Re: coping with chaos

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Nat.

thank you for remained me that if we eat when not hungry, there is a need to be taken care of. It is encouraging how graceful you can handle stressful situations. I understand how you feel when you say no to yourself. (no beer at this moment). But it is the right thing to do.

Many times I used stressful situation as an a excuse to eat. like look how miserable I am I deserve to eat this junk to feel better. and I made things worst. I don't do it anymore.

Mothers in law, kids with needs, tired husbands, + easily available food and drinks, Its a bad combination but It can be done and you demonstrate it wonderfully.

Yes the baby misbehave but is OK. He is learning and coping, so what. One day he will be doing fine like many of the other add kids.

And then the annoying people that help. They want to give their opinion too. It's fascinating how you can handle people and situation, Keep on, Eventually everything will pass. And you will be stronger and with less weight. bye

Norma

Subject: coping with chaosTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Wednesday, August 6, 2008, 6:20 PM

Hi, I have been doing ie since 4 days and I am doing pretty well. I am still very afraid to eat non-diet food (I used to eat only permitted food and then binge on pizza, chips and beer) but I managed to eat in moderation some former no-no food for me like chocolate cookies and blt sandwich. I feel great! I started walking and actually enjoyed the scenery, noticing houses for the first time...However, today was chaos. My 4 years old (who is add - attention deficit disorder) went back home with my Mother in law, he had hit her and attended swimming in a mud puddle and escaped naked in a parking lot. I deal with stuff like that all the time. She was all concerned and said I should get him therapy, blablabla, started to lecture me and stuff, I said thank you very much for your help, I will deal with this, we are doing fine. Then she left, it was o.k. We explain to my son that it was not ok to hit

and escape in parkings- he knew it - and cut his computer time for today. He started to scream and kick around - my husband opened a beer and I so wanted one two, with chips, as a quick way to relax and escape. I could have made that choice but I postponed it for a couple minutes.I remembered something in the book I am reading, that if you eat when you are not hungry, there is a need to be taken care of, and no food (or beer, in my case) will take care of it. So I stepped outside and standed in my garden (bad year for it - the rabbits got into it and too much rain) and looked at it and took a couple deep deep breaths, and calm down. I noticed some capers, and a new squash trying to grow. I felt ok. I did not binge as I would usually do when chaos is around me. I even got my son to sit at the table. I feel a little bit better about myself. Thanks for

listening.Nat