Finally moved!!

[Guest guest]

Hi Everyone:

Just an update on my new house. I passed papers last Fri., and we moved

into our new house Sat. We are so happy to finally be in the house.

My marriage is over, and I am now living with my son and family. I am

in a very loving enviroment. I tried so hard to save my marriage, but

my husband now has his new w---e, and has spit me and our marriage in

the garbage. I am dealing with this as best as I can. Imagine, 29

years gone. He is 65 and his w---e is 40-. I still can't believe all

this has happened to me.

I am so rich because I have a loving family, and loving friends, who

have been there for me since I came home from my hospital stay, and all

that I have had to endure. I thank God everyday for them

My RA is quiet through all this emotional turmoil and stress. I am

happy about that.

I am going forward with my life, and just take one day at a time.

Thanks to all of you for caring about me, and sending me so many

supportive posts. You are all the best.

Much love to everyone. Wishing everyone pain free days.

hugs,

Barbara

[Guest guest]

I'm happy you are finally in your new home, Barbara.

I know what your husband has done is hard to fathom. You are better

off without him. Someone like your ex is no good for your health!

Not an MD

On Mon, Mar 16, 2009 at 5:16 PM, Barbara <bcreedon@...> wrote:

>

> Hi Everyone:

>

> Just an update on my new house. I passed papers last Fri., and we moved

> into our new house Sat. We are so happy to finally be in the house.

>

> My marriage is over, and I am now living with my son and family. I am

> in a very loving enviroment. I tried so hard to save my marriage, but

> my husband now has his new w---e, and has spit me and our marriage in

> the garbage. I am dealing with this as best as I can. Imagine, 29

> years gone. He is 65 and his w---e is 40-. I still can't believe all

> this has happened to me.

>

> I am so rich because I have a loving family, and loving friends, who

> have been there for me since I came home from my hospital stay, and all

> that I have had to endure. I thank God everyday for them

>

> My RA is quiet through all this emotional turmoil and stress. I am

> happy about that.

>

> I am going forward with my life, and just take one day at a time.

> Thanks to all of you for caring about me, and sending me so many

> supportive posts. You are all the best.

>

> Much love to everyone. Wishing everyone pain free days.

>

> hugs,

>

> Barbara

[Guest guest]

Hi Barbara - congratulations on finally moving into your new home. I am so happy

to hear you are getting settle and it sounds like you are in a wonderful place

right now.

As for that husband - sounds to me like he had this little " thing " on the side

for a long time - perhaps that's why things got so bad so quickly and out of the

blue. I always thought it was strange that he could supposedly spend so many

hours with his brother in the nursing home.

Has the divorce process started yet? Sounds to me like you would have grounds to

sue for alimony. Anyway. Be happy. Be loved. You are much better off

now.....Doreen

>

>

> Hi Everyone:

>

> Just an update on my new house. I passed papers last Fri., and we

> moved into our new house Sat. We are so happy to finally be in the

> house.

>

> My marriage is over, and I am now living with my son and family. I

> am in a very loving enviroment. I tried so hard to save my

> marriage, but my husband now has his new w---e, and has spit me and

> our marriage in the garbage. I am dealing with this as best as I

> can. Imagine, 29 years gone. He is 65 and his w---e is 40-. I

> still can't believe all this has happened to me.

>

> I am so rich because I have a loving family, and loving friends, who

> have been there for me since I came home from my hospital stay, and

> all that I have had to endure. I thank God everyday for them

>

> My RA is quiet through all this emotional turmoil and stress. I am

> happy about that.

>

> I am going forward with my life, and just take one day at a time.

> Thanks to all of you for caring about me, and sending me so many

> supportive posts. You are all the best.

>

> Much love to everyone. Wishing everyone pain free days.

>

> hugs,

>

> Barbara

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Doreen:

Yes, I am really happy and in such a good loving place.

