Guest guest Posted July 31, 2008 Report Share Posted July 31, 2008 SiGiGee, So sorry about your friend. Your e-mail brought tears to my eyes. Try not to beat yourself up- you didn't know she was sick. Hugs and love to you too. Kipkabob (Intuitive eating since September 2006) Subject: Feeling sadTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Received: Thursday, July 31, 2008, 6:03 AM I got the blues tonight.Just heard that an old friend of mine has died of cancer - very sudden, only diagnosed weeks ago, I didn't even know she was ill. We hadn't been in touch for a number of years as she had moved up to the country a while back. But it was one of those friendships where we just kind of always expected we could pick it up again and it would be like nothing had changed ... comfortable. We were very close once, you don't lose that bond.Now, suddenly, she's gone. I feel so bad that I hadn't visited in a long time, hadn't made enough effort. I'll never get to tell her I still cared for her and she was in my thoughts.Maybe some of the reason I had drifted away was that she was my first diet-buddy (and thus, often, binge-buddy) . I don't think I learned disordered eating from her, but it developed in the period we hung out together. She struggled mightily with weight her whole life, and dieting and food issues were a really big part of her existence when I was spending time with her. It wasn't the healthiest of relationships, but by the same token she *understood* me, and I felt safe talking about these things with her.And I just can't believe I'll never see her again.Make sure you tell everyone important in your life that you love them, regularly, because those are never wasted words, and one day you may find you're glad you got a chance to say them one last time. Several regrettable experiences have taught me that (so you'd think I'd have learned by now).So, love to you all.SiGiGee(trying to eat intuitively for 11 months, but really struggling at the moment) Get the name you've always wanted ! @ymail.com or @rocketmail.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 31, 2008 Report Share Posted July 31, 2008 Sorry to hear this. My mother was just diagnosed with stage III colon cancer. I know how you feel, sigh. Alia ----- Original Message ----- >I got the blues tonight. > > Just heard that an old friend of mine has died of cancer - very sudden, > only diagnosed weeks ago, I didn't even know she was ill. We hadn't > been in touch for a number of years as she had moved up to the country Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 31, 2008 Report Share Posted July 31, 2008 Sigi, I can't imagine your feeling of loss. It had to be shocking for you to hear too. It really brings in an entire different perception about life, and living NOW. My dear hubby is 66 and we are continually shocked to read how many people die in their 60s, if not earlier. Every time we hear of a 'young' death, we are reminded of how sweet and precious life is. We are here when you need a listening ear and hope you too can take care and embrace life for yourself as well. Ehugs, Katcha IEing since March 2007 > > I got the blues tonight. > > Just heard that an old friend of mine has died of cancer - very sudden, > only diagnosed weeks ago, I didn't even know she was ill. We hadn't > been in touch for a number of years as she had moved up to the country > a while back. But it was one of those friendships where we just kind > of always expected we could pick it up again and it would be like > nothing had changed ... comfortable. We were very close once, you > don't lose that bond. > > Now, suddenly, she's gone. I feel so bad that I hadn't visited in a > long time, hadn't made enough effort. I'll never get to tell her I > still cared for her and she was in my thoughts. > > Maybe some of the reason I had drifted away was that she was my first > diet-buddy (and thus, often, binge-buddy). I don't think I learned > disordered eating from her, but it developed in the period we hung out > together. She struggled mightily with weight her whole life, and > dieting and food issues were a really big part of her existence when I > was spending time with her. It wasn't the healthiest of relationships, > but by the same token she *understood* me, and I felt safe talking > about these things with her. > > And I just can't believe I'll never see her again. > > Make sure you tell everyone important in your life that you love them, > regularly, because those are never wasted words, and one day you may > find you're glad you got a chance to say them one last time. Several > regrettable experiences have taught me that (so you'd think I'd have > learned by now). > > So, love to you all. > SiGiGee > (trying to eat intuitively for 11 months, but really struggling at the > moment) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 31, 2008 Report Share Posted July 31, 2008 SiGiGee, I send you my heartfelt condolences for the loss of your friend so unexpectedly. You said that " We were very close once, you don't lose that bond. " I agree and I don't believe that death can even break that type of bond because you will carry her in your heart and thoughts. If you can visualize her or talk with her in your dreams, you can still " see " her and tell her all that you want to and even share with her about the healing work that you've been doing with IE given some of the themes of your relationship...maybe write her a letter. Those connections that we make in our life help us figure out what's really important and teach us so much about ourselves and how to love and be loved. Regards, Latoya > > I got the blues tonight. > > Just heard that an old friend of mine has died of cancer - very sudden, > only diagnosed weeks ago, I didn't even know she was ill. We hadn't > been in touch for a number of years as she had moved up to the country > a while back. But it was one of those friendships where we just kind > of always expected we could pick it up again and it would be like > nothing had changed ... comfortable. We were very close once, you > don't lose that bond. > > Now, suddenly, she's gone. I feel so bad that I hadn't visited in a > long time, hadn't made enough effort. I'll never get to tell her I > still cared for her and she was in my thoughts. > > Maybe some of the reason I had drifted away was that she was my first > diet-buddy (and thus, often, binge-buddy). I don't think I learned > disordered eating from her, but it developed in the period we hung out > together. She struggled mightily with weight her whole life, and > dieting and food issues were a really big part of her existence when I > was spending time with her. It wasn't the healthiest of relationships, > but by the same token she *understood* me, and I felt safe talking > about these things with her. > > And I just can't believe I'll never see her again. > > Make sure you tell everyone important in your life that you love them, > regularly, because those are never wasted words, and one day you may > find you're glad you got a chance to say them one last time. Several > regrettable experiences have taught me that (so you'd think I'd have > learned by now). > > So, love to you all. > SiGiGee > (trying to eat intuitively for 11 months, but really struggling at the > moment) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 1, 2008 Report Share Posted August 1, 2008 Thank you, kind people, for your messages of support. :-) Sig Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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