Guest guest Posted February 27, 2006 Report Share Posted February 27, 2006 , why does the Dr. want you to stop methodone? Bonnie [ ] Re: hello everyone >Dear Cam,Thank you so much for your thoughts and kindness. I was told five years ago that I would need this surgery and it has been downhill since.I truly believe that I tried too hard to always be positive, I was taking care of my ailing parents, had a ten year relationship, and worked a great job. Today all that is gone. Mom and dad are worried about me now..etc.I guess I should have cried back then and not been so...accepting of it all. I truly was the picture of positivity and now I am feeling it all. But I am better today than the day I vented. I guess I only want to wake up and begin the long road to healing. I know it isnt over, far from it, but the whole nightmare will be on its way out, and I will be stronger for it and will have more to offer others, as you are with me.Cam, Dr Rand stated that I need to try to get off of Methadone- period. He asked me to get off of morphine, I did that and now I have to cut back on the only thing that gets me out of bed- so I am upset.As I said to Sharon, I wish I could write more, but I cant right now, please dont think that I am not reading posts and want to comment, feel for others, and wish you all the best. And most of all appreciate you all for being here for me during such a trying time.I would love to go to the Boston dinner shindig if that is ok. Sharon are you going? If so karen could pick you up and bring both of us...Take care!> Dear ,> > You can vent here, express your fears...whatever....this is a big > thing in your life and whatever you decide to do will have a big > impact on how the rest of your life plays out. It is why the board > sprang to life...to have a place to go through this "event" with > others who understand our fears, concerns and joys. Yes joys. I > remember after surgery writing that I couldn't even get my friggin' > underpants on....and it was this group that bolstered me up and got > me seeing that the future held the possibility that I could dress > myself and care for my family...and why, here I am just a little > while later wondering if I could sneak in a little downhill skiing > while we are on vacation next week with my family.....alls to > say...as bad as you feel now....and as terrible as you are going to > feel after surgery, you will survive it, and then be able to get > back to your life.> > I am not a doctor, nor do I have any medical training, so I have no > idea why Dr Rand wants you off methadone, or how soon before surgery > that would be....but if he was not suggesting how to accomplish that > by transitioning to something else maybe you should call back for a > clarification? I can't believe he wants you to go cold turkey with > no replacement.> > I had surgery a year ago with Dr Rand. It is no cake walk...it will > not be easy...but I believe the better shape you are in on > the "front side" the better chances you have for a good recovery. So > being proactive and quitting smoking (Yeah !!!) and maybe even > changing to a different med protocol are all things that work in > your favor for a better tomorrow.> > By the way, anyone that is telling you it is "almost over" needs to > be told that the recovery is long...so it is not "almost over". The > only thing that is closer, is your surgery date...so I guess in that > way, you are almost done waiting. But we will be here helping you > along .> > My personal belief is that a good mental outlook helps get through > the long days right after surgery when you will not feel like doing > much of anything, but you will have to fight to move and gain > strength if you want to recover. The way I always looked at it, I > felt I picked a great surgeon and hospital. I arranged my personal > life as best I could. I expected all those people, surgeon, nurses, > husband, child, to be in top form to meet my needs...but I also had > a responsibility to be in top form too. For me that included good > mental attitude, good physical condition and creating enough space > in my life to heal.> > As an aside, earlier this week NPR had a doctor on speaking of the > liklihood that quitting smoking would trigger depressive episodes > with those who are predisposed to depression. He clearly felt both > conditions should be treated together and urged people seeking > treatment to find doctors and therapists who recognized the newest > information on these two conditions required a treatment for > both...smoking cessation and depression. I know you ar somewhat past > the early stages of quitting the "green monster" but it may be that > if you really are feeling this blue that more is going on than you > think. Please don't misunderstand....I think it stinks to be > us...this looms large in our lives and requires a complete change of > plans for out lives....but still...> > Perhaps I read your post wrong and maybe you are really just saying > how frightening this all is. I know that once I accepted that I was > headed to surgery my feelings became very complicated. Most of my > friends didn't really see what the big deal was...I mean after all, > in this day and age, surgery is for everyone, stars, athletes, ER on > t.v....it always comes out alright....right? Well I could think of > hundreds of scenarios that were not like that....but in the end...I > still wanted to stop the agony and get on with my life. Dr Rand > assured me that the pain I was experiencing would be gone after the > first surgery and it was...and after the second days surgery things > have only gotten better.> > I am pain free, off narcotics and doing most everything I want...so > it is not an impossible thing...but you will have to want it....and > you will have to want it bad. After all, remember that it is > elective surgery. Should you choose to have it done, the chances > are,if you follow your orders and prepare like your life depends on > it, you will come through it just fine.> > Take Care, Cam> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 27, 2006 Report Share Posted February 27, 2006 > >Dear Cam, > > Thank you so much for your thoughts and kindness. I was told five > years ago that I would need this surgery and it has been downhill > since. > > I truly believe that I tried too hard to always be positive, I was > taking care of my ailing parents, had a ten year relationship, and > worked a great job. Today all that is gone. Mom and dad are > worried about me now..etc. > > I guess I should have cried back then and not been so...accepting of > it all. I truly was the picture of positivity and now I am feeling > it all. But I am better today than the day I vented. I guess I > only want to wake up and begin the long road to healing. I know it > isnt over, far from it, but the whole nightmare will be on its way > out, and I will be stronger for it and will have more to offer > others, as you are with me. > > Cam, Dr Rand stated that I need to try to get off of Methadone- > period. He asked me to get off of morphine, I did that and now I > have to cut back on the only thing that gets me out of bed- so I am > upset. > > As I said to Sharon, I wish I could write more, but I cant right > now, please dont think that I am not reading posts and want to > comment, feel for others, and wish you all the best. And most of > all appreciate you all for being here for me during such a trying > time. > > I would love to go to the Boston dinner shindig if that is ok. > Sharon are you going? If so karen could pick you up and bring both > of us... > > Take care! > > > > Dear , > > > > You can vent here, express your fears...whatever....this is a big > > thing in your life and whatever you decide to do will have a big > > impact on how the rest of your life plays out. It is why the board > > sprang to life...to have a place to go through this " event " with > > others who understand our fears, concerns and joys. Yes joys. I > > remember after surgery writing that I