Re: Sorry, haven't posted in months

[Guest guest]

,

That's a very sad story. I'm sorry. I hope your marriage will be OK.

Why is your physician advising that you stop Remicade before getting

pregnant? Just curious.

Not an MD

On Thu, Feb 19, 2009 at 5:07 PM, <man_u8@...> wrote:

> Hey everyone, sorry I haven't posted in months. I've been busy and

> also greiving. If your a friend on mine on myspace, I have hinted on

> what happened. As many of you know, I can't have children. My hubby

> and I can try at the end of the year, but there is like only a 2%

> chance. Matt, a friend of my husband 's has an 18y/o sister.

> She got pregnant and she didn't want the baby. Matt knew that we

> desperately want a child and told his sister. She wanted to give us

> the baby. We were thrilled!! What we didn't know is that she really

> didn't even care about the baby. She smoked, did drugs. She turned

> around and got an abortion at 6 months.

> We were well, heartbroken. It was probably for the best, since she

> didn't even care about the baby she promised to give to us. I have

> been kinda dealing with it for the past few months and I am finally

> starting to get back into the swing of things. It has put a

> tremendous strain on my marriage and we are working things out. I

> just wanted to say " HI " to everyone.

> As for my RA, I can finally get back on remicaide. BUT, if we want

> to try for a baby...I can't get back on remicaide and I will have to

> stay on my current meds. It's been stressfull. My husband took off to

> Virginia for 5 weeks to kinda " recharge " ...it's his way of dealing

> with things by getting away alone. Hope everyone is well and I will

> try to be more active on here...I always felt better when I actively

> partipate on here. I love you all!!

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi :

I know we haven't talked for a long time, and glad to see you posting

again.

What a terrible loss for you and your hubby. I know it was an awful

thing she did by terminating the baby at 6 months. How could a Dr. even

do that!!!!

My daughter and Hubby went through hell trying to get pregnant. She

lost 2 babies, then triplets. She had several operations, almost lost

her life during this, etc. They finally did In-Vetro several times, and

she finally got pregnant. They had a beautiful, healthy, normal and

miracle baby girl. They were married 11 years, waiting for this baby.

Then another miracle happened!!! Lexie was 2 months old, my daughter

was pregnant again!! No fertility, just a miracle!! Hannah was born 1

year after Lexie in the same month!!! My daughter was 40 then. So you

see, there is always hope. My daughter thought she would never have a

baby. I told her she would, and lo and behold, she has 2 beautiful,

healthy babies now.

I will pray for you , as I know what it is like to want children

so much. I am lucky I had the 2 I had. I had to have a hysterectomy

when I was 31.

Take care and God Bless you.

Hugs,

Barbara

>

> Hey everyone, sorry I haven't posted in months. I've been busy and

> also greiving. If your a friend on mine on myspace, I have hinted on

> what happened. As many of you know, I can't have children. My hubby

> and I can try at the end of the year, but there is like only a 2%

> chance. Matt, a friend of my husband 's has an 18y/o sister.

> She got pregnant and she didn't want the baby. Matt knew that we

> desperately want a child and told his sister. She wanted to give us

> the baby. We were thrilled!! What we didn't know is that she really

> didn't even care about the baby. She smoked, did drugs. She turned

> around and got an abortion at 6 months.

> We were well, heartbroken. It was probably for the best, since she

> didn't even care about the baby she promised to give to us. I have

> been kinda dealing with it for the past few months and I am finally

> starting to get back into the swing of things. It has put a

> tremendous strain on my marriage and we are working things out. I

> just wanted to say " HI " to everyone.

> As for my RA, I can finally get back on remicaide. BUT, if we want

> to try for a baby...I can't get back on remicaide and I will have to

> stay on my current meds. It's been stressfull. My husband took off to

> Virginia for 5 weeks to kinda " recharge " ...it's his way of dealing

> with things by getting away alone. Hope everyone is well and I will

> try to be more active on here...I always felt better when I actively

> partipate on here. I love you all!!

