I need some good advice

[Guest guest]

Dear All,

Ok, now I'm in trouble. As you know, I just lost my second child to

ep during Christmas break. And Monday will be the first day back at

work...in the kindergarden! I already know that I will be different

and I will look at them differently, but what I am really nervous

about is the parents. They are so insensitive!!!! They just don't

take a no for an answer and get nosy until they do find out what they

want. They are the most awful group of people. I have certainly

handled a lot of situations but I am just lost what to do. I don't

want them to know what happened. First, it's personal, and very

private, second I hate it when people feel sorry for me and third,

they will bring it up in the future (out of curiosity) and remind me

of it just when I will be getting back on my feet. I know it.

So have you handled such situations? and how? any advice will do and

I will really appreciate it. I am already dreaming about it with the

only exception that in my dream I am handling the situation as I wish

I could in reality....i just send them to hell and back...sorry, but

I'm not ready for insensitivity and ignorance from people who should

know better.

take care, bogi

[Guest guest]

Bogi,

Tell them you had hemorrhoid surgery, bet they won't ask any more questions!!

Dana

[Guest guest]

Hi Bogi,

I work at a pre-school, 3-4yr olds, so I know how you are feeling. I've

actually found it a great help working with children, they are always so

loving and accepting, have their off days as well of course, the age group

I'm with always keep us so busy that there isn't any time to dwell on things

which also helps. The thing I've found hard to deal with is parents coming

in pg or with small babies.Dealing with the parents is a totally different

and trickier thing, I was lucky in the respect that we'd only just moved

here and I was supposed to start work March 20th, but because of the ep they

put my start date forward until after the Easter holidays which made things

easier, so I didn't have to explain a period of absence to anyone. I've

always been very open about what has happened to me, although the only

parent the topic of conversation has come up with, I found out afterwards is

a nurse, so was very understanding about it. I suppose only you know how

your particular group of parents will react, and from the sound of it you

are not overly optimistic that they would be understanding, and as you say

thhe last thing you need when you are getting back on your feet is any

insensitive comments. So it might be best to try and avoid telling them the

complete truth of the matter, as you say it is private and personal, so you

could try telling them that you had to go into hospital, are now on the way

to recovery, but would prefer not to go into details as it's personal. I

hope this has been of some help and that I've not waffled too much!!

{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}

I need some good advice

> Dear All,

>

> Ok, now I'm in trouble. As you know, I just lost my second child to

> ep during Christmas break. And Monday will be the first day back at

> work...in the kindergarden! I already know that I will be different

> and I will look at them differently, but what I am really nervous

> about is the parents. They are so insensitive!!!! They just don't

> take a no for an answer and get nosy until they do find out what they

> want. They are the most awful group of people. I have certainly

> handled a lot of situations but I am just lost what to do. I don't

> want them to know what happened. First, it's personal, and very

> private, second I hate it when people feel sorry for me and third,

> they will bring it up in the future (out of curiosity) and remind me

> of it just when I will be getting back on my feet. I know it.

>

> So have you handled such situations? and how? any advice will do and

> I will really appreciate it. I am already dreaming about it with the

> only exception that in my dream I am handling the situation as I wish

> I could in reality....i just send them to hell and back...sorry, but

> I'm not ready for insensitivity and ignorance from people who should

> know better.

>

> take care, bogi

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Bogi,

When I went back to work 2 people already knew (my boss, and the

woman I sit next to). They had called while I was still at home

recovering and I felt comfortable and close enough to them to tell

them. Everyone else knew that I had surgery, but not the details.

One guy asked me, " So, am I ever going to know? " I said well you

know I had surgery right? Him, yeah. I told him then that it was

personal and I didn't really want to discuss it anymore. Then a few

days later he wanted to know if maybe he should be prying more (like

maybe I really wanted to talk but needed him to drag it out of me -

what a dope!). I just said nope, you're just fine. So even though I

had to tell him a couple of times, he did eventually leave it alone.

So I guess if you don't want to discuss it with the parents I tell

them the same thing - it's personal. You may have to tell them a

couple times but hopefully they will respect your privacy.

-Amy

[Guest guest]

Bogi,

when I went back to work {after being out 5 weeks), people kept asking me

where were you and all. I just replied sick and that it was good to be

back. I kept walking or kept it short and sweet and it worked for me.

Here's some +++++++ thoughts you're way that the " nosey -bodies " mind their

own business!!

lisa r

T.T.F.N.

[Guest guest]

good advise Dana!!1

lisa r

T.T.F.N.