couldn't even get my > friggin' > > underpants on....and it was this group that bolstered me up and > got > > me seeing that the future held the possibility that I could dress > > myself and care for my family...and why, here I am just a little > > while later wondering if I could sneak in a little downhill skiing > > while we are on vacation next week with my family.....alls to > > say...as bad as you feel now....and as terrible as you are going > to > > feel after surgery, you will survive it, and then be able to get > > back to your life. > > > > I am not a doctor, nor do I have any medical training, so I have > no > > idea why Dr Rand wants you off methadone, or how soon before > surgery > > that would be....but if he was not suggesting how to accomplish > that > > by transitioning to something else maybe you should call back for > a > > clarification? I can't believe he wants you to go cold turkey with > > no replacement. > > > > I had surgery a year ago with Dr Rand. It is no cake walk...it > will > > not be easy...but I believe the better shape you are in on > > the " front side " the better chances you have for a good recovery. > So > > being proactive and quitting smoking (Yeah !!!) and maybe even > > changing to a different med protocol are all things that work in > > your favor for a better tomorrow. > > > > By the way, anyone that is telling you it is " almost over " needs > to > > be told that the recovery is long...so it is not " almost over " . > The > > only thing that is closer, is your surgery date...so I guess in > that > > way, you are almost done waiting. But we will be here helping you > > along . > > > > My personal belief is that a good mental outlook helps get through > > the long days right after surgery when you will not feel like > doing > > much of anything, but you will have to fight to move and gain > > strength if you want to recover. The way I always looked at it, I > > felt I picked a great surgeon and hospital. I arranged my personal > > life as best I could. I expected all those people, surgeon, > nurses, > > husband, child, to be in top form to meet my needs...but I also > had > > a responsibility to be in top form too. For me that included good > > mental attitude, good physical condition and creating enough space > > in my life to heal. > > > > As an aside, earlier this week NPR had a doctor on speaking of the > > liklihood that quitting smoking would trigger depressive episodes > > with those who are predisposed to depression. He clearly felt both > > conditions should be treated together and urged people seeking > > treatment to find doctors and therapists who recognized the newest > > information on these two conditions required a treatment for > > both...smoking cessation and depression. I know you ar somewhat > past > > the early stages of quitting the " green monster " but it may be > that > > if you really are feeling this blue that more is going on than you > > think. Please don't misunderstand....I think it stinks to be > > us...this looms large in our lives and requires a complete change > of > > plans for out lives....but still... > > > > Perhaps I read your post wrong and maybe you are really just > saying > > how frightening this all is. I know that once I accepted that I > was > > headed to surgery my feelings became very complicated. Most of my > > friends didn't really see what the big deal was...I mean after > all, > > in this day and age, surgery is for everyone, stars, athletes, ER > on > > t.v....it always comes out alright....right? Well I could think of > > hundreds of scenarios that were not like that....but in the > end...I > > still wanted to stop the agony and get on with my life. Dr Rand > > assured me that the pain I was experiencing would be gone after > the > > first surgery and it was...and after the second days surgery > things > > have only gotten better. > > > > I am pain free, off narcotics and doing most everything I > want...so > > it is not an impossible thing...but you will have to want > it....and > > you will have to want it bad. After all, remember that it is > > elective surgery. Should you choose to have it done, the chances > > are,if you follow your orders and prepare like your life depends > on > > it, you will come through it just fine. > > > > Take Care, Cam > > > > > > > > > scoliosis veterans * flatback sufferers * revision candidates > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2006 Report Share Posted April 22, 2006 Thanks, ! I'll add mino to my list of treatments to talk to my LLMD about. Jessie > > JUST READING ALOT OF THE POSTS ABOUT IV ANITIBIOTICS AND WHAT TO > EXPECT...I AM NOT A DOCTOR BUT A PATIENT WHO HAD SEVERE NEURO > LYME....I WANT PEOPLE TO KNOW ABOUT MINOCYCLINE AND ITS EFFECTS ON > THE NERVOUS SYSTEM....BY FAR THE DRUG OF CHOICE FOR MYSELF WAS > MINOCYLINE OTHERWISE KNOWN AS DYNACINE...MINO CROSSES THE BLOOD > BRAIN BARRIER FIVE TIMES GREATER THEN DOXYCYCLINE....MINOCYCLINE > DOES NOT HAVE THE SUN PROBLEMS OF DOXY....HOWEVER IT DOES HAVE SIDE > EFFECTS OF DIZZYNESS IF YOU HAVE NEURO LYME OR SOME OTHER INFECTION > OF THE NERVOUS SYSTEM OTHER THEN LYME...IT IS A HEAVY HITTER AS FAR > AS KILLING POWER IS CONCERNED BUT FROM WHAT IVE READ THERE IS NO BAD > SIDE EFFECTS SUCH AS LIVER OR OTHER DAMAGE...IT HAS BEEN AROUND FOR > 30 OR MORE YEARS AND HAS BEEN RESEARCHED VERY WELL...IT HAS NOW BEEN > FOUND TO SLOW OR STOP CERTAIN DISEASES IN ANIMAL MODELS FROM ANOTHER > REPORT IVE READ FROM A REPUTABLE SOURCE..THOSE DISEASES > WERE:MS,HUNTINGTONS DISEASE,PARKINSONS DISEASE,ALS....THESE WERE THE > DISEASE MENTIONED IN THE ARTICLE...SO I FEEL THAT MINO HAD A MUCH > BETTER EFFECT THEN EVEN IV ROCEPHIN...MY LLMD WHO IS THE BEST IN THE > COUNTRY HAS TOLD ME THAT IF YOU TAKE AN ANTIBIOTIC THAT IT MUST > CROSS THE BBB...IF IT DOES NOT THEN IT WONT WORK...SO IF YOU HAVE > NOT TRIED MINO ASK YOUR LLMD ABOUT IT..IT WORKED FOR VERY SEVERE > NEURO LYME...IT ALSO BY THE WAY HAS THE ABILILTY TO CROSS THE TESTES > BARRIER...THAT IS ANOTHER FAVORITE HIDING SPOT OF SPIROCHETES AS > THEY CAN NOT BE HARMED...GOOD LUCK TO EVERYONE > ERIC > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 21, 2006 Report Share Posted June 21, 2006 , you are right. You have to be patient, be VERY FATIGUED, have roaming pains, maybe rashes, brain fog, etc. Keep reading the antibiotic protocol at this site on Herxheimer reactions. You will get there. You have to believe that. No. 1 Rule. Now, second rule is to be good to yourself, know that your emotions are going to be out of whack, let yourself cry, be depressed and mainly, be good to yourself during this time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 1, 2006 Report Share Posted July 1, 2006 Hello ... I am sorry that I was unable to get back with you regarding your previous email. But I really missed talking to you the last couple of weeks.. But I have been fine lately. I still take the shots once a week but I think that I am going to have it changed to humira soon..But that will be fine too cause I need the shots to slow down...the procrit the vitamin b-12 shots..I need the encouragement that you give.i find it very spiritually uplifting. You can never depress me please express yourself fully...i intend to...you are the only other person i can relate to regarding these problems ...As far as my mother she was on enbrel for one year before she completely recovered..but she was bed ridden for 6 years...Love you and waiting on your email nicole jordan <rouen2m@...