Re: [ Support for a Loved One]

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Boy, have you come to the right place!

I'm partial to AVRT because it works on insight and providing a technique

which you practice on yourself. It is the least intrusive, private way to

quickly end an addiction. It can be learned by using the 200 word crash course

at www.rational.org and rather than beating him down it will give him the

confidence that he can feel comfortable, elated even that his drugging or

drugging days are over. People quit on their own all the time time but the

addictions industry won't tell you that. 70% of addicted people never turn up

for groups or counselling and simply quit. I have been networking with

Addictive Voice Recognition Technique users for about six years and see the

confidence people quickly game when they are deprogrammed from the massive

mythological lies society has stung them with. Take him to the site and have

him read my personal favourite called " Bullets for Your Beast. " He will

quickly get rid of the powerless idea which has been hampering his better

judgement. It doesn't matter how long he has been addicted not what he was

addicted to. There are other sites which are very helpful. My BCRecovernet,

aadeprogramming, aahorrors, Cliff 's Recovery Watch, help me out here

guys and fill in the rest okay?

Don't overwhelme him, though. All in good time. But to feel immediate relief I

believe the Rational Recovery site with its common sense will cut through the

negativity which he is feeling.

Try it. You'll like it.

Best Wishes,

Carol

P.S. No one would disagree (would they?) that R.R.'s attack on the 12 step is

searing and I would suggest he just go for the meat of AVRT and leave the

politics for later. Still, some find that part so affirming that they don't

mind the attack from Mr. Jack. Take care.

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Hi there. I'm new here and hoping someone can help me find some

support for my 22 year old brother. Bill has been a drug user since

he was 11 years old, very heavy the last couple of years. I'm sure

he's addicted to marijuana, possibly cocaine and at one time was

heavy

into " huffing " , he's tried all the others too, but I don't know if

there's any addiction to other chemicals. Anyways, after finally

having the law catch up with him, he has come to me for help. I am

providing shelter, food, my love & support, transportation to work,

and trying to help with the legal issues. All I am asking in return

is for him to get clean and stay clean; and I truly believe he is

trying his best and that he wants to get clean this time, but he

needs

some support. All we have in our area is NA and CHAD. Bill is

currently participating in CHAD, but is frustrated and ready to give

it up because (1) participation in NA is mandatory-we do not come

from

a religious family, and he is very uncomfortable with the religious

aspect of the group; and (2) they are mandating that he not drink or

even be in or near a bar or party with his family/friends. Bill is

NOT an alcoholic, he barely likes to drink, but he does want to

reserve the right to attend happy hour with his co-workers, have a

beer with my husband after working in the yard, etc. The counselors

tell him no way, his brain can't distinguish between alcohol and

drugs

and he'll just be asking for trouble, and tell me that I'm " enabling "

by allowing this to happen. I don't know what to do. I am a social

drinker and believe in Bill's right to the same. I need some advice

from someone who's been there. If there's anyone reading who has

themselves, or a loved one, successfully been able to overcome a drug

addiction while maintaining the right to drink socially, please

e-mail

me and let me know your experience. CAN Bill overcome his addiction

via the internet, self help, my love & support, etc.???? Or do I

keep

forcing him to go to CHAD/NA, even though I can see the writing on

the

wall (I'm afraid if he drops out because of the religion & drinking

things, that he'll feel like a failure and go right back to where he

was a month ago). Any information/support resources you can give me

for him would be greatly appreciated.

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