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hello ,

            I am so sorry for your loss. I am against abortion, but everything

happens for a reason they say. Don't give up, when a door closes a new one

opens. There is nothing wrong with hope. It is a shame that drugs have ruined so

many lives. But I will keep you and your husband in my prayers.

                                            God Bless, Coetta

From: <man_u8@...>

Subject: [ ] Sorry, haven't posted in months

Date: Thursday, February 19, 2009, 5:07 PM

Hey everyone, sorry I haven't posted in months. I've been busy and

also greiving. If your a friend on mine on myspace, I have hinted on

what happened. As many of you know, I can't have children. My hubby

and I can try at the end of the year, but there is like only a 2%

chance. Matt, a friend of my husband 's has an 18y/o sister.

She got pregnant and she didn't want the baby. Matt knew that we

desperately want a child and told his sister. She wanted to give us

the baby. We were thrilled!! What we didn't know is that she really

didn't even care about the baby. She smoked, did drugs. She turned

around and got an abortion at 6 months.

We were well, heartbroken. It was probably for the best, since she

didn't even care about the baby she promised to give to us. I have

been kinda dealing with it for the past few months and I am finally

starting to get back into the swing of things. It has put a

tremendous strain on my marriage and we are working things out. I

just wanted to say " HI " to everyone.

As for my RA, I can finally get back on remicaide. BUT, if we want

to try for a baby...I can't get back on remicaide and I will have to

stay on my current meds. It's been stressfull. My husband took off to

Virginia for 5 weeks to kinda " recharge " .. .it's his way of dealing

with things by getting away alone. Hope everyone is well and I will

try to be more active on here...I always felt better when I actively

partipate on here. I love you all!!

[Guest guest]

Hi , I am very sorry to hear of your stressors also, and of your adoption

loss.  That can really be an awful experience.

I hope that your rheumatologist is supportive of your decision to try for a

biologic child.  If so, please know that OTIS

http://www.otispregnancy.org/hm/ can help you and your doc decide which RA meds

are safer during pregnancy.  I stayed on Enbrel and prednisone while I carried

Tommy and he will soon be a hale and hearty 8 months. 

As you work to become pregnant, I hope you are seeing a reproductive

endocrinologist who can help you with infertility issues.  I have found that a

regular OB-GYN simply is not adquate, nor is a regular endocrinologist.  You

need someone with both types of training.  I have seen repro endos in land,

Virginia, and Wisconsin, and would be happy to share any of their names with

you.

Best, Kate F

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From: <Rheumatoid.Arthritis.Support@...>

Sent: Friday, February 20, 2009 8:57:19 AM

Subject: Re: [ ] Sorry, haven't posted in months

,

That's a very sad story. I'm sorry. I hope your marriage will be OK.

Why is your physician advising that you stop Remicade before getting

pregnant? Just curious.

Not an MD

On Thu, Feb 19, 2009 at 5:07 PM, <man_u8 (DOT) com> wrote:

> Hey everyone, sorry I haven't posted in months. I've been busy and

> also greiving. If your a friend on mine on myspace, I have hinted on

> what happened. As many of you know, I can't have children. My hubby

> and I can try at the end of the year, but there is like only a 2%

> chance. Matt, a friend of my husband 's has an 18y/o sister.

> She got pregnant and she didn't want the baby. Matt knew that we

> desperately want a child and told his sister. She wanted to give us

> the baby. We were thrilled!! What we didn't know is that she really

> didn't even care about the baby. She smoked, did drugs. She turned

> around and got an abortion at 6 months.

> We were well, heartbroken. It was probably for the best, since she

> didn't even care about the baby she promised to give to us. I have

> been kinda dealing with it for the past few months and I am finally

> starting to get back into the swing of things. It has put a

> tremendous strain on my marriage and we are working things out. I

> just wanted to say " HI " to everyone.

> As for my RA, I can finally get back on remicaide. BUT, if we want

> to try for a baby...I can't get back on remicaide and I will have to

> stay on my current meds. It's been stressfull. My husband took off to

> Virginia for 5 weeks to kinda " recharge " .. .it's his way of dealing

> with things by getting away alone. Hope everyone is well and I will

> try to be more active on here...I always felt better when I actively

> partipate on here. I love you all!!