> wrote: Hello I wrote to the group about a week ago. Feeling extremely tired about 1 1/2 month into the AP. Did anyone feel this symptom too? it is part of the " being patient " test, so I have to endure this too. Thanks for any feedback, it would be helpful, --------------------------------- Ring'em or ping'em. Make PC-to-phone calls as low as 1¢/min with Messenger with Voice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 16, 2006 Report Share Posted October 16, 2006 Hi Letisha, Your story tugged at my heart strings. You say you have been on every medication there is. But you are in pain now and having a flare and don't want anymore surgery. Have you read about the " Infectious Theory " and the " Antibiotic therapy " that can help. I have scleroderma and it has helped me. Try it, you have nothing to lose. That's why I did and now I am on my 10th month of taking the antibiotic " Minocin " and I no longer have any pain, my fingers are straight and my pulmonary fibrosis is regressing. I have not had any more episodes of Raynauds since last February. What have you got to lose? Try it. Dolores Sapphy <sapphy75@...> wrote: Hello, my name is Letisha and I'm 31. I live in Connecticut with my parents and younger brother. I also have two older sisters. I was diagnosed with JRA when I was 18 months old. My mother thinks I was born with it because I was always sick and had fevers. She knew something was wrong more so when I started walking and would tell her I was hurting. It took her a while to find someone to be able to give her a diagnosis. Once I was diagnosed, I had the same doctor until I was 20. It has been very hard growing up with arthritis but I've learned to deal. It always helped that I have a very supportive family. If my mother couldn't take me to an appointment, another family member would make sure I got there. My Dad tends to shy away from appointments, he always has. As they got older, my sisters would take me. They're 9 and 10 years older than me. Even though I have arthritis I think my life has been pretty good. My parents were good about letting me try everything. My mother let me try tap dancing, she let me jump rope. She said she knew I would probably get sore but she didn't want to say no. She also made sure we always had stairs because she thought that was good exercise for me. My doctor says that may be why I didn't end up in a wheelchair when I was 11 like they thought. I think I have been on every medication there is. Right now I'm on Humira, Prednisone, Methotrexate and Folic Acid for my arthritis. I also take Allegra and Nasonex for allergies and Prevacid for stomach problems. Right now I'm in the middle of a big flare up which makes it hard to do anything. I am hurting most of the time but I try to keep going with my daily activities. I've had my right shoulder replaced, my right hip replaced, both wrists had to be straigntened out with surgery. I've also had surgery on my feet. I have several pinched nerves in my neck due to me now also having osteoarthritis and I have no feeling in my righ arm and hand. I'm trying to avoid surgery but it's not looking too well. Hopefully this is a good introduction and I look forward to getting to know everyone :-) Letisha To unsubscribe, email: rheumatic-unsubscribeegroups Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 17, 2006 Report Share Posted October 17, 2006 Letisha....If I were you I would do all the research I could on Antibiotic therapy and give it a try with an experienced doctor. Most rheumatologists will refuse or tell you it does not work. I am here in Tennessee and can tell you on the majority of people who give it a fair trial...one to two years) find major relief. See if you can order any of the books by Henry Scammell and read them thoroughly. I went on standard therapies for eight years and went slowly downhill all during that time. Joints started to twist and I was very close to being wheelchair bound. I threw caution to the wind and traveled across the state to an experienced doctor who treated with antibiotics in spite of my doctor insisting I was being foolish. I asked the new doctor how many patients were able to reach remission. He stated 70% if they stuck with the program. I asked him if there was anyone who did not get some relief. He stated even those who did not reach remission got great relief and were able to get off many of the more toxic meds and pain meds. I now have an internist here in Nashville, Tenn who prescribes me Minocin and after reviewing my records has put several others on it. I asked him how they were all doing. He said all of them had significant pain relief over time. He is sold on antibiotic therapy. I have been in remission for six years now and many joints have been able to rebuild. At your age you might be able to do even better... as I am 59. Everyone I have gotten to try Minocin has had a marked decrease in pain and number of meds they needed over time. Several have, like myself, reached remission. This is something you really need to research as you have many years in front of you and you need to live them as painfree and medicine free as you can. Martha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2006 Report Share Posted November 15, 2006 Hi Channing, Welcome to the list. I don't know that this is the kind of group you're looking for, but I'll comment on some of the things you have written. Comments interspersed. By the way, I have a nephew with autism, have worked with many children and adults on the spectrum, and have worked in group homes, vocational programs, in-home, and in the community. S S <p>Hello My name is Channing. I am a female. I live in s, North<br> Carolina . I have a Disability called Autism- I have the Aspergers<br> kind of autism. I was treated VERY MEANLY in a group home recently the<br> group home told me these things<br> <br> 1. That they would not let me go to the church I want to go to <br> *Did they give you a list of residents' rights when you moved in? The right to practice your religion should be on that list. Were you there as a residnet or for respite? How long were you there? 2. That they told me that I would not be able to use the bathroom<br> because of the fact I have problems with frequent urination<br> *Did you report this to someone in charge? How many others did you have to share the bathroom with? Have you seen a medical doctor about the frequent urination? If you drink lots of caffeine that could be part of what causes it. 3. They told me that I would not be able to use the phone- they wanted<br> a goal because I use the phone too much<br> *A goal makes sense unless you have a phone of your own. How many others did you have to share the phone with? 4. They told me that I could not be independent at all and that I<br> would have to be treated as a prisoner- I have a lot of capabilitys my<br> capabilitys is I can stay at home without my mother when she goes out<br> of town for 3 nights, I know how to ride the City bus in the<br> community, I know how to walk in the neighborhood and go to places<br> like the Library and post office on my own<br> *Those are excellent and important skills. 5. They told me that I must go to a Day program and do retarded lo<br> Functioning contract work because of the fact I do not have a job - I<br> have had jobs in the community before like working at Pizza Hut,<br> working as a file Clerk at Nationsbank and working as a Janitor at a<br> preschool<br> *Sounds like you have some great experience. Is there an agency in your area that offers job development or job coashing that you could connect with instead of working in a workshop? Most group home don't have daytime staff so the residents all have to have work, school, or day program. <br> Because of this I have gone back home to live with my ageing 64 years<br> old Mother and my ageing 68 years old dad . I also know if my parents<br> was to die and I was liveing at home with my parents I would become a<br> ward of the state of North Carolina and be placed in VERY<br> INAPPROPRIATE LIVEING SITUATIONS for someone like me- I do not want to<br> become a ward of the state of North Carolina. I AM TREATED VERY MEANLY<br> IN NORTH CAROLINA BECAUSE I HAVE A DISABILITY CALLED AUTISM- THE<br> ASPERGERS KIND OF AUTISM.<br> *Do you have any brothers or sisters? Do you have a case manager or service coordinator? <br> I am also treated VERY MEANLY by people-pen pals because of the fact I<br> write very short letters with 2 or 3 questions ONLY. I do not have<br> much to say about my life because I have no friends where I live -<br> WHERE I LIVE THE PEOPLE CALL ME RETARDED ,PEOPLE CALL ME RUDE AND DO<br> NOT SPEAK TO ME AT ALL .