitude,

> sense of humor, or anything else. In a word it sucks, and after

> experiencing those times I often feel like I am left to pick up the

> peices when it's over.

>

> Stan

> Seattle, Clear and cold.

[Guest guest]

Everyone seems to agree with her, to include my friends, my mother, and the

Group. But I expected that from the Group 'cause there are a lot a gals here. I

also noticed that a lot of the gals do not get the support they expected and

need from the boyfriends or husbands. So I've taken on the burden of

representing the rational and intelligent male. As for my girlfriend, she is

great but kind of dumb. Just yesterday she was telling me that ham, pork chops,

bacon, and sausage all come from the same place.Oh yeah, like there's some kind

of " magic " meat animal, lol! And they say you can't learn anything from watching

The Simpsons.

Stan

Seattle, Cloudy.

-------------- Original message --------------

From: " Bonnie " <tiredtaz@...>

Stan,

Oh my! I nearly fell out of the chair laughing... I think if you

begin showing that you aren't a moron and that your capable of taking

some pride in your own survival, then you GF might possibly start

helping you out a bit again... Now, I didn't say all of it! Grow up

and realize that she's not your Mom or your maid... It sounds like

your GF is a pretty smart women and possibly a keeper...

Yea, we all have limitations on this list, some more than others...

But that doesn't mean we can't do basic chores at least once in

awhile. Do something rest for 20minutes and start again... You'll

begin to take pride in what your doing...

Bonnie

[Guest guest]

Wow! What a great idea! Gonna do it!

Stan,

Seattle, Cloudy.

--------- Re: [ ] Re: OT: Single Guys and RA

Date: Monday, January 19, 2009, 4:56 PM

" Changing " the bedsheets? Oh geez, now you're just making up stuff to add to the

list! Actually, I don't have to much of a problem with that, although it can

affect my wrists. But the vacuum is another matter. I now view it like ,

from the movie Home Alone, as the furnace in the basement. There's something

about the motion that destroys my wrist and arm and it was responsible for one

of my very worst episodes ever! I do it a little at a time, change arms and wear

my wrist braces. Like you say, it's the new normal. But, as little an

accomplishment that may be, I do it!

Stan

Seattle, cloudy, foggy, with splash of sun.

------------ -- Original message ------------ --

From: " Mimi " <mimi212cfl (DOT) rr.com>

Wow, Stan - I can certainly relate to what you are saying here - and I

agree - the inability to do the things we used to do can be

depressing. I try not to focus on what I can't do and try to find

things I can do. I also try to modify what I can do so that I don't

injure myself or cause more pain than I am already in.

For instance - changing the bedsheets is one of those excruciatingly

painful chores that have to be done. This morning, I took the sheets

off, now I'm resting, then I'll go back in and put the clean sheets

on, then probably rest some more before I attempt the vacuum in there.

Its all a matter of adjustment - life will never be the same as before

and we are all trying to find our " new normal " . But, its not over and

we can get through this - one day at a time, one step at a

time.....Doreen

>

> I was told loss of health was probably key to my depression, but as

> time goes by I feel it's more loss of " ability " . What I could do I

> now longer can do, and what I want to do is usually out of the

> question. That is my most difficult adjustment and I am still

> learning not to pay with the agony you speak of, that kind of

> horrific pain does not accommodate bravado, a positive attitude,

> sense of humor, or anything else. In a word it sucks, and after

> experiencing those times I often feel like I am left to pick up the

> peices when it's over.

>

> Stan

> Seattle, Clear and cold.

[Guest guest]

Honest, Stan - not making it up about changing the bedsheets. All that

bending does me in. It kills my lower back so bad that it takes my

breath away and I feel like I could go out of my mind.....Doreen

" Changing " the bedsheets? Oh geez, now you're just making up stuff to

add to the list! Actually, I don't have to much of a problem with

that, although it can affect my wrists. But the vacuum is another

matter. I now view it like , from the movie Home Alone, as the

furnace in the basement. There's something about the motion that

destroys my wrist and arm and it was responsible for one of my very

worst episodes ever! I do it a little at a time, change arms and wear

my wrist braces. Like you say, it's the new normal. But, as little an

accomplishment that may be, I do it!

Stan

Seattle, cloudy, foggy, with splash of sun.

[Guest guest]

MiMi.

I change my bed sheets by using my office chair on wheels.

I can scoot around tucking etc. without killing my knees and back.

Try it...... 

  Raniolo

________________________________

From: Mimi <mimi212@...>

Sent: Tuesday, January 20, 2009 11:09:50 AM

Subject: [ ] Re: OT: Single Guys and RA

Honest, Stan - not making it up about changing the bedsheets. All that

bending does me in. It kills my lower back so bad that it takes my

breath away and I feel like I could go out of my mind.....Doreen

" Changing " the bedsheets? Oh geez, now you're just making up stuff to

add to the list! Actually, I don't have to much of a problem with

that, although it can affect my wrists. But the vacuum is another

matter. I now view it like , from the movie Home Alone, as the

furnace in the basement. There's something about the motion that

destroys my wrist and arm and it was responsible for one of my very

worst episodes ever! I do it a little at a time, change arms and wear

my wrist braces. Like you say, it's the new normal. But, as little an

accomplishment that may be, I do it!

Stan

Seattle, cloudy, foggy, with splash of sun.

[Guest guest]

Well, I'm not there yet but I will keep it in mind. Some times you guys say

things that just warm my heart with what I have to look foward to!

Stan

Seattle, very foggy.

--------- [ ] Re: OT: Single Guys and RA

Honest, Stan - not making it up about changing the bedsheets. All that

bending does me in. It kills my lower back so bad that it takes my

breath away and I feel like I could go out of my mind.....Doreen

" Changing " the bedsheets? Oh geez, now you're just making up stuff to

add to the list! Actually, I don't have to much of a problem with

that, although it can affect my wrists. But the vacuum is another

matter. I now view it like , from the movie Home Alone, as the

furnace in the basement. There's something about the motion that

destroys my wrist and arm and it was responsible for one of my very

worst episodes ever! I do it a little at a time, change arms and wear

my wrist braces. Like you say, it's the new normal. But, as little an

accomplishment that may be, I do it!

Stan

Seattle, cloudy, foggy, with splash of sun.

[Guest guest]

I just saw a movie with Tommy Lee in which he makes his bed every single

morning military fashion, even in the motel! Ah, the good ol' days, when we just

did things and gave it not a thought. I've drawn a couple of cartoons with two

old guys on the porch in rocking chairs saying silly things and when I was

younger I often thought about what they were really thinking, now I know, but

geez, I'm only fifty-six! If I were to draw it today I'd make it so they were

obviously not moving and one would say to the other, " I remember when I could

rock. "

Stan

Seattle, very foggy.

-------------- Original message --------------

From: " Mimi " <mimi212@...>

Honest, Stan - not making it up about changing the bedsheets. All that

bending does me in. It kills my lower back so bad that it takes my

breath away and I feel like I could go out of my mind.....Doreen

" Changing " the bedsheets? Oh geez, now you're just making up stuff to

add to the list! Actually, I don't have to much of a problem with

that, although it can affect my wrists. But the vacuum is another

matter. I now view it like , from the movie Home Alone, as the

furnace in the basement. There's something about the motion that

destroys my wrist and arm and it was responsible for one of my very

worst episodes ever! I do it a little at a time, change arms and wear

my wrist braces. Like you say, it's the new normal. But, as little an

accomplishment that may be, I do it!

Stan

Seattle, cloudy, foggy, with splash of sun.