Re / ()a safe place to vent...... please keep it so!

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I think we should not post with castigating judgments and was upset by this

personal attack, although not directed at me.

I go with Kami's constructive response, made with helpful intent.

This forum should have room for all. It usually keeps a good balance of

practical support,well researched medical info, mixed, thank goodness, with

warmth, humour, and friendly support.

Problems come in all sizes, but even a straw on top can seem overwhelming, and

people can reach the end of their tether and reserve...there is no competition

in pain and suffering. We should not judge..

If something seems 'trivial' in the scheme of things,for people who have

survived desperate situations then surely it is better not to respond at all....

UK

From: Massey <renandstimpy3@ comcast.net>

Subject: [ ] Merry Christmas

@gro ups.com

Date: Thursday, December 25, 2008, 3:05 PM

I hope everyone is having a better christmas then I. My car broke again last

night. The belt that controls the power steering pump came off, while driving to

my boyfriends aunts house. So I called my dad last night to get some assistance

in getting in fixed. Well when I got there this morning he decided to be

impaitiant and start yelling at me. He basically called my boyfriend worthless

and all kinds of names, so I decided that I had enough of it and I and my

boyfriend left. My mom called me and badgered me all morning to bring the kids

over after I got them. Well I had told her that I wasn't getting the kids til

1pm from there dad and she got angry and started yelling at me some more. It was

so bad that she made me cry. My kids got her at 1 there dad drove them over

here. My boyfriend worked on the car from about 10:30 this morning and finally

got it done around 1pm. We all came in and the kids opened all their gifts they

were so excited when opening

each one.

My mom told me on the phone they were leaving at 2 to goto my cousins in PA. I

told her at 1:30 there was no way we would make it to her house just me and the

kids to open up gifts. She told me that if I didn't show up that she was going

to take them back. Well as far as I am concerned let her if she wants to be that

much of a witch. the kids shouldn't have to suffer because of my father being

the way he is. I have decided for the best interest for my family they do not

need to see their grandparents anymore at least their grandfather who is

irrational. I appreciated the fact he got me tires but do not appreciate the

fact that he wants to yell and scream about how " worthless " my boyfriend is. He

shouldn't have acted like this, it was like he was being a child.

As for christmas dinner we are going over to my children's father's house for

dinner tonight atleast the kids will be in a place where they are loved with out

tension.

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Chriss and group;

I agree 100 per cent with you Chriss. I am so glad to hear from you

Chriss. You're always bringing out the best in us Chriss. I think

was saying that to her self, or that's what I thought.

Telling her to grow up was so hurtful and I looked and saw her name

under it.

I was the one that said enjoy your dads grumbling while he is here,

cause my dad passed away in 99. I meant it in a loving way. I had a

bad stomache ache on the best meal of the year in our house. I could

only eat a bowl of cereal haaaaaaaaa. We had it ALL for dinner too.

Everyone was eating and happy I was in bed throwing up my cereal. I

am better today eating very light. I might have got a stomache bug.

All the wonderful left over's I can't touch boo hoo. Me and

can vent together. Thanks again Chriss I think I say for everyone

here we love you. God bless and take care.

gentle hugs

Clora

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> I think we should not post with castigating judgments and was upset

by this personal attack, although not directed at me.

> I go with Kami's constructive response, made with helpful intent.

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> This forum should have room for all. It usually keeps a good

balance of practical support,well researched medical info, mixed,

thank goodness, with warmth, humour, and friendly support.

> Problems come in all sizes, but even a straw on top can seem

overwhelming, and people can reach the end of their tether and

reserve...there is no competition in pain and suffering. We should

not judge..

> If something seems 'trivial' in the scheme of things,for people who

have survived desperate situations then surely it is better not to

respond at all....

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> From: jennifer paquet <jeny_paq@...>

> Subject: Re: [ ] Merry Christmas(THERAPY ?)

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> Date: Friday, 26 December, 2008, 12:17 PM

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> Can you please stop whining about how " terrible " your life is ?

everyone has these kinds of " problems' you think are so horrible.

It's called being an adult.

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[Guest guest]

I agree, Chris. The remarks seemed very much like Scrooge, since it's

right here at Christmas time. This group is for just venting when we

feel the need. I have one of those computers with a Delete key, so if I

don't want to read something, I can just delete it.

Sue

On Friday, December 26, 2008, at 10:08 AM, Petheram wrote:

> I think we should not post with castigating judgments and was upset by

> this personal attack, although not directed at me.

> I go with Kami's constructive response, made with helpful intent.

>

> This forum should have room for all. It usually keeps a good balance

> of practical support,well researched medical info, mixed, thank

> goodness, with warmth, humour, and friendly support.

> Problems come in all sizes, but even a straw on top can seem

> overwhelming, and people can reach the end of their tether and

> reserve...there is no competition in pain and suffering. We should not

> judge..

> If something seems 'trivial' in the scheme of things,for people who

> have survived desperate situations then surely it is better not to

> respond at all....