<br> <br> I am looking for e-mail pen pals that can accept very short letters<br> with 2 or 3 questions like for example:<br> <br> 1. Do you have any pets?<br> *No real pets, just spiders in the basement and bats in the " belfry " . 2. Do you like music?<br> *Some kinds, not heavy metal or opera. 3. What kind of music do you like?<br> *Oldies, mainly. <br> If you would like to be my pen pal please e-mail me at<br> <br> the e-mails listed below:<br> <br> <a href= " mailto:chanchan79%40excite.com " >chanchan79excite (DOT) <wbr>com</a><br> <a href= " mailto:channing28270%40gmail.com " >channing28270@<wbr>gmail.com</a><br> <a href= " mailto:channing28270%40myway.com " >channing28270@<wbr>myway.com</a><br> <a href= " mailto:channingashbaugh%40netscape.net " >channingashbaugh@<wbr>netscape.<wb\ r>net</a><br> <a href= " mailto:channinga%40carolina.rr.com " >channingacarolina (DOT) <wbr>rr.com</a> <br> <a href= " mailto:channing79%40hotmail.com " >channing79hotmail (DOT) <wbr>com</a><br> <a href= " mailto:sockscat23%40hotmail.com " >sockscat23hotmail (DOT) <wbr>com</a><br> <br> I ALSO have a biggest fear in life my with my Autism -or Aspergers<br> Autism and me being 35 years old and my mom being 64 and my dad being<br> 68 years old my biggest fear in life is As My parents get older I know<br> that one day my parents are going to die. I do not want to become a<br> ward of my state I am going to need a place to live what can I do<br> about haveing a place to live that will include these things:<br> Things I Expect in my place I want to call home<br> <br> 1. Haveing independent time without Group home staff to be at the<br> house when I am at the house<br> *Some people with autism can learn enough skills to live in an apartment with a roommate or on their own and perhaps have a case manager or someone who comes in once or a couple times a week to help with various things. 2. Being able to attend My Church that I want to attend every Sunday<br> without paying for a bus<br> *Does your church have a van that picks up people? Is it close enough to safely walk to it? 3. Being able to go to my Church Activitys like Concerts and christmas<br> musicals without paying for a bus<br> *You may qualify for a discounted bus pass. 4. I want a person to help me with cooking- I DO NOT KNOW how to cook<br> at all<br> *Have you asked your parents to help yyou learn how to cook? 5. I want a person or a nest that promises to give me transportation<br> to my church that I want to attend Every Sunday<br> *That would be difficult. Is there someone who attends your church who lives near you? 6. I would Like someone to talk to other than Clients if I am in a nest<br> *A nest? 7. I want to go to bed when ever I want to<br> *I can't do that because I have to get up and go to work in the morning. 8. Be able to use my phone without people saying I talk on the phone<br> too much and need a goal for useing the phone<br> *Having your own phone would be one possible way, but you would have to pay the bill. 9. Haveing activities like being able to go to:<br> 1. Dances<br> 2. Bingo Games<br> 3. Going to the Movies<br> 4. Going Bowling<br> 5. Being able to go swimming<br> 6. Haveing Access to the YMCA<br> 7. Going on trips like:<br> 1. To the Beach<br> 2. Camping<br> 10. Not being told that I MUST go to a sheltered workshop or day<br> program if I do not have a Job<br> *This one is also tough. I don't know of any group homes that have day staff. This is also part of having to go to bed at a certain time (or at least get up at a certain time). Some might let you go to a volunteer opportunity instead of a day program. 11. Being able to stay home if I am too sick to go to work<br> <br> *Depends on how often you're sick and whther the doctor agrees that you're really sick. I am also looking for some pen pal I can join.<br> <br> I am also looking for people that can join my I own.<br> <br> Channing<br> _______________________________________________ Join Excite! - http://www.excite.com The most personalized portal on the Web! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 26, 2006 Report Share Posted November 26, 2006 Hi and welcome. I have 18 yo twin boys that were diagnosed aspergers two years ago. You very well could be aspergers. One of my sons is bipolar,has anxiety disorder and add. The other is OCD, depression, and anxiety so you kind of sound like them. I know aspergers has a lot of co-morbid diagnosis' that come along with it. You are lucky you have found 2 good docs that are willing to be openminded. One of my boys is medicated and the other (bipolar one) is not. He had alot of difficulty finding the right combo and gave up on meds all together. Ask any questions you have and I am sure some of the bright helpful people on here can help. Welcome again, Toni > My name is . I'm not sure that this is the group for > me, but in surfing around for support groups, I decided > to check out some groups here in . > > I am a 49yo. guy with one child. She is 25yo. and is > having many of the same issues as I. > > When I was about 6 or 7 years old I was dx'd dyslexic. In > '87 I was dx'd Bi-Polar. Since then I have been dx'd ADD, > having traits of OCD and BPD. I respond fairly well to > the old traditional BP meds, but I need others to make > them work more fully. I also seem to develop a tolerance > to them. Over time, I'm taking the maximum doses allowable > , supplimented by mood stableizers. > > A friend of mine is a Ph.D. in Early Child Development. > She tells me that there is now scientific opinion, if not > fact, that people of this description may actually be > misdx'd, and are actually Asperger's. > > This is why I am exploring the possibilities. I have 2 > doctors, a Psychiatrist and a Psychologist that are very > open-minded about this and are asking for information > from a first-person perspective. > > Thanks for the ear. > > Dave > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 29, 2006 Report Share Posted November 29, 2006 Hi Toni, and thanks. I'm glad you are out there to say " HI " . I saw my psychiatrist yesterday, and she is interested in hearing more about the co-morbidity of AS and AD/HD, and BiPolar. This aught to be interesting. I'll keep you informed. Re: ( ) Hello Everyone Hi and welcome. I have 18 yo twin boys that were diagnosed aspergers two years ago. You very well could be aspergers. One of my sons is bipolar,has anxiety disorder and add. The other is OCD, depression, and anxiety so you kind of sound like them. I know aspergers has a lot of co-morbid diagnosis' that come along with it. You are lucky you have found 2 good docs that are willing to be openminded. One of my boys is medicated and the other (bipolar one) is not. He had alot of difficulty finding the right combo and gave up on meds all together. Ask any questions you have and I am sure some of the bright helpful people on here can help. Welcome again, Toni > My name is . I'm not sure that this is the group for > me, but in surfing around for support groups, I decided > to check out some groups here in . > > I am a 49yo. guy with one child. She is 25yo. and is > having many of the same issues as I. > > When I was about 6 or 7 years old I was dx'd dyslexic. In > '87 I was dx'd Bi-Polar. Since then I have been dx'd ADD, > having traits of OCD and BPD. I respond fairly well to > the old traditional BP meds, but I need others to make > them work more fully. I also seem to develop a tolerance > to them. Over time, I'm taking the maximum doses allowable > , supplimented by mood stableizers. > > A friend of mine is a Ph.D. in Early Child Development. > She tells me that there is now scientific opinion, if not > fact, that people of this description may actually be > misdx'd, and are actually Asperger's. > > This is why I am exploring the possibilities. I have 2 > doctors, a Psychiatrist