Re: Combatting Lies with Truth

[Guest guest]

I was moved by your post and everyones response to it. What I have to

share may be a bit " fluffy or out there " in it's meaning but please

indulge me anyway. Universally.... we really all are ONE. So what

looks personal is really not. The person or the people who in the

past said things that may have hurt your feelings...were only

projecting their OWN feelings of inadequacy on to you... so it was

never about you UNTIL you agreed to it or rather accepted it to be

true.

Since we have this universal connection... my advice to you would not

only be to challenge those voices like the others have shared

earlier... but to begin to USE other people to facilitate your own

healing. Find a way to see the best in everyone you come in contact

with and you will begin to see a change in you. There is a reason why

when you give someone a gift, a compliment or a hug that it makes YOU

feel good. It is because on some REAL level YOU ARE giving those

things to yourself.

See we also don't think about that when we make silent judgements

about other people...(and you know we do)... judgements of ANY kind be

it a limitation, their weight or whatever. That judgement comes back

to us as OUR reality like a boomerang. Everytime you compliment

someone else or choose to see the best in them (with no hidden agenda

ofcourse)... you are LITERALLY doing the same for yourself. We don't

realize that it is not enough just to deal with our own stuff. How

and what we think about others is just as crucial to our personal

healing. I hope this was not too overwhelming an email. Peace and

Blessings Carllie

>

> I am needing some encouragement. I am hearing lies in my head such

as " You are ugly " , " You

> are fat. " , " You are unlovable " , " You will never be married nor

dateable until you are smaller. "

>

> Can you help me counter-act these lies with truth?

> Also, I am willing for any good books to deal with this problem.

>

[Guest guest]

Oh! I'm so exited, to share some truth about " the voice in our head" OK. I hope I can explain it well, I'm not that good explaining , as I 'm understanding but I will post a link where this man Eckart tolle explains it better.

We all have that voice in our head which usually is an unhappy one, that is going to tell you that : lies. We have to separate ourselves from the voice and listen to the voice as somone else and listen not as believing everything it says but kind of questioning what it says. example: You are ugly. In comparison with whom? You are fat. tell me something that I don't know, You are unlovable. says who? You will never be married nor dateable until you are smaller. The great mayority of wifes will be single. or something like that.

Why ? because the voice in the head is the voice in the head not you.

My experience:

I considere myself a thought addict. to the point that I have been living my life horizontally with the hands on the past and the feet on the future. Exemple: when a friend says to me do you remember this or that... I say no! I wasn't there , I know it happen but I was horizontally. Because of that I'm pretty sure I can not sleep well. So I say to myself. Myself no coffee and no thoughts at night. And I strictly forvid myself to think at night . I stop the horrible stories that never are going to happen anyway. and I have been resting well without any pills. Also I live vertically now. with my hands up to heaven and the feet in the ground. I'm a very happy person now. living in the here and now.

And to the voice in the head. I say : Whatever.

Whatever is...true noble,right, pure,lovely,admirable,excellent or praiseworthy. I think about such things.

I started to be really concious about my toughts and feelings after listenning to Eckhart Tolle in Opra.com , He has the power of now and A new earth two books .

I have not read them , I'm not deep into it. I only get what I know is true because It is in the bible and I didn't pay attention like when God says : Be still and know that I'm God. He means it. Be still , be present, feel everything around you, be peacefull, don't worry. I'm God. Usually I have read it and reread it and practically ignore it , and worry, etc...

I hope I help you. Norma

Subject: Combatting Lies with TruthTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Tuesday, June 10, 2008, 11:24 PM

I am needing some encouragement. I am hearing lies in my head such as "You are ugly", "You are fat.", "You are unlovable", "You will never be married nor dateable until you are smaller."Can you help me counter-act these lies with truth?Also, I am willing for any good books to deal with this problem.