After all I went through with my husband, I am glad to be out of all

that stress and strife. Who knows how long things have gone on with his

" w---e " . I know I had enough and am moving on. Yes, I am entitled to

alimony, support, medical, etc. I have a great attny. in Sarasota. He

supposedly filed for divorce. I will soon find out when I am served the

papers. Still can't believe all this happened to me.

Always nice to hear from you. Wishing you good, pain free days ahead.

Love and hugs,

Barbara

> >

> >

> > Hi Everyone:

> >

> > Just an update on my new house. I passed papers last Fri., and we

> > moved into our new house Sat. We are so happy to finally be in the

> > house.

> >

> > My marriage is over, and I am now living with my son and family. I

> > am in a very loving enviroment. I tried so hard to save my

> > marriage, but my husband now has his new w---e, and has spit me and

> > our marriage in the garbage. I am dealing with this as best as I

> > can. Imagine, 29 years gone. He is 65 and his w---e is 40-. I

> > still can't believe all this has happened to me.

> >

> > I am so rich because I have a loving family, and loving friends, who

> > have been there for me since I came home from my hospital stay, and

> > all that I have had to endure. I thank God everyday for them

> >

> > My RA is quiet through all this emotional turmoil and stress. I am

> > happy about that.

> >

> > I am going forward with my life, and just take one day at a time.

> > Thanks to all of you for caring about me, and sending me so many

> > supportive posts. You are all the best.

> >

> > Much love to everyone. Wishing everyone pain free days.

> >

> > hugs,

> >

> > Barbara

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Hi :

Thanks for your post to me. You are so right. I am better off without

him and all that stress. My Rheumy was so worried about what that

stress would do to me and the RA. I have had enough stress to last me a

lifetime.

Wishing you pain free days. You are a great moderator and researcher.

Always enjoy your posts.

Thanks, and hugs,

Barbara

> >

> > Hi Everyone:

> >

> > Just an update on my new house. I passed papers last Fri., and we

moved

> > into our new house Sat. We are so happy to finally be in the house.

> >

> > My marriage is over, and I am now living with my son and family. I

am

> > in a very loving enviroment. I tried so hard to save my marriage,

but

> > my husband now has his new w---e, and has spit me and our marriage

in

> > the garbage. I am dealing with this as best as I can. Imagine, 29

> > years gone. He is 65 and his w---e is 40-. I still can't believe all

> > this has happened to me.

> >

> > I am so rich because I have a loving family, and loving friends, who

> > have been there for me since I came home from my hospital stay, and

all

> > that I have had to endure. I thank God everyday for them

> >

> > My RA is quiet through all this emotional turmoil and stress. I am

> > happy about that.

> >

> > I am going forward with my life, and just take one day at a time.

> > Thanks to all of you for caring about me, and sending me so many

> > supportive posts. You are all the best.

> >

> > Much love to everyone. Wishing everyone pain free days.

> >

> > hugs,

> >

> > Barbara

>

[Guest guest]

Im about to move myself from the same thing. The abuse. I am hoping that

once my

stress level is down things will get a little better. Its too hard to try

to deal with this abuse

and be physically sick too

Jolene

In a message dated 3/19/2009 4:42:02 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

ellycyr@... writes:

Hi Barbara!

I was finally divorced from my husband of almost 20 years last October and

see it as the beginning of the second half of my life! He was verbaly and

emotionally abusive and never understood that my RA was anything more than me

being lazy and looking for attention. Through my almost 20 year old daughter

he's learning that it's definitely not a matter of me being lazy, or attention

seeking, as he's learning that because I was trying mostly to ignore it and

keep doing all that I could that now I'm in really rough shape (see my post

about foot problems).

Anyway, please surround yourself with loving family and friends and look

towards your future with open eyes and remember that you are loved by those

that

really matter and that you are worthy of love!

Elly in WA State

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[Guest guest]

Hi Barbara!

