Re: Re: acceptance of my current weight

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It is really hard to accept the weight you are!! I've been working at that the last few months. I also am a member of Koenig's Food & Feelings Yahoo group and she posted something there are few weeks ago that really helped me. I've copied it below for you.

Kipkabob

(Intuitive eating since September 2006)

Copied from Food & Feelings group:

A good question about how to accept your overweight body and still try to get to a healthier weight. My bet is that you do this in some areas already. For example, if you're not making much money, do you beat yourself up while you're trying to earn more or do you just keep plugging away at increasing your salary? In this case, you probably recognize that this is where you are right now and you'll continue to work on your situation until you're making what you want. Hopefully, you don't have a lot of shame about your financial situation. The reason you have difficulty accepting your body as is and hate yourself for being fat is that you've internalized this shameful way of thinking which is nothing more than a societal attitude that you've been sucked into believing.

There's a difference between wanting to lose weight because you desire to be a healthier person and hating your body just because it's fat. One of the reasons there's confusion about how to view your body is the term "accept." You may believe that "accepting" yourself fat means you don't want to change. Again, is that true of not earning enough money? You can accept a situation and still want to be different. Once you stop believing that acceptance means you won't try to lose weight, it's easier to do.

Feel free to browse my blog archives at "Normal" Eating. Over the years I've written quite a few on body hate and body love. Keep working the issue and you'll move toward acceptance.

Best,

R. Koenig

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I want to add to kiphabob, on acceptance too. The way to do it.

This lady, Byron was over 200 pound overweight and feeling miserable about many other issues in her life and one day sleeping on the floor because she thought she does''t deserve to sleep on a bed, a cockroach was on her foot and she had an enlightenment and never suffer from then on. I'm sorry I can not explain it very well , You will have to go to Oprah.com, soul series, and find Byron talking with Oprah , In her book "the work" she says to ask yourself 4 questions: Example : Is it true? yes, my body is too big, Can you absolute know it is true? Yes, or no, just an honest answer . How do you react when you believe it is true? I feel anxious, stress, eat more to feel better etc.. and the 4Th and last who would you be without that thought. I will be happy, everything in my closet fits me, etc...

She says that we shouldn't wait until when I lose the weight but be now today what you would be then.

I am sure acceptance is key for weight loss, and she explains so clearly , I urge you to go to listen to her and change today. bye norma

Subject: Re: Re: acceptance of my current weightTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Date: Wednesday, August 13, 2008, 12:12 PM

It is really hard to accept the weight you are!! I've been working at that the last few months. I also am a member of Koenig's Food & Feelings Yahoo group and she posted something there are few weeks ago that really helped me. I've copied it below for you.

Kipkabob

(Intuitive eating since September 2006)

Copied from Food & Feelings group:

A good question about how to accept your overweight body and still try to get to a healthier weight. My bet is that you do this in some areas already. For example, if you're not making much money, do you beat yourself up while you're trying to earn more or do you just keep plugging away at increasing your salary? In this case, you probably recognize that this is where you are right now and you'll continue to work on your situation until you're making what you want. Hopefully, you don't have a lot of shame about your financial situation. The reason you have difficulty accepting your body as is and hate yourself for being fat is that you've internalized this shameful way of thinking which is nothing more than a societal attitude that you've been sucked into believing.

There's a difference between wanting to lose weight because you desire to be a healthier person and hating your body just because it's fat. One of the reasons there's confusion about how to view your body is the term "accept." You may believe that "accepting" yourself fat means you don't want to change. Again, is that true of not earning enough money? You can accept a situation and still want to be different. Once you stop believing that acceptance means you won't try to lose weight, it's easier to do.

Feel free to browse my blog archives at "Normal" Eating. Over the years I've written quite a few on body hate and body love. Keep working the issue and you'll move toward acceptance.

Best,

R. Koenig

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well I don't want to count calories and never could stick with it i have always just wanted it to happen andd be natural I will learn to do this through ie

Betty

Re: acceptance of my current weight

I could never keep up with counting calories! It always seemed sosilly to me and I would give it up in a short time. I am glad to findthat I am more 'successful' at ignoring calorie counting since Istarted IE and HAPPY about it too :)Katcha IEing since March 2007>> I have been thinking all week I need to count my calories trying toreject the thought > Betty

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OK how do you accept a body that is 100+ pound overweight? I keep thinking I am kidding myself and must go on a diet, but when I started this roller coaster, I was only 30 or 40 pounds overweight and this is where diet after diet after diet has gotten me.

It is really hard to accept the weight you are!! I've been working at that the last few months. I also am a member of Koenig's Food & Feelings Yahoo group and she posted something there are few weeks ago that really helped me. I've copied it below for you.