and a Psychologist that are very > open-minded about this and are asking for information > from a first-person perspective. > > Thanks for the ear. > > Dave > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 29, 2006 Report Share Posted November 29, 2006 I can't wait !! Thanks, Toni Re: ( ) Hello Everyone > > Hi and welcome. I have 18 yo twin boys that were > diagnosed aspergers two years ago. You very well could be > aspergers. One of my sons is bipolar,has anxiety disorder > and add. The other is OCD, depression, and anxiety so you > kind of sound like them. I know aspergers has a lot of > co-morbid diagnosis' that come along with it. You are lucky > you have found 2 good docs that are willing to be > openminded. One of my boys is medicated and the other > (bipolar one) is not. He had alot of difficulty finding the > right combo and gave up on meds all together. Ask any > questions you have and I am sure some of the bright helpful > people on here can help. Welcome again, Toni > > >> My name is . I'm not sure that this is the group for >> me, but in surfing around for support groups, I decided >> to check out some groups here in . >> >> I am a 49yo. guy with one child. She is 25yo. and is >> having many of the same issues as I. >> >> When I was about 6 or 7 years old I was dx'd dyslexic. In >> '87 I was dx'd Bi-Polar. Since then I have been dx'd ADD, >> having traits of OCD and BPD. I respond fairly well to >> the old traditional BP meds, but I need others to make >> them work more fully. I also seem to develop a tolerance >> to them. Over time, I'm taking the maximum doses allowable >> , supplimented by mood stableizers. >> >> A friend of mine is a Ph.D. in Early Child Development. >> She tells me that there is now scientific opinion, if not >> fact, that people of this description may actually be >> misdx'd, and are actually Asperger's. >> >> This is why I am exploring the possibilities. I have 2 >> doctors, a Psychiatrist and a Psychologist that are very >> open-minded about this and are asking for information >> from a first-person perspective. >> >> Thanks for the ear. >> >> Dave >> >> >> >> >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 29, 2006 Report Share Posted November 29, 2006 Dear All, Hi! I am a member of the group but don't often write but as the topic of co-exisitng conditions came up, I thought I'd post our experience if it helps anyone. I have a ten-year- old daughter who has Aspergers Syndrome, ADHD and Bipolar Disorder. Aspergers was the first diagnosis; probably both my husband and I have a twinge of it. Then in kindergarten she was diagnosed with ADHD (most likely I do too) and once on ritalin and then concerta to even out the dosage, she could slow down the impulsivity to make a good choice. If we'd not put her on something, she would not have been able to be in school as she hurt someone every day and it was awful. It's a bad combination to have trouble getting your words out and impulsivity when frustrated or angry. At the time she was also in speech therapy and occupational therapy and was treated by a child psychiatrist as the developmental pediatrician in the area was terrible. I also took an ADHD parenting class via a child psychologist. Still endured extreme behaviors. She also exhibited extreme OCD which we treated with Zoloft successfully. When we tried to take her off the Zoloft, the OCD came back full force. The doc tried changing medicine from Zoloft to one that would increase appetite but I can't recall the name of it. She didn't stay on it long. When we put her back on the Zoloft she immediately became manic, thinking she could fly and alternating with severe weepy depression which didn't stop when we stopped it almost immediately (turned out we have a close family member who is also bipolar). Since then we've had her on Trileptal for the bipolar disorder which worked pretty well alone for a good while and as recently the bipolar symptoms increased, we have had to add abilify. We tried Risperdal but while it did help a little, it was not as good as the abilify. If our experience helps anyone out there, I hope it does. I really don't like having to have all these medications but they are a necessary evil. She could not be in school without it. There are a few times I thought I'd have to hospitalize her. I'd say there are clear indications that she fits the diagnosis of all three. Wish she didn't and tried for a year to do just behavioral intervention to no avail. Meds were a last resort and the first was concerta which worked like a dream but nobody told us that after a while you'd have to add clonidine or the child can't sleep. Then of course the OCD came up and it was extremely debilitating and after at least six months had to be treated. Oh, forgot to mention...the Trileptal addressed both the OCD and the Bipolar Disorder. It was only prescribed for the Bipolar Disorder but had the nice effect of treating the OCD as well. The abilify I'd like to get her off of but am afraid to. She was in jeopardy of losing the ability to be in school again without it. The teacher was pulling her hair out. We have her on a teeny tiny dose and it is working. She'd become unable to function in school. No idea what was going on. No focus. We tried upping the Concerta but it didn't work at all; made her manic so dropped it back down to what was the old therapeutic dose that was like turning a switch on and off for her concentration and instead had to go with bipolar medds like the abilify. Hate that. The developmental ped seems to be at a loss where we live now as far as bipolar disorder and there is a new child psychiatrist that we'll start with who may be able to help more although she is very stable right now. It's very important to find good doctors. I've found it takes time to build up rapport and for them to get to know you. We are lucky to have a good special ed teacher and a full time aid who are well versed in AS. Makes a world of difference. I don't have a child who is hiding under the school building and a school who calls for me to pick her up daily anymore. She is in regular ed class full time and right now, knock on wood, aside from small interruptions in class from time to time, she is doing very well. IQ is of normal intelligence. I do think we sacrificed learning for the socialization of school. I was definitely able to teach her more and she would ace the standardized school tests which she's not doing since the school has been doing the educating. But as it's mainly a social skills disability, I felt she needed to be in society vs. home schooled. For what it's worth if this helps anyone... Take care, > > Hi Toni, and thanks. I'm glad you are out there to say " HI " . I saw my psychiatrist yesterday, and she is interested in hearing more about the co-morbidity of AS and AD/HD, and BiPolar. This aught to be interesting. I'll keep you informed. > > Re: ( ) Hello Everyone > > Hi and welcome. I have 18 yo twin boys that were > diagnosed aspergers two years ago. You very well could be > aspergers. One of my sons is bipolar,has anxiety disorder > and add. The other is OCD, depression, and anxiety so you > kind of sound like them. I know aspergers has a lot of > co-morbid diagnosis' that come along with it. You are lucky > you have found 2 good docs that are willing to be > openminded. One of my boys is medicated and the other > (bipolar one) is not. He had alot of difficulty finding the > right combo and gave up on meds all together. Ask any > questions you have and I am sure some of the bright helpful > people on here can help. Welcome again, Toni > > > > My name is . I'm not sure that this is the group for > > me, but in surfing around for support groups, I decided > > to check out some groups here in . > > > > I am a 49yo. guy with one child. She is 25yo. and is > > having many of the same issues as I. > > > > When I was about 6 or 7 years old I was dx'd dyslexic. In > > '87 I was dx'd Bi-Polar. Since then I have been dx'd ADD, > > having traits