I was finally divorced from my husband of almost 20 years last October and see

it as the beginning of the second half of my life! He was verbaly and

emotionally abusive and never understood that my RA was anything more than me

being lazy and looking for attention. Through my almost 20 year old daughter

he's learning that it's definitely not a matter of me being lazy, or attention

seeking, as he's learning that because I was trying mostly to ignore it and keep

doing all that I could that now I'm in really rough shape (see my post about

foot problems).

Anyway, please surround yourself with loving family and friends and look towards

your future with open eyes and remember that you are loved by those that really

matter and that you are worthy of love!

Elly in WA State

[Guest guest]

Hi Elly:

Thank you so much for your very nice, kind, and supportive letter. I

know you know just what I am going through. Yes, I will start my new

life over just by being with my loving family. I too believe that my

RA was an issue for him, even though he denied it. You can just tell.

I thank God that I have such a loving family, and a loving group of

friends. I don't know what I would have done without all their support

and love.

He chose to cheat on me with that w---e. And that is what she is. I

had to get out of that awful situation, as I couldn't take it anymore.

Each time he left to go to her, and he shut that door in my face, I was

destroyed. I never want to go through anything like that again. Yes,

life goes on, and I am starting my new life in my new home. Life can

begin again at any age. I love life, and need to be happy once again.

This was the hardest thing I have ever had to go through. When my

husband realizes what we had together, and that he lost me forver, he

will see what he has done to me and our marriage. I never thought

anything like this would have happened to me. He is not the same man I

fell in love with. Such a deep sadness to see my marriage of 29 years

be over. He did this, not me. He wants me to forgive him. I just

can't do that.

Once again, thank you for your kindness. I will read your other post

now.

Wishing you pain free days ahead.

Hugs,

Barbara

>

> Hi Barbara!

>

> I was finally divorced from my husband of almost 20 years last October

and see it as the beginning of the second half of my life! He was

verbaly and emotionally abusive and never understood that my RA was

anything more than me being lazy and looking for attention. Through my

almost 20 year old daughter he's learning that it's definitely not a

matter of me being lazy, or attention seeking, as he's learning that

because I was trying mostly to ignore it and keep doing all that I could

that now I'm in really rough shape (see my post about foot problems).

>

> Anyway, please surround yourself with loving family and friends and

look towards your future with open eyes and remember that you are loved

by those that really matter and that you are worthy of love!

>

> Elly in WA State

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Jolene:

I was sorry to read you are moving due to a divorce. Yes, all that is

too much stress for anyone to deal with, day in and day out.

I hope you will start to feel better soon. I wish you well in your move

into your new home. It is good to begin a new life. I hope your stress

level is reduced so you can start to feel better. Stress is the worst

thing for these auto-immune diseases. It is a miracle my RA did not

flare. My drs. were so worried about all the damage my stress could do.

Thank God we can start our new life over. Just to have peace and quiet

is worth everything.

Wishing you a better life, and getting pain free. God Bless you, and

thanks for writing to me. So very thoughtful for you to do.

Hugs,

Barbara

>

>

> Im about to move myself from the same thing. The abuse. I am hoping

that

> once my

> stress level is down things will get a little better. Its too hard to

try

> to deal with this abuse

> and be physically sick too

>

> Jolene

>

> In a message dated 3/19/2009 4:42:02 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

> ellycyr@... writes:

>

>

>

>

> Hi Barbara!

>

> I was finally divorced from my husband of almost 20 years last October

and

> see it as the beginning of the second half of my life! He was verbaly

and

> emotionally abusive and never understood that my RA was anything more

than me

> being lazy and looking for attention. Through my almost 20 year old

daughter

> he's learning that it's definitely not a matter of me being lazy, or

attention

> seeking, as he's learning that because I was trying mostly to ignore

it and

> keep doing all that I could that now I'm in really rough shape (see my

post

> about foot problems).

>

> Anyway, please surround yourself with loving family and friends and

look

> towards your future with open eyes and remember that you are loved by

those that

> really matter and that you are worthy of love!

>

> Elly in WA State

>

>

>