Guest guest Posted February 14, 2009 Report Share Posted February 14, 2009 Sharon, Maybe your daughter could take up photography. Digital cameras have come down in price, and are pretty affordable. She could learn how to put the pictures on the computer and improve them. Digital albums are another possibility as to what to do with the pictures. Then if she's at an activity she can't participate in, she could take pictures of it. I think it's Hewlett Packard that has some free photography courses online. I find photography to be an engaging activity, and I also scrapbook my pictures. But I must warn you, scrapbooking can be an expensive hobby. Sue On Feb 14, 2009, at 7:08 AM, blondewbrains1971 wrote: > > Consider things she might not have normally done that she could still > do now, we aren't disabled we're just physically challenged - discuss > the activity with her and if she'd like to try it at a time when > she's not too overwhelmed. You might be surprised at what she is > still capable of - and some days might be one activity but not > another depending on the degree of joint involvement each time. > There's a lot can be said about positive thinking - it can really > open our minds! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 14, 2009 Report Share Posted February 14, 2009 Thanks for the idea. she actually already has a digicam and has been putting it through a lot of use lately. Mostly she is doing mini-movies. it's hard to keep up with her though, I think we are all worn out playing parts in her films. and her friends, too! I've tried getting her interested in just photos. even behind the lens she isn't interested in anything static I guess! Sharon _____ From: [mailto: ] On Behalf Of marysue Sent: Saturday, February 14, 2009 11:00 AM Subject: Re: [ ] Sharon's daughter Sharon, Maybe your daughter could take up photography. Digital cameras have come down in price, and are pretty affordable. She could learn how to put the pictures on the computer and improve them. Digital albums are another possibility as to what to do with the pictures. Then if she's at an activity she can't participate in, she could take pictures of it. I think it's Hewlett Packard that has some free photography courses online. I find photography to be an engaging activity, and I also scrapbook my pictures. But I must warn you, scrapbooking can be an expensive hobby. Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 14, 2009 Report Share Posted February 14, 2009 Sharon, my 15 yr old daughter is healthy and I have RA so obviously our physical roles are reversed from yours. Our mental roles were reversed, too. She took much longer doing things and spent fewer minutes with me. She didn't go out of her way to avoid me but it was the cumulative effect of little things like putting her makeup on in the A.M. cut down our time talking before the bus came- stuff like that. I finally made her sit down one-on-one to talk. Turns out that a lot of the feelings/thoughts you are now having are things that she was having about me. We talked about some of the things that were hurting/burdening her the most. She and I still make time to talk. In talking privately (we have two other kids) we are closer and spend more time together and I think we know each other better now. What made the difference was we sat down and were honest about what we were thinking and feeling about the RA, things that I can't do, places I can't go anymore because I can't walk long enough, the feelings involved...and importantly her point of view on all the above. My 2 cents worth is based on this. Go sit comfortably with her and gently ask her what she's thinking about this health situation. Let her lead the conversation. Let her know how much you love her and how sad you are about all this. Let her know that you will be there for her to help her as this progresses. As you two talk hopefully you will both gain strength from each other. Dalanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 14, 2009 Report Share Posted February 14, 2009 You are a wise woman.... Raniolo From: Dalanne <tombstone1968@...> Subject: [ ] Re: Sharon's daughter Date: Saturday, February 14, 2009, 11:07 PM Sharon, my 15 yr old daughter is healthy and I have RA so obviously our physical roles are reversed from yours. Our mental roles were reversed, too. She took much longer doing things and spent fewer minutes with me. She didn't go out of her way to avoid me but it was the cumulative effect of little things like putting her makeup on in the A.M. cut down our time talking before the bus came- stuff like that. I finally made her sit down one-on-one to talk. Turns out that a lot of the feelings/thoughts you are now having are things that she was having about me. We talked about some of the things that were hurting/burdening her the most. She and I still make time to talk. In talking privately (we have two other kids) we are closer and spend more time together and I think we know each other better now. What made the difference was we sat down and were honest about what we were thinking and feeling about the RA, things that I can't do, places I can't go anymore because I can't walk long enough, the feelings involved...and importantly her point of view on all the above. My 2 cents worth is based on this. Go sit comfortably with her and gently ask her what she's thinking about this health situation. Let her lead the conversation. Let her know how much you love her and how sad you are about all this. Let her know that you will be there for her to help her as this progresses. As you two talk hopefully you will both gain strength from each other. Dalanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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