living with dieting spouses

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Katcha, your reply to me in another thread (see below) brought up

something I would like to discuss a little more. My wife and I have

frequently dieted at the same time, which was nice to have both of us

eating the same foods at the same time. We also tended to end diets

at around the same time too. When I saw our most recent attempt at

dieting waning is when I started looking at IE a couple weeks ago.

But she is still trying to diet.

So I feel a little guilty bringing her " forbidden " foods into the

house. But I also don't want to hide what I'm eating. Hiding what I'm

eating is too much of a diet mentality thing to do. I want to be

supportive of her efforts, even if I no longer believe dieting helps

lose weight. So I have a conflict of being supportive to her while

doing what I need to do for myself.

She knows that I've moved past dieting and am choosing to learn how

to eat intuitively. But she is not ready yet to do the same. My hope

is that in time she will see significant enough changes in the way I

behave around food issues that she will want to become an IE'r too.

But I won't nag her about it. Being a good of example of something

speaks louder than any words.

Arnie

> >

> > I had one bad morning this week. I was having a fine morning

until I

> > put on my pants and thought they were a little tighter than

> > yesterday. Doing up the belt felt a little tighter too. Instant

fear

> > and panic seized me. All kinds of nasty thoughts popped into my

> > head. " What the heck am I doing? I need to get right back on that

> > diet. I better go downstairs right now and weigh myself to see if

> > it's true. " Well I battled the thoughts. I didn't go and hop on

the

> > scale. But I was kind of depressed for the next few hours,

feeling

> > unsure of my decision to learn Intuitive Eating.

> >

> > I want to thank everyone here. Reading your posts really helped

me

> > stay the course. I don't know if this group is always as active

as it

> > has been this week, but I sure appreciated it. Not just the

volume of

> > posts, but if I keep printing out the ones that I think are

> > particularly excellent; I'll be chopping down a forest of trees

for

> > it. I'll have to start saving them to a file instead of printing

them

> > because you are one bunch of smart and caring people.

> >

> > The bad mood passed and my resolve for IE returned. Not weighing

> > myself is one thing, but I'm afraid I won't be able to not put on

> > pants in the morning. I'm pretty sure my boss would have a

problem

> > with that (LOL). I can't let my mood be dependent on my

perception of

> > my body. But I'm glad I didn't abandon IE for something I've

already

> > proven to myself doesn't work in the long term.

> >

> > Arnie

> >

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