of OCD and BPD. I respond fairly well to > > the old traditional BP meds, but I need others to make > > them work more fully. I also seem to develop a tolerance > > to them. Over time, I'm taking the maximum doses allowable > > , supplimented by mood stableizers. > > > > A friend of mine is a Ph.D. in Early Child Development. > > She tells me that there is now scientific opinion, if not > > fact, that people of this description may actually be > > misdx'd, and are actually Asperger's. > > > > This is why I am exploring the possibilities. I have 2 > > doctors, a Psychiatrist and a Psychologist that are very > > open-minded about this and are asking for information > > from a first-person perspective. > > > > Thanks for the ear. > > > > Dave > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 2, 2006 Report Share Posted December 2, 2006 <<<<<<<<I found the 'bullseye' mark all over my body, but never developed the rash and I never got meningitis. The doctors constantly told me that I couldn't possibly have Lyme's because I never developed the 'common' symtoms. Kris>>>>>>>>>> Kris, The bullseye mark, where ever it shows up on your body is a definite dx of lyme disease!!!!!! Did you take pictures? Always take pictures. Always keep the tick and send it for testing. Always keep a list of your symptoms with dates. Meningitis doesn't surface in everyone with lyme disease nor does the bullseye or the rash. Common symptoms according to incompetent Drs...they believe you only have a few symptoms, fever and rash the top two. We know that it includes many, many, more!!!!!! I hope someone can help you with a Dr. in MD. I only know LLMD's in NJ. In the mean time, attack the spirochetes with natural abx, like olive leaf extract, garlic, etc. Stay away from sugar, they thrive on it...and drink, lots and lots of water!! If you can stand it, eat a clove of garlic a day....it will kill some of the bugs off and make sure you increase your water intake, so that you can flush the dead ones out of your body. You feel horrible with them alive in your body, you feel even worse when there is a big die-off.....so flush, flush, flush!! Good Luck Conniek nwnj Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 2, 2006 Report Share Posted December 2, 2006 <<<<<<<<I found the 'bullseye' mark all over my body, but never developed the rash and I never got meningitis. The doctors constantly told me that I couldn't possibly have Lyme's because I never developed the 'common' symtoms. Kris>>>>>>>>>> Kris, The bullseye mark, where ever it shows up on your body is a definite dx of lyme disease!!!!!! Did you take pictures? Always take pictures. Always keep the tick and send it for testing. Always keep a list of your symptoms with dates. Meningitis doesn't surface in everyone with lyme disease nor does the bullseye or the rash. Common symptoms according to incompetent Drs...they believe you only have a few symptoms, fever and rash the top two. We know that it includes many, many, more!!!!!! I hope someone can help you with a Dr. in MD. I only know LLMD's in NJ. In the mean time, attack the spirochetes with natural abx, like olive leaf extract, garlic, etc. Stay away from sugar, they thrive on it...and drink, lots and lots of water!! If you can stand it, eat a clove of garlic a day....it will kill some of the bugs off and make sure you increase your water intake, so that you can flush the dead ones out of your body. You feel horrible with them alive in your body, you feel even worse when there is a big die-off.....so flush, flush, flush!! Good Luck Conniek nwnj Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 13, 2006 Report Share Posted December 13, 2006 Hi Channing, Some of us replied to your previous e-mail (on-list). Did you have a chance to read those responses? You've held some of your jobs longer than I've held some of mine. 2 years is the average in social services. They may be talking about reasons for and circumstances around leaving the jobs. What is their reason for wanting to test so much? S S <p>I am a 35 years old female that has autism or aspergers syndrome that<br> is being treated mean in psych evaluations and IQ tests the way I am<br> treated mean in psych Evaluations and IQ Tests is:<br> <br> 1. People call me RETARDED<br> 2. People call me BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER<br> 3. People call me CRAZY<br> 4. People call me a MAJOR PSYCH PROBLEM THAT CANNOT HOLD A JOB- I had<br> jobs at Pizza hut which I was at from December 1988- May of 1991,<br> Nations Bank May 1991- July 1993 , a school Janitor from June of<br> 1995-May 2001 and Pizza Hut from October 2004-November 2005-HOW IS<br> THIS A MAJOR PSYCH PROBLEM THAT CANNOT HOLD A JOB<br> <br> they also treat me mean by keeping me with a bad record of 10 Mental<br> Hospitalazations and My 2 week time in Jail for Assault and Injury to<br> Real Property which was done in October of 2001<br> <br> I do not feel good getting treated mean- <br> <br> 1. How am I suppose to get my bad record cleaned and not be called<br> 1. RETARDED<br> 2. BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER<br> 3.CRAZY<br> 4. A MAJOR PSYCH PROBLEM THAT CANNOT HOLD A JOB<br> <br> and just be called autism or aspergers. <br> <br> And now my parents are looking for another psych test up to where I am<br> scared to have a psych test because I get called<br> 1. RETARDED<br> 2. BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER<br> 3. CRAZY<br> 4. A MAJOR PSYCH PROBLEM THAT CANNOT HOLD A JOB<br> <br> every time I have a psych test<br> <br> if you know some answers please e-mail me at <br> <br> <a href= " mailto:chanchan79%40excite.com " >chanchan79excite (DOT) <wbr>com</a><br> <a href= " mailto:channing28270%40gmail.com " >channing28270@<wbr>gmail.com</a><br> <a href= " mailto:channing28270%40myway.com " >channing28270@<wbr>myway.com</a><br> <a href= " mailto:channinga%40carolina.rr.com " >channingacarolina (DOT) <wbr>rr.com</a> <br> <br> _______________________________________________ Join Excite! - http://www.excite.com The most personalized portal on the Web! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 13, 2006 Report Share Posted December 13, 2006 Hello Channing, Have you ever considered a special diet that might help with your ability to control your behavior ? You might think about doing a Gluten Free diet for a month to see how that helps. If you have spells where your behavior gets you into trouble, maybe you could describe those to us and we might be able to help. I assume that you live with your parents, would you or they be willing to purchase some supplements such as Fish Oil which has been show to have a calming affect. Good Luck ! Neil _____ From: [mailto: ] On Behalf Of Shepard Salzer Sent: Wednesday, December 13, 2006 9:11 PM Subject: RE: [ ] Hello Everyone Hi Channing, Some of us replied to your previous e-mail (on-list). Did you have a chance to read those responses? You've held some of your jobs longer than I've held some of mine. 2 years is the average in social services. They may be talking about reasons for and circumstances around leaving the jobs. What is their reason for wanting to test so much? S S <p>I am a 35 years old female that has autism or aspergers syndrome that<br> is being treated mean in psych evaluations and IQ tests the way I am<br> treated mean in psych Evaluations and IQ Tests is:<br> <br> 1. People call me RETARDED<br> 2. People call me BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER<br> 3. People call me CRAZY<br> 4. People call me a MAJOR PSYCH PROBLEM THAT CANNOT HOLD A JOB- I had<br> jobs at Pizza hut which I was at from December 1988- May of 1991,<br> Nations Bank May 1991- July 1993 , a school Janitor from June of<br> 1995-May 2001 and Pizza Hut from October 2004-November 2005-HOW IS<br> THIS A MAJOR PSYCH PROBLEM THAT CANNOT HOLD A JOB<br> <br> they also treat me mean by keeping me with a bad record of 10 Mental<br> Hospitalazations and My 2 week time in Jail for Assault and Injury to<br> Real