>

>

[Guest guest]

,

I don't know exactly why, but he told me that I would have to be off

remicaide at least 6 months before I tried to get pregnant. I am

thinking he's just playing it safe since I don't think there is that

much research on what remicaide would do to a fetus.

I am on lupron to help w/ the endometriosis and my ob wanted me on

that for at least 9 months. It would have to be joint effort w/ my ob

and rheumy so I can at least try to get pregnant. Thanks.

> > Hey everyone, sorry I haven't posted in months. I've been busy and

> > also greiving. If your a friend on mine on myspace, I have hinted

on

> > what happened. As many of you know, I can't have children. My

hubby

> > and I can try at the end of the year, but there is like only a 2%

> > chance. Matt, a friend of my husband 's has an 18y/o sister.

> > She got pregnant and she didn't want the baby. Matt knew that we

> > desperately want a child and told his sister. She wanted to give

us

> > the baby. We were thrilled!! What we didn't know is that she

really

> > didn't even care about the baby. She smoked, did drugs. She turned

> > around and got an abortion at 6 months.

> > We were well, heartbroken. It was probably for the best, since she

> > didn't even care about the baby she promised to give to us. I have

> > been kinda dealing with it for the past few months and I am

finally

> > starting to get back into the swing of things. It has put a

> > tremendous strain on my marriage and we are working things out. I

> > just wanted to say " HI " to everyone.

> > As for my RA, I can finally get back on remicaide. BUT, if we want

> > to try for a baby...I can't get back on remicaide and I will have

to

> > stay on my current meds. It's been stressfull. My husband took

off to

> > Virginia for 5 weeks to kinda " recharge " ...it's his way of dealing

> > with things by getting away alone. Hope everyone is well and I

will

> > try to be more active on here...I always felt better when I

actively

> > partipate on here. I love you all!!

> >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Kate,

Thanks so much for your kind words (any everyone else). The only

thing that I am worried about is that I am on Medicare and I don't

think that fertility meds would be covered. I have SOO much scar

tissue from 6 abdominal surgeries, that I hope I can. My OB, (there

are about 12 docs in the practice and I am sure there is an OB

fertility one I can see). When I was put on lupron to help w/

endometriosis, they told me I would have about a 2% chance to getting

pregnant. I would be a very high risk pregnancy and if I do get

pregnant, I just need to make it to 32 weeks to have a healthy baby.

I just have to take it day by day...this whole thing has put alot of

strain on my marriage and I want us to be OK before we try for a

baby. Thanks.

> > Hey everyone, sorry I haven't posted in months. I've been busy and

> > also greiving. If your a friend on mine on myspace, I have hinted

on

> > what happened. As many of you know, I can't have children. My

hubby

> > and I can try at the end of the year, but there is like only a 2%

> > chance. Matt, a friend of my husband 's has an 18y/o sister.

> > She got pregnant and she didn't want the baby. Matt knew that we

> > desperately want a child and told his sister. She wanted to give

us

> > the baby. We were thrilled!! What we didn't know is that she

really

> > didn't even care about the baby. She smoked, did drugs. She turned

> > around and got an abortion at 6 months.

> > We were well, heartbroken. It was probably for the best, since she

> > didn't even care about the baby she promised to give to us. I have

> > been kinda dealing with it for the past few months and I am

finally

> > starting to get back into the swing of things. It has put a

> > tremendous strain on my marriage and we are working things out. I

> > just wanted to say " HI " to everyone.

> > As for my RA, I can finally get back on remicaide. BUT, if we want

> > to try for a baby...I can't get back on remicaide and I will have

to

> > stay on my current meds. It's been stressfull. My husband took

off to

> > Virginia for 5 weeks to kinda " recharge " .. .it's his way of

dealing

> > with things by getting away alone. Hope everyone is well and I

will

> > try to be more active on here...I always felt better when I

actively

> > partipate on here. I love you all!!

> >

> >

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Good luck . I hope that between the two doctors, they will be able to

help you get pregnant. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Lori

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