Kipkabob

(Intuitive eating since September 2006)

Copied from Food & Feelings group:

A good question about how to accept your overweight body and still try to get to a healthier weight. My bet is that you do this in some areas already. For example, if you're not making much money, do you beat yourself up while you're trying to earn more or do you just keep plugging away at increasing your salary? In this case, you probably recognize that this is where you are right now and you'll continue to work on your situation until you're making what you want. Hopefully, you don't have a lot of shame about your financial situation. The reason you have difficulty accepting your body as is and hate yourself for being fat is that you've internalized this shameful way of thinking which is nothing more than a societal attitude that you've been sucked into believing.

There's a difference between wanting to lose weight because you desire to be a healthier person and hating your body just because it's fat. One of the reasons there's confusion about how to view your body is the term " accept. " You may believe that " accepting " yourself fat means you don't want to change. Again, is that true of not earning enough money? You can accept a situation and still want to be different. Once you stop believing that acceptance means you won't try to lose weight, it's easier to do.

Feel free to browse my blog archives at " Normal " Eating <http://www.eatingdisordersblogs.com/> . Over the years I've written quite a few on body hate and body love. Keep working the issue and you'll move toward acceptance.

Best,

R. Koenig

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As I said it's extremely hard to accept yourself as you are when you are overweight! I am a good 100 pounds over the weight I need to be at a healthy BMI. 50 of those pounds I gained while doing IE. I'd eat because I'd obsess about whether this was the right thing to do and I'd eat because I could. IE was a food free for all at first and no wonder after 3 years on Weight Watchers and counting points. It is possible to accept yourself as you are and be very overweight. I'm slowly getting there by doing a lot of reading. A book I'd recommend is Life Doesn't Begin 5 Pounds From Now by Weiner. I also recommend the following websites...there are lots of good articles and information on both sites.

www.bodypositive.com

www.about-face.org/Keep working at IE and reading as much as you can on body image and I guarantee you'll love your body someday!

Kipkabob

(Intuitive eating since September 2006)

It is really hard to accept the weight you are!! I've been working at that the last few months. I also am a member of Koenig's Food & Feelings Yahoo group and she posted something there are few weeks ago that really helped me. I've copied it below for you.Kipkabob(Intuitive eating since September 2006) Copied from Food & Feelings group:A good question about how to accept your overweight body and still try to get to a healthier weight. My bet is that you do this in some areas already. For example, if you're not making much money, do you beat yourself up while you're trying to earn more or do you just keep plugging away at increasing your salary? In this case, you probably recognize that this is where you are right now and

you'll continue to work on your situation until you're making what you want. Hopefully, you don't have a lot of shame about your financial situation. The reason you have difficulty accepting your body as is and hate yourself for being fat is that you've internalized this shameful way of thinking which is nothing more than a societal attitude that you've been sucked into believing.There's a difference between wanting to lose weight because you desire to be a healthier person and hating your body just because it's fat. One of the reasons there's confusion about how to view your body is the term "accept." You may believe that "accepting" yourself fat means you don't want to change. Again, is that true of not earning enough money? You can accept a situation and still want to be different. Once you stop believing that acceptance means you won't try to lose weight, it's easier to do. Feel free to browse my blog archives at "Normal"

Eating <http://www.eatingdi sordersblogs. com/> . Over the years I've written quite a few on body hate and body love. Keep working the issue and you'll move toward acceptance.Best, R. Koenig

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I first read the IE book last summer and began trying to apply the principles last August, so I have been attempting IE for a year now. Between Christmas and June I gained 12 pounds. I had a brief moment or two of panic thinking I had to go back to dieting, but I " talked " (in my head) my way through it and continued on with IE. Just in the past month, I have noticed that my clothes are beginning to get looser. I think that both my body and my head have begun to catch on to the IE lifestyle.

I have worked hard this past year at trying to take good care of myself in order to appreciate the body that I have. That had included new clothes that fit, a new skin care regime, and doing some things that I didn't let myself do before because " I am too fat to be seen doing that " . The reality is that my body has done me well, bearing children, carrying grandchildren around, etc.

My point is, that I think that it takes a bit of time before both your body accepts IE and that you are able to get your mind around it too. At least that's how it has been working for me. So be patient, and don't let those diets call you back. Keep reminding yourself that's how you got where you are now, and your body will slowly start to come back to you as you take care of it.

OK how do you accept a body that is 100+ pound overweight? I keep thinking I am kidding myself and must go on a diet, but when I started this roller coaster, I was only 30 or 40 pounds overweight and this is where diet after diet after diet has gotten me.