Property which was done in October of 2001<br> <br> I do not feel good getting treated mean- <br> <br> 1. How am I suppose to get my bad record cleaned and not be called<br> 1. RETARDED<br> 2. BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER<br> 3.CRAZY<br> 4. A MAJOR PSYCH PROBLEM THAT CANNOT HOLD A JOB<br> <br> and just be called autism or aspergers. <br> <br> And now my parents are looking for another psych test up to where I am<br> scared to have a psych test because I get called<br> 1. RETARDED<br> 2. BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER<br> 3. CRAZY<br> 4. A MAJOR PSYCH PROBLEM THAT CANNOT HOLD A JOB<br> <br> every time I have a psych test<br> <br> if you know some answers please e-mail me at <br> <br> <a href= " mailto:chanchan79%40excite.com " >chanchan79excite (DOT) <wbr>com</a><br> <a href= " mailto:channing28270%40gmail.com " >channing28270@<wbr>gmail.com</a><br> <a href= " mailto:channing28270%40myway.com " >channing28270@<wbr>myway.com</a><br> <a href= " mailto:channinga%40carolina.rr.com " >channingacarolina (DOT) <wbr>rr.com</a> <br> <br> _______________________________________________ Join Excite! - http://www.excite. <http://www.excite.com> com The most personalized portal on the Web! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 2, 2007 Report Share Posted January 2, 2007 hello i know what you are going i went though the same with my 4 year old at that age april /mark jr <mileman1951@...> wrote: Im new here and I am getting very frustrated with my 3 year old granddaughter . She is NOT talking but understands . For example I can tell her to get me something and she will etc. But she primarely just points when she wants something and jabbers . I have asked her to tell me what she wants but she gets upset when I do that and I just give in...yep im a chump . Im a softee to a cute blond haired blue eyed child ,or any child as far as that goes I guess .( I am a retired cop and consider myself a little tough ..except for children aggg im a marshmellow) I know she says a few basic words because ive heard them , but she just will not talk or will even try . Are there any ideas about what I may do to help with this problem . Thanks //// img scr=*http://i2.photobucket.com __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 2, 2007 Report Share Posted January 2, 2007 , I understand your frustration, and my husband, who is currently still on the job, would understand your " softee " attitude. However, that isn't enough when dealing with a little child who is language delayed. I am not sure on the circumstances with your grand daughter. Does she live with you? or her parents? Are her parents concerned as well? Sometimes parents are in denial, and that makes it more difficult for grandparents or other loved ones who recognize a problem. My adcvice is to buy the Late Talker Book, and visit the Cherab.Org webiste while waiting for you book. This will give you a better idea if Apraxia is what you are dealing with. Also, you can teach your grand daughter a few simple signs to help faciltate basic wants and needs. Such as " eat, drink, more, all done, play " I am not sure what state you are in, but you could try calling your counties Early Intervention program (typically it is birth to age 3) So not sure if that would work for you though... After EI, children transition into their public school systems for the Pre-school program where additional services can be implented. Such as Speech, occupatation therapy, and physical therapy. I hope this helps some... Dawn in NJ > > Im new here and I am getting very frustrated with my 3 year old > granddaughter . She is NOT talking but understands . For example I can > tell her to get me something and she will etc. But she primarely just > points when she wants something and jabbers . I have asked her to tell > me what she wants but she gets upset when I do that and I just give > in...yep im a chump . Im a softee to a cute blond haired blue eyed > child ,or any child as far as that goes I guess .( I am a retired cop > and consider myself a little tough ..except for children aggg im a > marshmellow) I know she says a few basic words because ive heard > them , but she just will not talk or will even try . Are there any > ideas about what I may do to help with this problem . > Thanks //// > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 2, 2007 Report Share Posted January 2, 2007 hello i know what you are going i went though the same with my 4 year old at that age april /mark jr <mileman1951@...> wrote: Im new here and I am getting very frustrated with my 3 year old granddaughter . She is NOT talking but understands . For example I can tell her to get me something and she will etc. But she primarely just points when she wants something and jabbers . I have asked her to tell me what she wants but she gets upset when I do that and I just give in...yep im a chump . Im a softee to a cute blond haired blue eyed child ,or any child as far as that goes I guess .( I am a retired cop and consider myself a little tough ..except for children aggg im a marshmellow) I know she says a few basic words because ive heard them , but she just will not talk or will even try . Are there any ideas about what I may do to help with this problem . Thanks //// img scr=*http://i2.photobucket.com __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 2, 2007 Report Share Posted January 2, 2007 , I understand your frustration, and my husband, who is currently still on the job, would understand your " softee " attitude. However, that isn't enough when dealing with a little child who is language delayed. I am not sure on the circumstances with your grand daughter. Does she live with you? or her parents? Are her parents concerned as well? Sometimes parents are in denial, and that makes it more difficult for grandparents or other loved ones who recognize a problem. My adcvice is to buy the Late Talker Book, and visit the Cherab.Org webiste while waiting for you book. This will give you a better idea if Apraxia is what you are dealing with. Also, you can teach your grand daughter a few simple signs to help faciltate basic wants and needs. Such as " eat, drink, more, all done, play " I am not sure what state you are in, but you could try calling your counties Early Intervention program (typically it is birth to age 3) So not sure if that would work for you though... After EI, children transition into their public school systems for the Pre-school program where additional services can be implented. Such as Speech, occupatation therapy, and physical therapy. I hope this helps some... Dawn in NJ > > Im new here and I am getting very frustrated with my 3 year old > granddaughter . She is NOT talking but understands . For example I can > tell her to get me something and she will etc. But she primarely just > points when she wants something and jabbers . I have asked her to tell > me what she wants but she gets upset when I do that and I just give > in...yep im a chump . Im a softee to a cute blond haired blue eyed > child ,or any child as far as that goes I guess .( I am a retired cop > and consider myself a little tough ..except for children aggg im a > marshmellow) I know she says a few basic words because ive heard > them , but she just will not talk or will even try . Are there any > ideas about what I may do to help with this problem . > Thanks //// > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2007 Report Share Posted January 9, 2007 Hi Marcie, welcome to the group. I am posting heavy right now (School doesn't start for me until next week!) and that is when I can take time to learn from the great parents of this group. I have to just make one comment on my 'underfocused' son that I homeschool. He loves tickles. So for every math problem, I will do 5 seconds of tickles. (but only if he does his best. It doesn't have to be perfect, but a good try!) We started that with reading, and then writing. He does well, and we change his reward (tickles. Tickles under a blanket. Tickle the feet) whatever it is that he wants. It keeps him motivated and he does A LOT of work for some fun with mom. At the end of the tickles, I count down with 10 seconds left. Back off, and say that's it. Unless you do more work. He RUNS to his books. *smiles* lisa B > > Hi, I'm Marcie. I am a SAHM to Ethan who is 6 and who just > turned 1. In April of 06 Ethan was diagnosed with Aspbergers. I was > in a place between horror and relief. Finally we could put a name > with some of his behaviors. For a long time, I thought that there > was something just not quite right about him. Everyone told me that > I should be happy that he is so smart and quiet and content. Anyhow, > I'm sure you all have long stories and as much as I would love to > share mine, I have a problem that I'm hoping to get some input on. > Ethan is having a horrible time with paying attention. Not just in > school but everywhere. Just before winter break he was doing time > telling in school and last night's homework had a spot to tell time > and he had no clue how to do it. It's like his brain is so full of > what he is interested in, there's no room for anything else. He's > super smart and I've had very few issues with him in the past but it > seems like the older he gets the more difficult he becomes. My > husband and I have talked about switching schools so that he will be > in a smaller classroom but something like that would really upset > him. He does have a wonderful teacher that is doing her very best to > help but she has 25 other children to look after. I would love to > hear any input that you all may have. What works to keep your > children focused and what about discipline, Ethan doesn't respond to > anything that i've come up with so far so i'd love some more ideas. > THanks so much > Marcie > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2007 Report Share Posted January 9, 2007 Hi Marcie, I was just thinking (uh-oh! LOL) that some kids actually have a hard time learning to tell time. Was that Ethan's problem or did he just not understand what he was to do with the homework assignment itself? So - what type things do you need to discipline him for? I ask that because sometimes the better thing to do might be to redirect them or to correct them with appropriate behavior in a situation.... Social stories have worked well for many too. Also with school or even at home, some kids need prompts to stay on task to finish. Or they might need reminders that time will be soon be up. Or - do you think the work is too easy for him? Well, just some quick thoughts this p.m.! Welcome to the group! single mom, 3 sons , 17, with OCD, dysgraphia and Aspergers > > Hi, I'm Marcie. I am a SAHM to Ethan who is 6 and who just > turned 1. In April of 06 Ethan was diagnosed with Aspbergers. I was > in a place between horror and relief. Finally we could put a name > with some of his behaviors. For a long time, I thought that there Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2007 Report Share Posted January 10, 2007 I home school my 12 yo and plan to home school my younger son when it becomes necessary (he is 7- it will be middle school at the latest) I love it and my daughter has blossomed like I've never thought she would. Socially, emotionally, mentally, academically. It's a whole change in lifestyle tho and it does take getting use to but I wouldn't ever change my decision to pull her out when middle school came into play. > > > > Hi, I'm Marcie. I am a SAHM to Ethan who is 6 and who just > > turned 1. In April of 06 Ethan was diagnosed with Aspbergers. I > was > > in a place between horror and relief. Finally we could put a name > > with some of his behaviors. For a long time, I thought that there > > was something just not quite right about him. Everyone told me > that > > I should be happy that he is so smart and quiet and content. > Anyhow, > > I'm sure you all have long stories and as much as I would love to > > share mine, I have a problem that I'm hoping to get some input on. > > Ethan is having a horrible time with paying attention. Not just in > > school but everywhere. Just before winter break he was doing time > > telling in school and last night's homework had a spot to tell > time > > and he had no clue how to do it. It's like his brain is so full of > > what he is interested in, there's no room for anything else. He's > > super smart and I've had very few issues with him in the past but > it > > seems like the older he gets the more difficult he becomes. My > > husband and I have talked about switching schools so that he will > be > > in a smaller classroom but something like that would really upset > > him. He does have a wonderful teacher that is doing her very best > to > > help but she has 25 other children to look after. I would love to > > hear any input that you all may have. What works to keep your > > children focused and what about discipline, Ethan doesn't respond > to > > anything that i've come up with so far so i'd love some more > ideas. > > THanks so much > > Marcie > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2007 Report Share Posted January 10, 2007 If he understands the assignment, use a sand timer (a big one, if needed). It helps my daughter and son focus...they get a treat if they beat the timer and do a good job. If he doesn't understand, don't force him to do it. I write on my son's paper " not modified " or " He did not understand this assigment, it was beyond his abilities at this time " ...only when needed tho. He doesn't get to play that card too often. lol > > > > Hi, I'm Marcie. I am a SAHM to Ethan who is 6 and who just > > turned 1. In April of 06 Ethan was diagnosed with Aspbergers. I > was > > in a place between horror and relief. Finally we could put a name > > with some of his behaviors. For a long time, I thought that there > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 10, 2007 Report Share Posted January 10, 2007 Hi Marcie, My son is 6 1/2 and has the same problem with attention. He has an aide (tss is what it is called in PA) full time at the school with him and it is a HUGE help. He is also in a small class (16 kids) At home for attention I will use small rewards of things that he likes... in small steps, ex. if he does 3 problems I will draw a picture of something that he likes (he loves to draw) Tammy > > Hi, I'm Marcie. I am a SAHM to Ethan who is 6 and who just > turned 1. In April of 06 Ethan was diagnosed with Aspbergers. I was > in a place between horror and relief. Finally we could put a name > with some of his behaviors. For a long time, I thought that there > was something just not quite right about him. Everyone told me that > I should be happy that he is so smart and quiet and content. Anyhow, > I'm sure you all have long stories and as much as I would love to > share mine, I have a problem that I'm hoping to get some input on. > Ethan is having a horrible time with paying attention. Not just in > school but everywhere. Just before winter break he was doing time > telling in school and last night's homework had a spot to tell time > and he had no clue how to do it. It's like his brain is so full of > what he is interested in, there's no room for anything else. He's > super smart and I've had very few issues with him in the past but it > seems like the older he gets the more difficult he becomes. My > husband and I have talked about switching schools so that he will be > in a smaller classroom but something like that would really upset > him. He does have a wonderful teacher that is doing her very best to > help but she has 25 other children to look after. I would love to > hear any input that you all may have. What works to keep your > children focused and what about discipline, Ethan doesn't respond to > anything that i've come up with so far so i'd love some more ideas. > THanks so much > Marcie > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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