It is really hard to accept the weight you are!! I've been working at that the last few months. I also am a member of Koenig's Food & Feelings Yahoo group and she posted something there are few weeks ago that really helped me. I've copied it below for you.

Kipkabob(Intuitive eating since September 2006) Copied from Food & Feelings group:A good question about how to accept your overweight body and still try to get to a healthier weight. My bet is that you do this in some areas already. For example, if you're not making much money, do you beat yourself up while you're trying to earn more or do you just keep plugging away at increasing your salary? In this case, you probably recognize that this is where you are right now and you'll continue to work on your situation until you're making what you want. Hopefully, you don't have a lot of shame about your financial situation. The reason you have difficulty accepting your body as is and hate yourself for being fat is that you've internalized this shameful way of thinking which is nothing more than a societal attitude that you've been sucked into believing.

There's a difference between wanting to lose weight because you desire to be a healthier person and hating your body just because it's fat. One of the reasons there's confusion about how to view your body is the term " accept. " You may believe that " accepting " yourself fat means you don't want to change. Again, is that true of not earning enough money? You can accept a situation and still want to be different. Once you stop believing that acceptance means you won't try to lose weight, it's easier to do.

Feel free to browse my blog archives at " Normal " Eating <http://www.eatingdisordersblogs.com/> . Over the years I've written quite a few on body hate and body love. Keep working the issue and you'll move toward acceptance.

Best, R. Koenig

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I don't know. When I lost a bunch of weight quickly one time, my

appearance changed dramatically and people didn't recognize me. I had

gone to college, and when I would go back to visit my home town,

people who knew me well would walk right by me and not realize it was

me. I found this very unsettling. Then, when I said something, they

would often say something like " you're a different person! " Of course,

they meant it as a compliment, but I felt like very much the same

person who now had different challenges to face (like how to avoid

social eating situations, and bulimia -- the weight loss turned out

not to be an improvement to my overall quality of life at all). Now,

when I see people who have gained or lost weight, I tend not to say

anything. We aren't what we weigh. Weight changes quickly sometimes,

most mostly people don't change much, or if they do, it's very very

slowly. I really want to separate my personality and that of others

from my appearance and theirs. I know thin people who are the

sweetest, most kind and caring people on earth and I know thin people

who would back stab their best friend in a second. If these people

gain weight, they will still maintain their basic characters, I'm

guessing. I saw a great poster at the Y the other day that said

something along the lines of, " when God measures you, He measures your

heart, spirit and soul, not your body, " and that is the way I want to

look at people, especially in the vulnerable time after a change in

weight, up or down.

Quoting Traci Vujicich :

> I heard Jillian s put it this way. After all those people on

> The Biggest Loser finish losing weight, they are given a life size

> cutout of what they used to look like. The people are like, " Ugh. I

> hate that disgusting person. "

> She tells them, " Hey. Don't you talk about that person negatively.

> That person is the one who did the work, not the thin one that

> stands here. That person that you are putting down was the one that

> had the courage to do what it takes to achieve this goal, not the

> one who is putting it down. "

> I like that attitude. That " fat " body is housing the person who is

> courageous enough to go against what society says. That is how you

> accept yourself. You realize that the person who is walking around

> 100 pounds overweight has far more courage and strength than the one

> who is normally weighted but has a messed up relationship with food.

> This is a process. Whenever I start to think negative things, I

> think, " Whoa. Traci. Knock it off. You are recovering. This is just

> the leftover physical manifestation of what I was going through. Be

> kind... "

>

>

>

>

> Creating a great day is all about finding ways to turn ordinary

> moments into extraordinary opportunities. Tom Feltenstein

>

> (¯`v´¯)

> `*.¸.*´

> ¸.•´¸.•*¨) ¸.•*¨

> (¸.•´ (¸.•´ Traci

>

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Speaking of calories...my Dad was telling me last night that the guy that's winning all the swimming medals (I can't remember his name!) eats 12, 000 calories a day! He saw it on some news program. He eats 4 egg sandwiches for breakfast followed by a 6 egg omelet. I said that's 6 times roughly what a "normal" person would eat. Dad said so people typically eat 2000 calories?? He had no idea what a person typically ate in a day for calories! Oh to be that ignorant about calories!!

Kipkabob

(Intuitive eating since September 2006)

Subject: Re: acceptance of my current weightTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Received: Thursday, August 14, 2008, 10:42 PM

That is so funny, because I just realized that I still remember the calories of different foods. I used to memorize them and calculate and recalculate on a daily basis. Every once in a while, even after 8 years of trying not to, I still find myself calculating my daily calories. So, you are not alone in doing this, just try to catch yourself and focus on something else, and it will get easier with time. good luck!> >> > I have been thinking all week I need to count my calories trying to> reject the thought > > Betty>

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